Well this has been goin on for 2 months now .. I haven't responded so far but I shall soon have to do something about it .. I like him too (not love) but I know that this relationship isn't going to get anywhere! ... and I cannot afford to upset him!! What to do?? Im 18 ..
2006-10-16 00:16:07 · 20 answers · asked by sugagloss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh really? You can't afford to upset him huh? Seems like he's got lot more to lose than you do. Bet you're not the only one. Wonder who else he's buggering? When one speaks up the others will surly follow. I wouldn't waste too much sentiment on him. This is not supposed to be THAT kind of relationship. You're right though. It sure isn't going anywhere.
What to do? Spill it. Confide in someone you can trust. There has got to be someone you can talk to. If you don't you will end up regretting it. Also try not to be alone with him.
2006-10-16 00:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do not in anyway get involved with him. The first thing I would do is talk to a student representative, counselor, anybody who can be on your side with this issue. Get your complaint documented with dates and signed by a witness. Find out your rights, and be prepared to stand up for yourself. He has probably gotten away with this in the past, and since you seem passive about it, (the fact you haven't done anything about it in 2 months) he thinks he's going to get his way. It's hard deciding whether to risk it, since yes, he could end up being an asshole and giving you bad grades and a hard time.
But it's worth doing something about it because your not fighting just for yourself, your doing it for his future conquests.
Now if you do this in the right order it doesn't have to be a big thing. Show him the witnessed dated complaint against him and tell him if it continues you will be forced to take action on it. Don't go alone, have your witness or someone from the school be with you.
2006-10-16 07:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by pippy4tao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U oughtta b angry w/ him if he's putting u in a situation that could get u expelled.Discus it w/ him.If he dosen't have serious feelings 4 u and vice versa and u r both aware of it and he would risk both of ur futures just 4 a fling then tell him 2 go f--- himself and 2 stop bothering u or u'll report him.Sounds like u might just b dealing w/ a typical perv.
2006-10-16 07:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried about your grade being negatively affected, I would start out by approaching the ombudsman at your school. Additionally, you could speak with someone in Stdent Government, but the ombudsman might be the best start, as his job is to deal with things like this. Good luck
2006-10-16 08:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know that when in a education setting, if professors, teachers,etc... are hitting on young girls,even though you are 18 and of legal age, you should know it isn't right. I believe they are not thinking with their right brains. Experience tells me this. Cut it off while you still can.
2006-10-16 07:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by barb b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just kindly let him know that out respect for his position it's safer for you all to remain student teacher. If that doesn't work start changing the subject instantly he will pick up on this. If not there's something wrong and he will need to be reported.
2006-10-16 07:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by looker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be assertive!!!!tell him to back off. why do you say you can't afford to upset him when he is obviously upsetting you?? what makes that ok??let him know the consequences if anything happens as far as your studies go. and back up your words. think about the girls that he going to harrass in the future if you don't do something about him now.
2006-10-16 07:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make it through the class be nice but not at the expense of leading him on, dont upset him get your grade and then remember the pen is mightier then the sword, report him if you have too
2006-10-17 00:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by kalela L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, talk to him, ask him to stop, tell him your not interested, and if that doesn't work, but only if it doesn't work..... report him to the dean. If he gives you a bad grade because you say no, the dean will take care of him and the grade. Be brave, you don't have to put up with unwanted advances! it's called sexual harrasment
2006-10-16 07:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by Judith O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You can tell him to back off or you will have to report him. OR 2. Report him
2006-10-16 07:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋