I have a situation on which I would be interested in some opinions. As I tried to leave for work the other morning a large delivery truck pulled up in the road by my flats and reversed so it was blocking the exit from our car park (very out of order in the first place). After looking in suprise at the driver and frowning I finally went over and said "Excuse me, could you move I need to get out" - he smirked and said "you're not very polite are you?" - I had been perfectly polite. There were a couple more rude comments from him before he finally moved. I was so cross I took his number plate and reported it to his company. A couple of people at work thought I was very amusing for doing this and that I over-reacted, however, I felt that if you let this sort of thing go then these people will carry on being rude and it will just get more widespread.
What might you have done? Was I right or should I have let his rudeness pass?
2006-10-16 02:36:16 · 25 answers · asked by peggy*moo 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
In answer to a few comments:
- I'm not still worked up about it, I was just curious as to other opinions as my work mates were so disparaging.
- I didn't say 'please, but I did say 'excuse me' so still perfectly polite - so was my tone of voice.
2006-10-16 03:05:04 · update #1
I was put in the exact same situation a couple of weeks ago and I was kind ebough to ask them to move but I was met with verbal abuse, swearing, personal comments and told to go back tovwhere I came from! (yorkshire).
I should have called the police but never thought, I was in shock I think!
You did the right thing and I can't for 1 minute think why they would call you rude! As far as I can tell, it seems to be the fashion to make as many people feel terrible as you go through your day!
If this is the case, I'm not joining in and I'm not laughing at people on the receiving end.
It beggars belief!
2006-10-16 02:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the very same thing. As a delivery driver he should have been aware that he was blocking the exit and not parked there in the 1st place no matter how long he thought he would have been. If there was an emergency, how would they have responded? Was it a white van man by any chance? LOL and well done!
2006-10-16 02:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by sue l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I probably wouldn't have reported him, but I'm just lazy. I definitely would have asked him to move though, as I'm sure everyone else would have.
I think you did a good thing. Delivery truck drivers should know where they can or cannot park.
I don't think you were rude in the least bit. He was probably just annoyed because he was trying to take a short-cut and you weren't letting him because he was wrong.
2006-10-16 02:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly were polite in the way you asked....and many times it's not just the words you use, but the tone of voice you use (and you're the only person who knows the answer to that), then I think you did exactly the right thing. Companies don't want badly mannered people representing them, makes for bad publicity!
2006-10-16 02:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as it made you feel better then yes you did the right thing. I always get worked up in these situations (when dealing with rudeness) and feel my adrenaline really pumping. I always feel much better when i do something about it coz you just spend the rest of the day wishing i'd done something. Rude people need to be told. It might be that we've caught them on a bad day (and we all have them) but they don't have any right to be rude to others!! hope this helps
2006-10-16 02:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the first bit of attitude from the driver I would have take the phone number off the truck and gone back inside and called his boss to instruct him to move the vehicle and if his boss gave me the slightest bit of attitude I'd call the police. Obstructing traffic is not legal in my country and delaying people during commuting hours is not to be tollerated.
Make no mistake you did nothing to make the world a better place by reporting his rudeness. His boss told him you reported him and he's likely even more disgruntled and unhelpful because of it spreading the attitude to others and taking it home to his family. But it's not your responsibility to make him treat others better.
2006-10-16 02:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying you are wrong or right - but its obvious this is still getting to you now. You should learn to let some things go otherwise you'll give yourself a heart attack through stress. It may be that you thought you were calm and polite but were actually coming across as irate and thats why the driver reacted the way he did. Whatever happens, calm down coz you'll never have to see him again.
2006-10-16 02:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing by reporting that ignorant person, I would have done the same thing too, what gives them the right to just do what they want and then whinge when you confront them, a little bit of courtesy costs nothing and goes a long way, hopefully he will have realised this by the end of the day and realise that if he had shown you a bit of courtesy he wouldn't have been balled out by his boss, manners cost nothing do they.
2006-10-16 03:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you did it. Don't know if I would have actually reported him but you probably did the right thing. People seem to be rude in stages. Each time they get away with it they'll try going one step further the next time. But this bloke sounds like a pleb with no brain so don't worry yerself over it.
2006-10-16 02:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by Warlock Fiend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I regard tolerance and patience as the two great vices. They are the crutches uses by people who are unwilling to take action in these type of situations. When a person behaves in an inconsiderate and selfish manner, I believe that he or she loses the right to be dealt with civilly.
e.g.. Those who block walk ways and doorways by standing in groups chatting.
Well done you!
2006-10-16 02:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋