me a tomboish girl (thats what my frnds tell me) i just got into a relation with a nice guy who thinks i am perfect for him. bt i noway feel that way. i think he deserve a better good nice girle girl.
but exactly is being a tomboy psychological prob?? how to improve over it??
2006-10-16 02:00:40 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, I'm a 35 year old tomboy. And in no way do I think some high maintenance girly-girl is better for my man than me. Tomboy's are perfect for men, and you should believe in that. 1) you can play rough and tough and yet still be a girl; 2) you can get into sports, and still be a girl; 3) you can climb a tree and yet still be a girl.
See!!! Tomboys are THE PERFECT fit for a guy. Trust me, I'm engaged to a man that loves the fact I'm a tomboy, especially since he is divorced from his high-maintenance girly-girl.
2006-10-16 02:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hope you are ok and well. To be honest being a tomboish girl isn't that big of problem but lets tackle each question by itself.
1- if that boy likes the way you are...you don't have the right to decide if you are good enough for him or not..If you like him then go girl.
2- it wouldn't hurt to work a bit on your looks, I am not asking you to wear skirts and high heels, but a least if you wear baggy pants or jeans, stop doing that and wear some tighter pants. same things goes for shirts....
3-Being a tomboy is not really pshycological, I think you have a small self confidence problem, you are not comfortable with your body...just remember that you are beautiful the way you are you don't need to hide it in baggy manish pants...you can be the GIRL that you dream to be...If you are still at school it wouldn't hurt to talk to a teacher or a counselor or even your mum to help you fo step by step into a small makeover....
2006-10-16 09:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Panda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he liked you for you didn't he? If he wanted a nice girly girl, he wouldn't be with you now. =)
Hey, it's cool being a tomboy. Makes you good fun to hang out with and easier to be with as well.. (that's entirely my own opinion).
There's a time and a place for everything of course. There are times when you have to be a girl, but I wouldn't call being a tomboy a problem.
You're probably a lot closer to your mum than your dad (therefore to impress her you become more like dad - vice versa for boys). (Speculating, this may not always be the case)
But before I go off on some dumb tangent, as cliche'd as it may sound, just be yourself. You like being you, don't you? Just have fun (within limits). After all, if he doesn't like you for you, then why bother being in a relationship at all? Sure there are some things you might have to change/tolerate, but in essence, you both should have liked each other's personality to be with each other. Oh and one more thing, love yourself before you start loving others.
2006-10-16 09:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by demi-kun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! Nothing needs to be improved. He's probably right your perfect! I myself would love a "tomboy". All that means is that you like stuff guys like, don't have the prudish problems too many prissy women have. You can be his best friend as well as his lover...man am I jealous! Hey if you don't want him, I want you ok? Just let me know! The worst thing in the world you could do is change...be yourself he just said you were perfect why would you want to change perfection? BE YOURSELF!!!
2006-10-16 09:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most of the answers r in ur favour & its good also.But reality is different in our soceity no one likes tomboy girl specially after marriage.Bf who is liking u now may show no interest in u bcz of u stiffness,he can be attracted to any homely or girl with full of femininism.
Tell me wht u really think who is tomboy if ur concept is clear i can help u.
2006-10-16 10:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by jaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a tomboy mean u wear the same clothers as boy do.no one think they will every see u in a dress with make up and hair all done up.
belive me i was one when i was at school,it was'nt until the nite before i let school when i was at my school prom was that everyone were surprize that i all dress up posh gear.by the way the prom was the best nite i had with my school. i hope this wil help u with this answer
2006-10-16 09:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way being tom boyish is good
becozhaving our own identity and nature is good if it causes no harm!
and that too now a days being tomboyish isnt troo bad or funny its cool andnessesary as we get many things to learn like boldness ad freeness
what we are we should remain the same
untill it has no thing causing to behave us as a bad natured person so i think u
r good bold and a tention free kind of person!
keep it up
cause!
i m too a bit like this!
2006-10-16 09:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by anvesha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
A Girl who behaves like boy.
Most girls with lots of older brothers develops such tendency. Children mimic their older sibling. Some dress like boys, rough hose like boys, fight like boys.... They could be otherwise like most girls and all grow out of it.
In some cases, if a girl is the only girl in a small neighbourhood, and constantly in boys company, tends to behave like a boy.
2006-10-16 09:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a tomboy is nothing wrong with that. im a tomboy and my boyfriend loves it. I do alot of stuff with him but whent the time is right i dress to impresss and do it well. so just accept yourself.
2006-10-16 09:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Nell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem at all- unless you think so.
Do you feel the need to evolve and become better or more of something else. Go ahead if you want- Its your life!!
2006-10-16 09:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋