I have a friend who's husband after an illness is infertile, she is desperate to have a child and is considering a sperm doner as funds are limited and private clinics are working out to be very expensive, she is worried however about taking this route, can any one offer any advise, she is 37yrs old.Thanks.
2006-10-16 03:25:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
i have to agree with the person who said that this might harm their marriage. a lot of married couples who have this problem (with the husband being infertile) and go get donor sperm to cover his problems, end up divorced. the husband can't take that his wife picked someone over him (even tho it was impossible for him to do anything about it...men). anyways. if you don't believe me, maybe you should after i tell you that i myself am donor-conceived and know many people who have had this situation. it's a very risky situation. so they have that counting against them, but also they have this: have they considered yet what the child will feel about being donor conceived? like i said, i'm a product of a sperm donor. i wish i weren't. am i grateful to be alive? of course, but if i could have been born any other way, i'd choose that in a heart beat. however, that's not my choice and never was. but i can speak for the majority of all of us offspring that we would all have rathered been born from normal circumstances and had a chance to know our fathers (and our siblings). i know that being born in this way is not how any child ought to be. it is hell growing up not knowing if every man on the street could be "him" or having to ask every person you date what their dad did in his past (to make sure you're not dating your half-sibling). and wondering about all your potential half-siblings out there is crazy too...
these are just SOME of the issues to think about with this...there are many more...
if you would like more information, please message me, as i can refer you to many more donor conceived people and give you resources on the results of donor conception
2006-10-16 17:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by luckyturtle788 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It might be worth your friend talking to her fella about this because the whole infertily thing is a huge obessesion to men and if your friend goes to a sperm bank and gets pregnant he might not be to impressed, your friend could be raising the child on her own! However I'm sure if its talked out first he'll be fine about it, good luck to your friend!
2006-10-16 04:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Late aged pregnancy is very risky. Maybe she should try a clinic but with her age, she is less fertile so the chances of her getting pregnant is 50/50
2006-10-16 03:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by HunnyMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should do it, her and her hubby can save money for a while then go to a clinic or health facility and pick through the sperm donors, they can go through the pregnancy together just like it would be his own child and have a new baby to raise. my dad raised my sister like she was his own cause she has a dead beat dad, and he s treated her no different from me. he loves us, our mom was lucky to find someone to help her at such a young age.so they should do it when theyre ready
2006-10-16 16:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by nicky l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clinics are the only safe route to go unless you find a willing man to donate if this is what shes thinking then she must make him have a HIV test then she has to consider that if she knows the man he will not want to have nothing to do with the baby
2006-10-16 03:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the day when this sort of situation arose men just 'farmed' their wives out to a close friend or brother to do the job.... I bet thats pretty cheap.
2006-10-16 03:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of your superb guess is to pass the surgeon who might refer you to a fertility hospital. i would not do something stupid like using the internet to discover donors - the sperm better than possibly hasn't been examined as being "healthy" and likewise there's a severe possibility of AIDS. reliable success and want you have a satisfied destiny.
2016-10-19 11:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by briscoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they really want a baby go for it. my youngest son isn't biologically my fiance's but you would never know there is so much love there. After 35 you are considered high risk for pregnancy. So if I were her i would try and hurry up children are great
2006-10-16 03:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by my babies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m sure you can get this on the nhs, but it is a long wait, and depends what area of the country you live.
She should speak to her doctor
2006-10-16 03:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by scragette2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it almost sounds like your on here to find some guy for her which is defiantly not safe..there are so many not normal people out there..plus if you just find some random guy,how would she know if he has an illness in his family..id tell her to adopt there are some many children in homes that need to be adopted
2006-10-16 03:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋