i'm just so confused?

Question

i've been trying eith my husband for a baby for abiut5 yrs now. 1 miscarraige later and still trying, the thing is my periods are so irregular and infrequent tha it makes plannning anything hard. anyway so we decided to stop 'trying' and just relax and see what happens...ok so its more fun, but still no baby. my doctor refuses to help as she says i'm to young to be worrying about this and just wants me to go the pill..personally i dont agree with contraception, thats just me but i dont like it.. 1'm 24 and really confused why is this so difficult?

Answer 1

I personally believe that it can only happen when it should, and when you're really ready to raise a child.
My advice is go see a healer, who would help you in an altenatively manner. Will take care of everything that's not right with you and you don't even know about...

I know people who did not believe in that but did it anyway and got the results they wanted!

Answer 2

You've been trying since you were 19? Obviously more mature than me at 19!! Anyways, I would probably go see someone else about it if your present Dr refuses to help you - I'm really unsure about why your Dr would say take the pill if she knows you are trying to get pregnant!!! Very strange. I personally wont take the pill either as it messes up my body too much. We tried a lot of different types but they all had side effects for me.
Dont give up hope though, it takes a long time for some woman to get pregnant. My aunt tried for 10 years before she had her first child (after 4 miscarriages and a tubal pregnancy - Dr's said there was a very slim chance she would ever conceive after that) and now she has 4 girls. You have another 11 years to go before your chances of getting pregnant start to decline, so time is def. on your side. However, if you both are ready then I can see why it would be frustrating for you.

Answer 3

First, get a new Doctor. The one you have deserves being reported to the GMC!
We had problems conceiving, as I also had very irregular periods of eight weeks plus. I delayed going to my GP, as I knew he would say to see him again in six months. He was fantastic.... I told him we had been trying for two years, plus a further six months (if you get what I mean.)
"Right", he said, "no need to make you wait any longer" and wrote to the Hosp. that day.
The Gynaecologist thought we'd waited long enough, too, and put me straight on the exploratory operation waiting list. I was sent away with a temperature chart. When my temp. went up we were to have lots of extra nookie! Don't know if it was that or the fear of exploratory ops, but I fell pregnant within two months!
15 days before our fifth Wedding Anniversary we had our first Son. Our second Baby took five months of trying, but our third Son was a total surprise. This all happened 33 years ago, but I am sure there are still caring medics willing to help you.
Good luck.

P.S. The Gynaecologist blamed the pill for us not conceiving. I had only taken it for a year.

Answer 4

Go to a fertility clinic or switch Dr.'s. I know that can be expensive if you don't have insurance, or if your insurance plan doesn't cover infertility treatments. The only reason I can think of that your Dr. wants you to take the pill is so that your periods will become more regular. I took the pill for that reason, and it regulated my cycle and once I stopped taking the pill everything stayed regulated. Sometimes your body just needs that little boost to make your periods regular. Good Luck, I hope you are a Mommy soon.

Answer 5

Change doctor as soon as you can !
It doesn't mater how old you are. The fact that you are in a committed relationship and you and your husband have been trying unsuccessfully for 5 years should be enough to convince your doctor that tere is a problem and you should be referred.
She's treating you as though you are a 16 year old who has suddenly decided it might be 'cool' to have a baby.

And why the hell, when you went to her explaining that you wanted a baby and were having trouble conceiving, would she recommend going on the pill. She's obviously a quack, change ASAP !

Answer 6

Get a new doctor and find out if either you or your husband have any fertility problems. 24 is a fine age to have a baby and your doctor should be more supportive. The pill will help make your periods regular but they sure wont help you have a baby.

Answer 7

The 1st thing you need to do is change your dr she is not taking this seriously and as a bad attitude towards your needs, you have done the right thing taking time out from trying just have fun as practice makes perfect with your new dr they will prob send you both of to be tested to see if anything is wrong and then you go from there but keep trying it will happen for you both good luck!!!!

Answer 8

dear, just don't be confuse, keep on doing your best and leave the lest to God. i believed every problem had an expiry date. your time will soon come. just relax, you've conceive once, you'll conceive again and nothing can ever hinder it. cool down. you are in your most fertile period now. it is an opportunity and you can make it okay? if your doctor chooses not to help, you can try another doctor who is willing to help you solve your problem. i disagree with him that you are too young to have a baby. the point is that you are married and want a baby. nothing bad with that.

Answer 9

You need to tell your doctor that its your body and you want her to check you out thoroughly blood test the lot and check your husbands sperm count and everything else. I am also 24 and have been trying for a baby for a year we also had a miscarriage. If a doctor told me I was to young to worry I would punch them. get a new doctor.

Answer 10

Get unconfused,stop trying and getting stressed about it all.
Stress is most probably your worst factor here,as it can cause irregular periods and possibly a factor in miscarriages.
A friend of mine has a few miscarriages,before having a beautiful baby.
Why a doctor suggests going on the pill maybe,to regulate your periods over a period of time,to produce a stage on when and where you could regulate a good chance of getting pregnant..