any advise
2006-10-16 00:03:11 · 44 answers · asked by stacey h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Are you surprised by the result of your actions?
Is this just an announcement?
Okay. Fill in the blank...
"________________ the pregancy!"
A. Congratulations on...
B. Get out of...
Hope you make the right choice.
2006-10-16 00:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by jkv1111 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 19 just turned in July. I found out I was pregnant in August. Not only did I have the shock of that to cope with but I also found out I was already 16 weeks through. I had a very short time to make my decision and a very unsupportive boyfriend to go with it. I sought the right advice and came to a decision to keep my baby. It's a choice that noone can make for you. You haven't said what your intentions are at this point or what your situation is with the father or anything. The main point here is getting the right support. Talk to someone professional, your friends often see the fun of it not the reality. Also your parents are probably a good place to start. I expected hell from mine but once we'd laid out all the options they've been a tower of strength. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision for you!
2006-10-16 01:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by Roxie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, This is a big shock to you and its a huge decision that will change your life forever, But me personally I think it changed me for the better, I was only 17 when I had my son who is now 4, It was a big sacerfise but very much worth it for me. I was a single mother for the first 8 months then met a wonderful guy who is now my husband. Its hard but if its what you want to do then every second is worth it. You need to be looking at it all in a positive view and it will be a positive thing if you think of it as a negative thing then ofcourse it will turn negative.
I was scared out of my mind, but once my son was born everything came naturally and I loved every second of it, ofcourse it was up and down but thats the same as everything in life. Look at why you fell pregnant, there is a reason and you need to see the reason and the leason that will come of it. There is many positive things that come of having a baby young, you grow with your child, you will be young to grow with your grandchildren and even be around and enjoy your great grandchildren. Becoming a mother is a wonderful experance, but you have to sacrifice your parting years, you can still go out just not be able to drop everything like your friends, you have to plan, have a routine and your proioitys in the right spot. It can be done, its worth everything you sacrifise, once your baby is a little bit older then you have time to do things for yourself this is the time your firends are having their baby's. Partying is overated, a mother is for life. A love and amazing feeling you will enjoy and never have regrets about. Good luck and I hope everything goes well. Believe in yourself and you can do anything.
2006-10-16 00:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it - Just do what you want. Don't feel guilty if you want to get rid of it - despite what people say, we were brought here with free will and no choice is a "wrong" choice as it leads to another experiance - Which is simply why we are here. If you can't afford a baby, or have a career in mind or have any reason for not keeping the child then don't _ Why bring up a person who you can't offer unconditional, perfect love to? On the other hand, If you think that you would enjoy being a mother and feel that you can love and do best for your child - go for it! Your age does not matter, My mum had me at your age.
And don't forget, A child does not mean the end of your life - there are always ppl willing to babysit whilst you get on with your hobbies/ work etc.
Just think about all aspects and how thay affect you. The most important thing is that you follow your heart.
Don't forget to be perfectly honest and open with the father - try not to get into any fights, discuss calmly and rationally but from the heart. No-one else needs to be involved unless you want them to be.
Good Luck! Xx
2006-10-16 00:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hello, well 18 isn't exactly considered 'young' nowadays. you really need to work out what life is going to be like from now on. no matter what option you take, your life has changed. this is a decision you will need to make for yourself... sure you can get advise but dont let anybody talk you into what 'should be done'. if you go ahead with the pregnancy are you prepared to quit your social life and devote everything you live for to your baby? from now on your baby comes first. i'm speaking from experience i had my baby at 20. do you feel that you have done all the things you wanted to do before coming an example setting parent? no matter how mature you feel you are it will suprise you literally how much more you'll need to grow and wise up to be a good parent. its not going to be easy physically, mentally of financially!
if you decide to terminate the pregnancy that is something that you are going to have to live with. personally i wouldnt think that is something you would ever be able to mentally 'block out'. you also have to get the facts... my friend had and abortion, and now she is unable to have children. she regrets the abortion big time. what ever you decide i wish you all the luck.... if you can see yourself with a baby, and that includes possibly bringing the child up alone then im sure you will be fine. you will be a good mum! its very rewarding! all the best x x x
2006-10-16 00:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by feathergiraffe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a strong family support system, as well as support from him and his family? Can you provide a loving and secure home, with all the needs a baby will have, and do you want a baby? I am a Hugh advocate of adoption. My husband and his two sisters were adopted and given wonderful lives. It takes a very loving and unselfish person to let go, but letting go does not mean forever. Some adoptive parents are open to the birth mother having a roll in the child's life, look into that. I wish you the best of luck, and wish I could give you a much needed hug right now.
2006-10-16 00:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not as if you are a little teenager your 18 and in the eyes of the law a adult, i am 18 and thought i was pregnant and was so happy about the prospects... turned out i was not :-l what is your situation single/longterm boyf? do you have supportive parents? i would say look forward to it just remember that there are so many women out there that cannot pursue there dream of being a mother, think yourself lucky of this gift that you have been given, you may not think it now but once that baby starts growing and kicking etc.. you will have a overwhelming feeling of protectiveness of the baby that you are carrying. GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATULATIONS x x
2006-10-16 14:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by pinky_pink3825 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetie. Dont listen to people who are rude to you. What you have to ask yourself is whether you are ready to be a mum? Whether you are ready to make your whole world your baby? If you say yes to both of these questions then you really will be fine. It is a big life change, and i guess noone really even realises how big until they have their own baby. I fell pregnant when i was 19, and my little boy is the best thing that has ever happend to me. He is my world. I love him more than anything and i thank god for sending him to me. Things like this happen, and if you are ready then go for it! You will love being a mum im sure. And i know your probably thinking -labour and birth>>???!! but that is fine aswell. I wont lie, it is painful. But we get through it and it really isnt that bad at all. If you decide to keep your baby you have so much to look forward to. Apart from morning sickness =P hehe.. which is the least fun part even compared to labour.. you have your first ultrasound, you have your babys first kicks inside of you, you have a choice to find out whether its a boy or a girl, you have the beautiful comfort of knowing that your baby is growing inside of you and you have that moment of love and joy when you hold your baby in your arms for the first time. The whole thing is just amazing. I really hope you enjoy it. Trust me, you will never look back once you decide to keep it. Even after the baby is born it is easy to go back and do part time schooling or whatever, its not the end of the world for that kind of stuff.
Goodluck to you and may you have a happy and healthy baby!
2006-10-16 00:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jordy[♥] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations! You have accepted the most awesome and weighty responsibility of nurturing your own baby to a healthy adulthood. Sex was the promise to accept the potential consequences of bringing a new life into the world, and now that precious little one is at your mercy concerning his/her happiness in power/life or misery in impotence/death. Your life has just expanded to something much larger than yourself. Your life is NOT over, but has just begun with opportunities much greater than ever before.
My advice is simply this: Do everything in your power to advocate the best interests of your child; his/her life depends on you now. A two parent household with a quality, stable husband (the bio-dad?) should be top priority, as the work required to advance the child's interests is definitely non-trivial. While the child needs a quality father, this decision is also non-trivial, as it will impact both you and the child for a very long time.
Go to WebMD (online) or some other baby website to learn about the development and needs of the child (and of you and your body) during and after pregnancy. Take pre-natal pills for the folic acid and other essentials. Find peace with the baby and with your decisions and with life in general. Ensure a stable life for your baby through careful planning.
2006-10-16 02:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by Andy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider all your options long and hard before you do anything I had an abortion at 20 I thought I was to young and despite it being the right decision for me I still think about it every day. I am now trying for a baby with my husband and have had a m/c. There are alot of couple out there longing for a baby so you could choose adoption, or you could choose to keep this baby and make the most of it.. either way you need your family and friends to talk to .. my mum has been my rock.. some of my friends who disagreed with what I did where not so helpful, just ignore those as it is not there life it is yours and this babies. good luck.
2006-10-16 00:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I had my first daughter and wouldn't trade her for the world- I married her dad and we later divorced- he was flat out too immature- so it is not the end of the world- adoption is a good option - and everyone lives!! Mind some good support- I don't know what your parents are like- so - if they are average they may be shocked- disappointed- then get more accepting- what about the bf?? Has he disappeared?? If so - you don't need him or that behavior- there is a place in Tyler Tx called the Fathers house- check it out- it is a wonderful place for young moms- take care D
2006-10-16 00:13:14 · answer #11 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋