myself a hindu girl is in deep love wid a muslim boy.problem lies in religion.parents dont agree.wat 2 do?

Question

m a hindu girl but the boy 2 whom i love is a muslim.we r in deep love nd want 2 spend r lives 2gether 4everr.i have been brought up by a single parent my mother coz my father died wen i was 2 yr old.she has struggled a lot throughout her life inorder 2 raise us.i cannot betray her also.but my love is also true.we cannot live widout eachother.we had thought 2 make r career so dat we can talk about r marriage later on.but once i have told 2 my mother about r relationship she scolded me nd said 2 4get him but i cant.now wat shall i do should i leave him or wait 4 time so that we can talk about r marriage after making career of r lives.

Answer 1

You should probably wait for your career. Time will bring the best out of you two. Here in the US it's not a big deal, but over there its tough! I have been in the same situation, got end up getting seperated, hopefully will not be your case. I appreciate your courage to talk to your mother. Just sit back, relax try to focus on your career first and I am sure you'll get want you want. My best wishes with you, Goodluck!

Answer 2

I would suggest that you wait at least another year before going forward with any marriage arrangements. The reason for this are manifold; both families will have time to think about the marriage between you and your boyfriend, you two will have more time with each other and can thus know the other better, parents of either side may change their mind, you may change your minds. After this one year is over, I would suggest that both your parents meet. As they say, when you marry someone you marry their family also. If you are set in your decision to marry then your parents should meet and see what the other family is like. The first answerer was right in a manner, you cannot convert to being a Hindu. There are some rituals that groups like the Arya Samaj have come up with, but there are no conversion methods in Hindu texts. This is because to be a Hindu, all you have to do is adopt a Hindu mindset and you can call yourself a Hindu. Being a complete Hindu woman is something special.. I don't think many Hindu women in India are even completely Hindu, so you will have a hard time finding someone to learn this from. However, there are certain things that your future mother-in-law can teach you, but most of these things you already know. Things like taking care of your prospective husband, showing respect to your elders, raising your prospective children in a good manner, etc are things that you already know. There are other things that you might have to learn, eg. observing proper customs in a Hindu temple. You will learn those things in time. Normally I do not advocate interreligious relationships because one of the people involved usually faces forced conversion, but your case seems different. If you are willing to live life as a Hindu with your Hindu husband (and his family), raise your children as tolerant, but strong, Hindus then I would suggest waiting (as suggested above) and then going ahead with marriage. Good luck with this, hopefully the outcome leads to your happiness. Please send me a message if you have anything you'd like to talk about..

Answer 3

Fall in love. real love, I do not care, I have gone through this.

It was no love, no affair, no scandal, some made a joke I took it seriously and I was ready for what ever was asked for.

I am a brahmin, became muslim to marry a muslim in a muslim contry. I went through worst trouble of my life. 30 years I remain in muslim world I have seen their temparment. It is tough even at 58 I had to get insult, abuse and bad treatment from some of the close muslim friends when they come to know I returned to Hindu. Being a muslim I did not get any favour or any benefits on the other hand thrown out from my wife's contry.Jobs were rejected.

And in India some journalist left in middle of our interview when they heard we both became Hindu. because these people were interested in some Mirch-Masala to sell the news.

I will tell you It is a destiny, my advice go to NADI Pariksha they will give you clear picture of your life, that will give you some guidance for you and your loving friend.

I believe true Muslim true Chritian is Hindu .... It is only Hindu has this concepts not any other faith in the world. Others consider they are sent by god and they are the only one have rights to believe in god. I met many scholars and they say same things. They do not believe Hindu also are the children of same god.

Answer 4

Well, have being put in a similar position with my soon to be ex-husband, always remember, what may not be a problem for you and your mate now WILL be a problem in the future. Especially if kids are in the plans. Religion or relationship with God as I like to call it, is a matter of llife or death. When you were brought up a certain way that way is the right way for you, because you haven't has the chance to really know and learn any other way, therefore to have all of the religious beliefs and morals that's instilled in you not instilled in your children will feel wrong, and if you both plan to teach your children both religions he will be confused about faith and how to be faithful when it comes to spiritual beliefs. And remember religion or relationship with God IS a matter of LIFE or DEATH. Heaven,hell,paradise or whatever your eternal resting place is called is not to be taken lightly.

Answer 5

Don't do anything without your mothers consent. Inter religion marriages need a lot of adjustment, from the girls side in Indian society. Are you willing to give up your mother, your religion, your customs.... for this one person think about it.
Settling down in your career is a good thought. Don't rush things. If you have put the question on Yahoo shows you are not sure of your love.

Answer 6

You are very clever in using the 2- 4-coz-r system and you are sensitive too in making the career of both (of your lives). Your mother must have scolded you due the fact the you both have not made up your career and talking about marriage.

Answer 7

Firstly, is it love or merely infatuation. You may be ready to change your religion for the sake of the boy. But is he prepared to change his religion for your sake? This is the test for his love to you.
Are you to just forget about the years of pain, struggle, love and affection of your mother. Is it the proper price of so called love?
If you really want to be happy in life and not regret later, you must aim at your career first and be able to stand on your own legs first. When you come to this position, you will know who all stand by your side.
May God help you in choosing the right path.

Answer 8

You should have given more thoughts before going ahead.
Now, either go ahead and marry that fellow, ignoring your parents
or forget him, marry a person shown by your parents.
Either way it is body language which ends in sex and reproduction. Whether you marry a muslim or somebody, you are marrying a person to have sex and become pregnant.
Religion is made of selfish and senseless human beings.
Whatever, be ready to face the consequences and decide.

Answer 9

If your Love is true that will do it for u...
Believe in God
No matter whether u r a Hindu or Ur Lover is a Muslim

Love is human nature

Nothing wrong in it
go ahead

Whatever happens ,happens for the best

All the best

Answer 10

thats a pretty hard stituation. slowly try 2 make ur mom understand how much u love him and he respondes. ask her if ur mom wants happiness for u ,let u marry the guy.every mom wants her daughters 2 be happy.slowly blackmail ur mom. be sneaky. use the right words. besides running away will NEVER solve ur problem.and ur mom is single .alone only with u. it would be pretty rude of u if u run away, leaving her.she IS ur mother. the only fair way is 2 make ur mom agree. she may have a soft spot. now thats ur problem. hope ur lover is successfull 2.