what do you guys think about a temp seperation. me and my husband just had a baby and he isnt happy and thinks that he needs to go stay with his friend for a while.
2006-10-16 03:01:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the baby brought on some issues that he wasn't expecting and needs to get over. This same thing happened to me. We broke up, have gotten back together and things couldn't be better. Most men need some time to grow up and the baby shocks them into it!
2006-10-16 03:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left home too, and I think it was good. My husband and I are now planning a trip (like a honey moon trip) in order to get together again and see where we can go from there...
Anyway during the separation time I got to start working again (to pay my bills!) and I have created new habits, new attitudes, new interests, new groups of friends, etc. All of this has made me more interesting to my husbands eyes, but honestly, I dont know if it is worthy to give up my 'new life' in order to be with him again... My advice is: let him go or things could get worse between the two of you. Just try not to make it too long, or he could start on building a 'new life' for himself, excluding you and the baby. I can say you are a strong woman! Keep this way :-D
2006-10-16 10:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't give up that easily hun. Fight for your marriage. Try and keep him. Don't give into a separation. Your new baby needs a mommy and daddy staying together. Do counseling, Do something. Don't go down that road it would be very hard onyou more less the baby. You actually need each other now that the baby is born. I have been there and iknow what your going through. Big hug to ya hun and goodluck.
2006-10-16 10:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's silly!
You just had a baby and he should be proud. Loving and comforting to you 'cause giving birth had got to hurt. You gave him something that will stay for the rest of his life.
I myself had a prob when my wife first came home...it was all about the baby (She's 23 now) and I felt left out.
I went thu the same thing and then I realized what just happened...my entire life just changed and I stood up to the plate.
2006-10-16 10:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this time in your life, he needs to stand up and be a man and stick by you and the baby, running out on you now is cowardly. Sorry if that hurts, but leaving you when you have just had a baby? Sounds very fishy to me.
2006-10-16 10:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is getting the baby blues and is not ready to take on the responsibility of an infant, this is the perfect time to ask him what he truly wants and make it clear to him that you and the baby are his first priority and should step up to the responsibilities because his family should come first instead of his friends.
2006-10-16 10:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe a temp. separation is OK. This will give both of you a little time to see where the marriage stands. If you or him is happier with out each other, then it was meant to be.
2006-10-16 10:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to suck it up and be a dad!!!! That's totally selfish and irresponsible for him to want to do that. Who does he think he is??? Guys like that really give men a bad name. He should be there with you, feeding, holding, playing, changing diapers (even the poopy ones!) That's what being a parent, and a MAN is all about!!!
2006-10-16 10:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are selfish and really little boys with bigger penises-if you're lucky.
Just wait it out, you'll know soon enough if he's worth hanging on to.
A new baby is a WAY bigger shock for men than women, they do not possess the maternal instinct we do...so it takes longer for a real connection between the man and his child to form. He may just be scared.
2006-10-16 10:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sticky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a bad sign. A marriage is about sticking together and finding solutions to any and every problem. If he needs time away, that is bad news.
2006-10-16 10:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋