Are there any other young women out there who cant have kids ??

Question

I was 14 when I was diagnosed with MRKH. I had to travel to London to have a histerectamy.
I'm 19 now and when the time comes to have sex for the first time I've been told I have to go back to London for reconstructive procedures before hand.
I was never really bothered by babies before but I was only 14.
Now whenever I see a child I almost break down.
I know adoption and surrogacy are options and I'm fine with that but it's starting to really bother me now.
It's such a young age to learn something like that.

My family have been great but I have never told any friends.
I haven't felt the need to tell them

I don't feel the need now either. When the time is right I 'll tell them

Just wondering if any of you have the same problem.

Answer 1

No i havent and im sorry hun.
i think you dont need to tell anyone other than ppl you want to and when you want to! there is not set rules on what you have to tell ppl about urself when its to do with stuff like that, and, i think that as long as u are comfortable in telling ppl then thats fine, but it shouldnt make anyone treat you any differently hun.
and its totally natural to feel upset about it as you have had the chance of something special taken away, but thank god you are alive still and like you say you can adopt etc and think of the life you will give a less fortunate child/ren. i respect you for being so strong and getting through this at such a young age! you are stronger than you think hun xxxxxx

Answer 2

when I was 15 I was told it was going to be extremely hard to have children .. I broke down I couldn't understand I never really wanted kids until I was 30 any way but it made me think about it way before my time.. so I know how you feel. I thought about adoption and I was always open to it though I know its not quite the same has birthing your own .. but from what I have seen from other women. when you hold that baby in your arms for the first time it is yours and you love it and it loves you more than anything else it doesn't matter who carried it. I am now 24 and luckily for me I fell pregnant I did loose the baby but at least I know I have a chance and my husband and I are trying again we have decided that we are still going to adopt a toddler aged child as I feel strongly about it having been thinking about it for nearly 10 years. I am sorry for what has happened. but try not to think about it and enjoy life. You will have that family nothing is impossible in this day and age

Answer 3

I feel for you. You are 19 though. What if you meet a guy and you are very interested in each other. He proposes, you get married and then you both PRAY PRAY PRAY! Prayer is key because God is bigger than ANYTHING and any problem. Honestly, he is. Do things the right way. If you do become pregnant now, then to what avail if you're a singlemom on the street? Doctors can say "blah blah blah", but there is ALWAYS a way. Don't you hear about people who have gotten the "Shot" and still they get pregnant, or people who take the pill and are still pregnant. People who had they tubes tied, and STILL they had a baby. Just trust in God. He knows the desires of your heart. If you have a bible read "Psalm 37:4" and hold on to it.

Answer 4

No I do not have the same problem but I have a friend that had that similar problem. She was devastated but as time passed she moved on. She decided if she could not have children then she would adopt children. It has worked out for the best to her. She tries to look on the positive sides of it. One of the best to her, she told me, is not having to go through labor and going labor is hell. If she doesn't let this bother her, then you should not either. You can always have children, but you will just have them through other options. The world is not over. . .yet.

Answer 5

Although I'm not your age ... my adopted son just graduated from HS last June ... I feel your pain.

I have found that the pain never goes away - it's how you deal with it. I had 3 miscarriages and I mourn them still. It seems so unfair doesn't it. If you want child - I would start at an early age to look into adoption. I'm never regretted one day adopting my son - he's my life.

Please know that there are other women who feel your pain .... I've always hated going to baby showers,etc. Even now I'm too old even to consider having babies - it still hurts.

LK

Answer 6

You have my full sympathy there, I am pretty sure I can't have kids either, I have never been able to get pregnant and am now 30, so it is looking highly likely that I can't. To be honest with you I am not totally devastated, I just want to know so I can make plans for the future, the adoption process is so long that I have already started.