I'm aware this friend is struggling with life but hiding it & know her family either dont know or just are'nt helping, I'm not that close to this person and her closer friends are'nt aware either, how can I help? I'm quite concerned.
2006-10-16 01:36:11 · 24 answers · asked by . 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
listen carefully to hear when she speaks and remind her that she is special and that she mustnt loose hope and she must remember that her friends and family love and need her.
2006-10-16 02:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by lithaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its tricky - why not take the person for a coffee in a neutral environment - tactfully say that you have noticed they are a little down - ask if you can help in anyway - offer your support BUT becareful not to appear to pushy - saying you care and value their friendship maybe the catalyst to get them opening up a litttle - if you get no response please do niot think they are ok many people just retract into their own little world - this can be an even greater worry - if this is the case you must emlist the help of a member of his/her family or another good friend or if you feel you are unable to do this why not contact smaratians for some advice on how best to help this person. You sound like a really
caring person and this person is lucky to know you
2006-10-16 01:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by random 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really concerned than you have to get closer to this friend. I am presuming that you are younger and still in school since she seems to be still living at home. Phone her more often just to talk about general things. Find out what she does in her spare time and maybe you can do something with her. If she just sits home and mopes maybe you can get her out to watch a basketball game or to go to the zoo, the mall, the golf course anything that keeps her brain active. Maybe you want to start running on the track or losing weight and you want a buddy to participate or clock you or something. You sound intelligent come up with a good reason for her to spend time with you or you and your friends.
2006-10-16 02:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me last year. It puts you in an awkward position but I felt as though I needed to persuade her to tell someone close about how she was feeling. I said I would go with her to talk to her family or close friends or she could invite them all to my home for coffee and a chat. Her best friend and her sister actually came and because I was there for "support " she managed to tell them how bad she had been feeling.They were really shocked but did get her help and now she is beginning to feel supported .loved for herself and wouldn`t dream of ending her life.( which is what I was worried about ) Try this it may help both of you and take the pressure away from you .
2006-10-16 01:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rob S has good advice to which I would like to add by saying that listening is the best thing. But for goodness sake don't be judgemental as it will come back to haunt you.
The fact that your friend has a sounding post in you will help her no end. And eventually and when she is ready she will ask for your advice. In a quiet subtle way just let her know that you are there for her.
Best wishes and Kudos to you>
2006-10-16 01:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that was me I'd get closer to this person without asking questions just like you would if you were making friends get her to trust you and share your secrets with her maybe then she might open up to you and then just be there for her most people go though life holding secrets but if only they learn to trust someone and let them help they would feel a whole lot better i know when i have problems that are getting me down i always share them with my mum sometimes my sister and bf but i know no matter what i tell them they help
2006-10-16 01:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by flowerpot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the person know you are there for her, some people don't like other people seeing their weak side, just express to her that you are always there for her, and that if she needs you all she has to do is say the word and you will do what you can to help her. Let her tell you what she wants, sometimes just knowing someone is supporting you is all they need.
2006-10-16 01:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get your friend to talk about what may be going on with her. If she won't or can't verbally say it...give her a blank paged book and a pen and tell her to get it out on paper. Just let her know that you will be there for her if, and when she needs you. And pray...
2006-10-16 01:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi unfortunately ther is not a lot you can do for this person.
I guess if you see that they look upset then maybe just ask if they are ok? Start slowly with no pressure, especially if you don't really know this person.
Lozza
2006-10-16 04:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by lozza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with above. Be there for them.
Make sure they know you are there.Make a point of reminding them. Dont keep asking if they are ok, but just make sure they know they are not alone.
2006-10-16 01:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋