Does anyone who gives their partners everything..Full O A BDSM OUTDOOR STUFF and never refuses a request sexually.. get cheated on? In my experience NO but maybe you know different.
2006-10-15 23:36:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my experience your right. When married people have sex (even when they are not in the mood) there is very little if any cheating being done by either party.
2006-10-15 23:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whoever is cheated on it's never their fault. Many people try and justify themselves that the wife/husband never want to try anything new (sexually or otherwise). But the truth is we all have decisions especially things like cheating. You are somehow correct if a person never refuses anything correctly the spouse is bound to cheat but remember spouses also cheat when they feel angry or even sad after an argument with the partner that they seek..... But then in the end that person made a decision that I will get sex elsewhere.
2006-10-16 03:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure it can happen. If you eat a steak every day, and every day it's prepared just how you want it, is it likely that you will want something else every once in a while ? Sure !! Whether you act on the urges is the question. I believe some cheat because of low self esteem. They need to prove that they are desirable. Actually, giving everything might be boring. They might lose respect . I had a girlfriend once who was great. She was younger than me and really looked up to me. She would do ANYTHING for me without questioning it. I don't know ? I think it was too easy. No real challenge. So, I guess it could be her fault but it's just as likely he has issues, whether it's raging hormones or low self esteem.
2006-10-16 00:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not about blame...it's about people communicating...cheating is the final deception before lots of small little deceptions...
you should feel comfortable with each other to know all of each others faults...without hiding things...at the end of the day the best thing is too feel truly accepted...
I do think we should acknowledge that we all have our eye candy etc...& know the person we marry, not force people into being who we want to marry...so it's no ones fault but either you talk about it & stop the deception...
or if you're guilty for your actions & want to change...stop the cheating & let your partner know what you want from the relationship....
everyone deserves a second chance & if you want to your relationship will get a second chance too.
2006-10-16 00:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Stoosha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the one who's cheating is at fault and I don't think it has anything to do with the other spouse as nobody made them cheat in the first place. They chose to do that on their own although u will hear all kinds of excuses for why they cheated on their partners. I don't care how they try to validate or justify their reasons for cheating because to me, they always have a choice to either work on their marriage or leave. Instead they chose to cheat.
2006-10-15 23:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not their fault. That is the short answer. There are always exceptions however.
For the most part the fact is that us guys are meant to be attracted to other women; no matter who our legal partner is. Humans (and other animals for that matter) were not designed to be monogamous unfortunately.
So no, if someone is being cheated on they should not blame themselves because it isn't their fault... chances are no matter how hard they tried (unless they were specifically not trying at all) their significant other is going to cheat if that's what their mind is set on.
These are unfortunate things in life. Your choice is to accept and work it out or move on.
2006-10-15 23:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by Zachary B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, cheating is always the cheaters fault. No-one can directly make someone cheat. It is a choice. It might be the other person's fault that they felt unhappy in the relationship or lead them on the road to feeling compelled to be dishonest, but cheating is never the other parties fault, unless they held them at gunpoint. Everyone has a choice and can say NO. It is just an excuse to blame the action of cheating on the other party. HTH : )
2006-10-15 23:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes and No.
No not the woman's fault because sometimes men cheat for the thrill or excitement of not being found out. Men may cheat because of a psychological problem that causes them anxiety if they don't cheat (may be forgivable).
Men may also do so to spite their spouse - again not the woman's fault.
Some men just want variety (eg. they may wanna try a fat woman if their spouse is a thin one! Or a blonde woman if they wives have dark natural hair.) Again, not the woman's fault!
Yes, because women may have neglected to spend quality time with their spouse. Some couples living under one roof are sometimes strangers.
In your case, may be it's not the sex that's lacking. It maybe something else. You decide if you wish to salvage whatever's left. Forgiving and "re-living" is a tough road but not an impossible one.
2006-10-15 23:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by MyQute 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes and no. i think if you are totally prudish and your man goes astray that yes it is your fault too because you wouldn't put out. but if they do almost any sexual thing with them that maybe they are just bored with you or that you're trying too hard, and the other can see that and in that case i don't think it is her fault at all. i think the same holds true for if the wife cheats on the husband. i've been in both situations i've been the one cheated on, and it's because i'm to overbearing and stress my partner out so they look elsewhere. i've been the cheater and it's because i'm bored or no longer interested in my partner or even they just don't "please" me when they think they are, no matter what they try.
2006-10-16 00:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes when we give to those we are with, and we give them everything, it sometimes does happen as we may have given so much that they take advanage of it..material things in life can not keep another from cheating..if a person is going to cheat they will cheat no matter what..you can not control their cheating threw giving them everything..there are lots of reason why a person cheats and giving them everything wont' stop them..blessings
2006-10-16 00:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by connie l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋