Please only honest, sincere anwers. I would like to hear from married females/men with experience.
2006-10-16 01:32:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on the maturity level of the people involved. The insecurity level and you must examine your motives or his motives as to why you would want to do this. In any marriage there usually exist at least one partner that is more jealous than the other. Therefore a threesome at first may not show any affects but could later on. All adventurous sex nornally is stimulating, and a threesome is no different, maybe even more exciting than say having sex in the elevator. Ergo, you may have a nice rush from it but in the long run like most things that feel good you end up paying a price for it.
2006-10-16 01:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it healthy, well that all depends on what type of marriage you have. If you've always been open about sex with each other, and were never jealous, then it would be a great way to compliment your sex life. Just remember, to remain calm as you watch your husband have sex right in front of you, sometimes hearing your husband's moans and groans which are being caused by another woman might make you very upset. So start off slow by maybe 3 way kissing and some fondling, see how that goes, then if everyone feelings are in check then move onto more sensual acts. Good luck!
2006-10-16 08:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by nycrunner69 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have never had a threesome but the thought has crossed our minds a few times. Before you do anything like this you need to make sure that you have boundaries set up and that your relationship is solid because something like this could destroy it.
my hubby and i have talked about having one many times but we just never have. Also if you are going to have one you need to find the right person to be the third person.
Good Luck
2006-10-16 08:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, unequivocally NO. The reason you get married in the first place is to be with that person ONLY for the rest of your life. If you allow one extra body into the marital relationship, why not just put a sign out in your front yard and make it a business? Sex is SUPPOSED to be reserved for you and your LIFELONG mate. It is not healthy because you are telling your partner, or he/she is telling you, that you are not good enough, or it's not exciting enough just the two of you. There are plenty of other things you two can try without adding in an extra person.
2006-10-16 08:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just make sure you talk about it completely with your spouse and you both agree to do it. Take your time when picking a "friend" to make sure that you both agree on that person. Set boundary's and work up slowly (never do anything against your spouse's wishes). Have loads of fun and remember it's all about lust and not love.
It will make your sex life afterward awesome.
2006-10-16 09:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's healthy if both spouses are emotionally mature and stable, they communicate well and they have no issues with their partner being with someone else; if the idea of your spouse having sex with another person disturbs you, you're not ready.
Thorough conversation on all of this is a good way to tell if you're ready - otherwise, it's all good.
2006-10-16 08:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I knew of a couple a few years ago that tried this and it ruined their marriage. After the act, her husband became a sex addict and nothing was taboo or sacred between them. She became jealous and kept imagining him with the other woman all the time. The image never left her mind. They divorced.
2006-10-16 08:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are asking for big trouble there are trust issues and a whole lot of social stigma which goes against this. Plus it may lead to places you dont really want to go.
2006-10-16 09:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced from adding a 3rd and broke up with a boyfriend of 5 years from his wanting a 3rd. So, I'd say unless you want jealousy (from you or hubby) and ultimately a divorce then no, keep things as they are and leave the fantasies where they belong - in dreamland.
2006-10-16 08:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think so because it seems to cause more problems. It useally ends up being with a woman and the wife starts to think "does he like her more" thinks like that. Later on it will come up in fights. its just a horrible thing to have and do!
2006-10-16 09:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋