your friends and relatives??????.....when somebody come to visit he is always rude and barely talk with the people!!! that makes me feel embarrased and he dont get it!!!
2006-10-16 02:43:17 · 9 answers · asked by haki 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your best bet is to not invite your friends or relatives to the house. You can compensate for not having them at your house by contributing more to any expenses with them
Tell your husband where you are going. Tell him why you are going there.
Give him the choice of you traveling to meet your family or him better tolerating your family in the house by having him go to a movie while they are there. Make the issue his decision.
If he says that he does not want you to go and he does not want them at your house, tell him that you would be happy to pay for him to go see a movie while they visit your house, if that would be a better compromise.
If he says that he does not want to leave the house to see a movie so that the others can be there, then explain to him that you are compromising such that he does not have to see your friends and relatives, so he could please compromise that you can go see your relatives without him.
Make the decision his. Gently explain his two choices of 1) he goes to the movies, or 2) You go to your parents and friends house. Tell him that you will accept either decision equally as well, but that you are offering the choice of him never seeing your friends again, so he could be nice and offer to accept either 1) or 2) above.
See how that goes.
2006-10-16 03:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by bird_brain_88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn him. Learn how he responds to strangers. Ask him what is comfortable with him interms of your friends visiting. Some people are just quiet and wiered around strangers. Inside him he could be struggling with what to say and how to say it especially being that they are your friends and relatives to whom he clearly needs to be nice to.
Talk to him about it. In a calm and loving manner. When your friends are coming ask him if its ok with him or if he would rather you meet them somewhere else. Also check if you spend time more time with your friends than you do with him or you treat relatives better than you do him coz maybe he is reacting to something more underlying than just being hospitable to your family and friends. (There is usually more to it than meets the eye)
While your friends are around, respect his wishes of not wanting to mingle with them. Let him do what he wants and let him be aware of that by the space you give him. This doesnt mean you ignore him, but allow him to be him and try not to be mean to him infront of them. Give him a chance to decide what he wants- he will slowly change his ways- of he doesn't- maybe its just a marriage burden that you will have to carry for the rest of your life- so don't let it affect you at all by being rude or angry.
All the best. Let us know what happens!
2006-10-16 02:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by jrema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same exact way ( well his not rude to them but deffenetly doesnt speak to them ) I mean is it because he has a reasond to not like them ? or he just doesnt want to embarise himself ? I mean it can be alot of reasonds. Its very hard when you try to have friends and your husbands acts this way. The truth is that at the end of the day, your goin to end up picking your husbands werd over eveyone else's. You can just let it be and don't pay mind to it, thats what I do. Does type of men really, theres nothing you can do to make them change.
2006-10-16 02:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he shy or not? If he is, he may just need time to get to know them. If not, how rude! Is not talking to them what you consider rude? If so he just needs to warm up. If there is more like rude comments he could just be a jelous %$# hole! Be sure he doesn't cause you to lose your friends, or affend your family. Tell him how much they mean to you and if he wants to be a part of your life he needs to respect them. Be sure to let him know he is important as well.
2006-10-16 02:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I KNOW WHAT U MEAN MY HUSBAND IS LIKE THAT WHEN WE HAVE VISITORS TOO, BUT THATS THE WAY HE IS HE IS REALLY QUIET, SO IF UR HUBBY IS NOT LIKE THAT NORMALLY U MIGHT WANT TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT. OR DO THE SAME TO HIM BE RUDE TO HIS FAMILY TOO AND TRUST ME HE IS NOT GONNA LIKE IT I HAVE DONE THIS TO MY HUBBY B4 AND IT WORKED
2006-10-16 02:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
que significa lol?????
hay que buscar la forma en que se puedan llevar mejor realizando actividades en las que se puedan relacionar, como juegos de naipes, deportes.
fomenta esas actividades
responde a mi pregnta!!!!
2006-10-17 01:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to leave when they come he is always going to be rude to these people because he thinks he has to empower you,he is a ***
2006-10-16 02:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to tell you what you can do:
1.talk wth him about himself
2.breakup for a time
3.or tell to him this:
what the asshoole fat pig!!!
allright ciao!!!!!
bye cuidat
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2006-10-16 16:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when hes around his friends or who ever just do what he does when your introducing him to other people. imitate him and if he says something about it just tell him that your only imitating him when hes around your peoplesz
2006-10-16 02:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by L00KiN F0R MR. RiGHT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋