Why is The youth of today so rude?

Question

At our visit to a local theme park, we notice that some of “the youth of today” seem really out of hand. On 2 occasions we were watching some sideshow acts. At the first one a lad around 12 was being very rude to the performers. You could tell the crowd we getting upset with him, and then more of his friends joined in this banter. And at the second it was a young girl around 13 , she was telling the act to F-Off and that they are perverts. There was nothing wrong with the act. It was a magic show. The people we putting pins etc through their skin. But she picked the wrong act to pick on. The act when out of their way to show the girl up, and it worked. She walked of and the crowned cheered. It was so funny. It was so sad that is what we have come too? All throughout the day, so of these teenagers were doing drugs as you could smell it as you walked by, there was a fight with a group over jumping a Q. What has gone wrong? Are the parents letting their kids do this at home? I am only 33

I am only 33 and I would never have behaved like this when I was out. I have never been rude to strangers. How can we stop this before more and more kids act like this?

Answer 1

Unfortunately there is no clear-cut answer for this question. A person's personality is made up of too many different factors to determine exactly what makes these youth act the way they do.

One could say it is the parents' fault, societies' fault, or maybe just the lack of any real consequences for rude acts like these.

Mainly I think it is the change in the way children view the outside world. It's a combination of video games, television, and lack of attention from their parents among other things that make them lose touch with what other people feel when they act rude.

Are parents lettings their kids do this? Many of them are! Many kids blatantly get away with talking back to their parents these days. This isn't necessarily because the parents are bad but maybe more because they fear how society would see them if they were to react in a harsh manner to the way their children behave.

I'm sorry these kinds of things are out there, but that doesn't stop the fact that not all youth is bad these days. I'm only 20 myself and can attest to many of my peers being very mature and respectful (but not all). The best thing is to ignore these kids, you know how they feed off of their victims.

Best Regards,
Zach

Answer 2

Sadly I believe its the same old story - too much money and too little sense. Parents must have given these idiots the money to get to and into the theme park - also the money for drugs I expect - even if unwittingly. With so many parents working all hours its easier to pay them to go away than have to amuse them. Its all very well paying them off but without parental guidance through life this is what happens. Parents need to find a way of bringing together the family unit again to teach this kids respect for themselves and others. At the moment parents dont want to do it, schools dont want to do it so the kids are dragging themselves up until the point they get into trouble and then they rebel against the police doing it.

Answer 3

I don't believe that the 'youth of today' are any better or worse than the youth of the past. Its good that you were never rude or aggressive as a youth, but that doesn't mean that there were not any unruly youths around when you and I were young! People have different temperaments and personalities and its not relative to the decades in which they grow up, its simply how they are. We sometimes look at the past through rose-tinted specs and forget that people (young and old) were as good and bad then as they are now.

Answer 4

It's a sad example of the effect of lack of discipline. I too was taught please and thank you, and to generally be polite to others. At 13, I would never have DREAMED of swearing even in front of my parents, let alone in a public place. I think it's just indicative of the fact that parents don't know how to bring up their children any more (hence all the "Supernanny" programs), and you can bet your life that if my son is ever caught behaving in that manner he'd be VERY severely punished.. although I would hope that my son has been brought up to respect others and not behave in such a loutish way.

Answer 5

As a parent of a 13 yr old girl...I can guarantee you this wouldn't be my child, she wouldn't see past her room for a very long time...after she had her mouth cleansed.

I think a lot of parents are scared in today's society to discipline their children, there was a point when the community would ensure discipline for young people by contacting the parents, it's difficult to do that now. Children are more aware of their rights & unfortunately misinterpret them in some cases.

Answer 6

Children are not held accountable, because the parents are just as rude as the children. They are not teaching the children any manners or respect. And if you contact the parents they are in such deep denial that their children are behaving badly. It is a really pathetic reality within our society today. The children are growing up and learning left at their own devices they are making very bad choices. There are no bad children it is bad parenting. They are looking for attention. God bless

Answer 7

They are Whiny, arrogant, rude, violent, no respect, poor sportmanship, ill-mannered, ungrateful, defiant , but you know what else, these kids are also miserable. . So whose fault is it?
Such disgraceful behavior in young children predicts serious problems later in life. Tthey are more likely to drop out of school, use drugs, engage in delinquency and be clinically depressed, begin having sex way too early. It then turns into road rage, commuter rage and office rage, domestic violence. it seems to me that many out-of-control children are growing up to be out-of-control adults.

Why are there so many out-of-control children today? Many explanations have been proposed: high-sugar diets, environmental toxins, allergies, television, psychiatric disorders. In considering these theories, it is useful to note that the rise in outrageous child behavior is largely an American phenomenon. Wow, how shameful is that ?

I believe it is Parents, public schools, TV, society...The teachers blame the Parents, the Parents blame the Teachers, The mayor blames society..and on it goes. Well, I am a Parent, A Teacher. And also a Christian. I know that my belief system helpd me a great deal. My kids (25..22..19..16) are by nooo means perfect. And we never threatened, beat, yell them into submission like most parents I see today do, which only reinforces the kids bad behavior. We did set boundaries.
Adults have to set boundaries..They have to teach them not to compalin, whine, throw tantrums, I think people are afraid now, that if they correct their children, some child agency will come and take their kids. Dont be afraid to raise your kids people!!



Kids get scared when they have no boundaries. ALL behaviour is learned, so if we don't teach them those things, they pick up what ever else is available to them. We had/have dress codes that we enforced...for the boys (3 of them) when they got to mouthy (especially with Mom) they were doing pushups, and sit ups..If I want my kids to grow up and say "sir", thank you, excuse me, they must see me do it...Well I could go on forever, but you get my point..

I would like to take some kids aside and give them a well deserved spanking...but I would much rather take their Mothers aside and slap the *&^&% out of her, and say wake up, these are your kids..they will be our future...wake up...

Answer 8

I'm 29 years old and I was bought up right it's a simple as that I was never rude to strangers in the street, i never loitered on street corners. I've never been in a fight in my life!

My parents were not well off, we bought up on council estate

a few months ago I went to a tesco's late at night and I came back to find 3 black youths sat on my car I asked them politely to get off and he actually spat in my face and told me to f off.

Thankfully my brother who is 6ft 6" (who went back to the shop get something) intervened and threw him off the car into a brick wall and his mates run off and left him

The point is I wouldn't have even dreamed of behaving like that, do his parents know what he is really like??

It's the parents I blame, I had respect for my parents. I expermented with drugs and alcohol and got caught and down to good parenting im now a husband and a father who will do his best to bring mine up right.

This problem is not going to go away as the current generation of yobs starts to breed (god help us) they will simply pass it on to the next. and these chavs are breeding faster than you can say " give me a a council flat, init"

So forget the meek, I'm afraid the chav's will inherit the earth.

Answer 9

Children are not being properly disciplined at their homes and most of the times the parent want to act as parents in public places. Wrong place try your home first. Kids are not supposed to rule the parent but the parent in loving ways should rule the children. It is very ease to have chirdren but it is a huge resposibility to bring them up properly so they are resposible and respected adults.

Answer 10

Lack of discipline from the parents, Teachers nowadays also dont have enough power, because of this there is no respect from the young ones today. I know many will disagree with me but Fear breeds Respect, i think you need a firm hand with kids so they can learn to respect their elders, just ask yourselves this...Were kids 10, 15,20 years ago as bad as they are now? In the days when Teachers could give THE BELT or RULER, and Parents were not ashamed to hit their kids when it was needed, kids feared Adults,especially those of an authority figure, now in the days of THE NAUGHTY STEP, they just laugh at them.