A couple of years ago he briefly found that he was attracted to her be insists that thre's nothing like that now - just wants friendship - I trust him but is this normal? can he still but Just friends? she had no idea about the attraction..............
2006-10-16 00:46:01 · 28 answers · asked by bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES THAR IS JUST FINE
2006-10-16 00:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only an issue with you because you dont completely trust him and fear something between them may start at a future date.
If you trust your husband and believe in what he says then there shouldnt be a problem if he stays friends with this woman, if its only friendship he wants.
If he wanted to, or wants to have a more intimate relationship with someone else or even with her in the future, then there is little you could do that would stop him. So wither this girl posses a real threat to your marriage or not doesn't mean to say he won't ever want be with someone else in the future and that to can pose a threat. So I guess you have to ask yourself what it is you are really concerned about because your husband has a female friend...remember any threat to your marriage might not even come from her.
Even married people should be allowed to choose their friends and not have them choosen for us by our spouse.
I dont think its such a big deal for a married man to have a female friend or a married woman to have a male friend, especially if there's no ulterior motive for them comming together in the first place other than to be as friends.
All you can do is try and trust him if he does not want to give up his friendship with her. If you make him end their friendship he may well resent you for it and this could lead to other problems in your own relationship.
2006-10-16 15:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by snogger18 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DANGER, DANGER!!! Trusting a man with a woman he was attracted to is about as safe as letting an alcoholic hold on to your vodka. Some things are better off being prevented then testing the trust there is in a relationship!!!
2006-10-16 02:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by runninfool 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending if this girl is married or not, it is difficult for married couples to have single Friends, especially of the opposite sex, it places Insecurities and Trust issues within the relationship.
Trust is the Foundation of any relationship. Your husband should be aware of your thoughts and your feelings should come first.
2006-10-16 00:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he can be just friends. I have several male friends who are married and once i felt attracted to one of them but realised what i would loose should i do anything about it. However my best friend ad husband of 17years said they where friends but actually were having an affair and had been for 9 months before i found out. So my advice is trust him but should his behaviour change and that of the female friend then bring it up but please don't be paranoid men and women can be friends i know that to be true and i have very good reasons not to trust husbands and female friends. good luck
2006-10-17 07:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
See this is what I've been trying to tell people .Men & women can not just be friends .One or both are going to have feelings for the other. Then if you react on it you are then cheating on your spouse. Why put yourself in that situation. I think that if my husband has a girl as a friend she damn well better be mine also & no staying around her without me or calling her cause been there & done that. I do not bring girls home (friends) cause I seen what happens.Good luck !
2006-10-16 01:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the world will tell you it's fine, but deep in your heart you know it's not. There should be no 3rd person in your marriage, especially not ones that either of you were attracted to. Small attractions easily turn into bigger ones, that's human nature.
2006-10-16 01:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. Because if the friendship has developed into romantic interests or attraction, then when they go out together their might be temptation. Tell him to cut all contact with her..
2006-10-16 01:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are Bisexual. I am Bi curious, in the same kind of situation as you. I really want to be with a woman but I have my BF of 3 years who I love! However he knows I want to go with a girl, he is fine with me trying it for my curiosity! Most probably because he wants to join in!Lol But yes with how you feel I would class you as Bisexual
2016-05-22 06:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Paula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say it's definitely inappropriate, especially since he was attracted to her at one time or another. If u feel uncomfortable with this situation I would suggest u speak up about it and let him know how it makes u feel.
2006-10-16 01:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he still had feelings for her then he would have never gave you the chance for a relationship. it's normal to you feel like this but go on instinct. he has probably realised that it was never going to happen between them and would rather have a friendship than nothing at all.
2006-10-16 00:49:24 · answer #11 · answered by slinky2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋