I had a misscarriage back in January, this pregnancy means soo much to me. I told my bf of two years that I was pregnant again and hes doing everything to try to convince me to have an abortion. He even told me that if I keep the baby that hes going to leave me . I am soo scared I dont know what to do, I know he wont leave me and the baby but I dont want him to have this attitude towards my pregnancy. PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-10-16 03:00:44 · 17 answers · asked by tnr4eva181 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It might have been a good idea to have been having sex with a man who was willing to accept responsibility for a baby you conceived with him.
If he feels this way, why were you having sex with him? If you didn't know he felt like this, you should have known him better!
Good Luck with this pregnancy and with your choice of men in the future.
2006-10-16 15:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i feel like u should have the baby because abortion is wrong. If he dont want to take care of the baby then put his *** up 4 child support. If he dont want a baby then he shouldnt be having sex or he should be using protection. So whether he's there 4 the baby or not i think u really should have that child because it's not the child's fault that he was made and i think his life shouldnt be taken away because of the father decision.
2006-10-16 03:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if the pregnancy really means alot to you then KEEP IT!!! but think of the baby whether you stay with your b/f or not! he doesnt sound very enthuastic to be a dad, and I wouldnt want that kind of dad for my child, I personally grew up for a while with out a dad, and for a while I grew up with an a$$hole for a dad, I defidently perferred no dad, than an a$$hole dad! This is the time when your b/f needs to be there for you the most! and since he's doing the complete opposite, leave his ***! raise your beautiful child to your best ability! If it's possible find a great daddy for your child, because its important for a child to have both parents, but not neccisary, just do your best girl, and dont abort! good luck! take care! byby
2006-10-16 03:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by justachick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on being pregnant, but Im sorry you have an as*ho*e of a boyfriend. First of all, if he didn't want you to get pregnant, he should have taken a little more precaution. Also it is your body, and I feel that it is your decision on what you want to do. It took two to make that baby, but if it comes down to it, it only needs one person to love it, and take care of it. If he is going to leave you or threaten to leave you because you want to a baby that is part of both of you, then you dont need to be with him anyways. In the end it is your decision, but dont do something that you are going to regret for the rest of your life. You can always find a new boyfriend, but you will never get this baby back, if you kill it.
2006-10-16 03:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to make the decision as to whether you are truly willing to raise this baby alone. Maybe he is scared, maybe he is not ready. Either way, until the time comes, you can not be certain of his intentions. He may stay with you, and he may not. If you want this baby, can you raise this child alone? Financially, emotionally, physically....you cannot force him to be involved, so look at the big picture before you make any decisions that could affect the life of this child. If you cannot do it, consider adoption - not abortion.
2006-10-16 03:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am of mixed emotions as I send my response. I am happy for you being pregnant and that it means so much to you. I am very saddened that the baby's father wants you to destroy this child. I have always been of the opinion that your children come before anyone else. Men don't take ultimatums very well. You say you know that he won't leave you and the baby. My question to you is this. Why do you want him to stay? Anyone who wants to destroy their own child would not make a very good father, in my opinion. My advice would be for you to end this relationship as soon as possible. There are plenty of single parents that do just fine by themselves. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2006-10-16 03:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. Your bf sounds like an asshole and a poor excuse for a man. Keep the baby and let him regret his decision for the rest of his life. You do not need a man like that. You can do this alone!!! As far as your boyfriend is concerned, he was there at conception and if he did not want a baby he should of thought about that and used a condom.
2006-10-16 04:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do now is focus on yourself and your unborn child, keep healthy and don't let your bf make you do something you don't want to. You need to keep stress away. Pregnancy is such a beautiful thing to go through. Stand firm on your beliefs, he may or may not come around, so prepare yourself and show him your gonna do it with or with out him. Congratulations and I hope everything go's well. Remember to take care of yourself.
2006-10-16 03:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, he may be afraid to get excited because of the last miscarriage. men express themselves differently than we do. then again, he may not really be ready for a child yet. he may or may not ever come around to being excited and or happy. just take one day at a time and take care of you & your unborn child the best you can. that's all you can ask for right now. dont stress over him, let go and let god handle it. congrats and i'm praying for you to have a healthy, happy pregnancy. with or without him. :)
2006-10-16 03:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Meli 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that its easier said then done but try not to stress out too much! and that guy is a jerk don't let him talk you into an abortion you get to decide that! Since he is being such a big jerk you would just be better without him!
2006-10-16 03:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by xochelsxo16 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋