ever day he calls me a slut and puts me down for no reason. it stresses me out. i have tried a million different way to calm him down and be nice n stuff. this is ruing our relationship. i love him to death. how can we get past this hicup
2006-10-15 23:09:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think you are in approach-avoidance situation. if you really love him,you have to bear him. tell him gently what you are feeling bad about him and advise him to modify his behavior. or you take a professional advice from a psychologist.
2006-10-15 23:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 18⤊ 1⤋
Hicup? Oh dear! This is a serious issue. Has nothing to do with if you nice to him or not! That is called abuse! Wake up and smell the stink hun! It's not you! Love him to death is a good way of saying it. You are willing to put up with someone tearing you down for love! Things have got to change or you are in for a long while of heartache. Quit making excuses for him, unless you want to be a victim.
2006-10-15 23:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by tonka 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It hurts to hear your story. There could be two reasons behind his behavior -
1. He has felt hurt by your words/actions for some reason..
2. He has fallen out of love...
If the first reason is true, then i think you need to think over the past and try and identify the event/occassion where you might have hurt him. You can even try and talk to him about it and see if you can get it out of him.
If the second reason is true, then i guess you just move a few steps back and think things over - if he truly loves you, he will come back to you.
However, whatever be the cause, I dont think you should accept being called nasty names that make you feel bad. I know how it feels when a loved one hurts you, but then that is life at times and we need to accept it and move on rather than accept such behavior at the cost of our own self-esteem... If he cannot respect you, then probably he doesn't deserve you..
2006-10-15 23:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by Raj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a hiccup, it's the start of a very bad relationship. If he thinks you will allow him to call you names and belittle you then he would have no problem doing worse things. Like getting physically violent with you. Respect yourself enough to know that it's never alright for someone to treat you like that. Leave him, yeah it may hard. But there is someone out there who is going to love and respect you the way you should be.
2006-10-15 23:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not a hiccup, this is a guy with confidence issues that he covers up by putting you down. If he is so pathetic that he doesn't even respect you than dump him. You only have one life, do you really want to spend it with him? If the answer is yes then get ready for a hard, long, sad relationship. Bottom line, dump him because you deserve better.
2006-10-15 23:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tucker Flannagin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a sect of pervert who like to call names. Bt if u feel offended, and hav told him so and he still is not mending his way, may be u may hav to look at some options. Today he degrades u in isolation, tomorrow he may do it in public. Take the corrective step today before it is too late.
U may just hav to cry and sulk for a couple of months, then u shall surely get some one new and better. But hav some dignity, that the rule of game.
2006-10-15 23:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by dickwettingtown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must leave him now.By calling you names and putting you down,he is trying to control you by ruining your self esteem.Putting you down makes you think that you are not good enough for anyone else and that's why you LOVE him so much,because he is still with you.This is not right and by continuing to put up with it will only dig your grave even deeper.So that you don't have the strength to go.Leave now while you can.Otherwise one day you'll do something that really pisses him off and he won't just call you names.
Good luck
2006-10-15 23:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't respect you. There is no way to get pass this if he even cared about you he wouldn't call you names and make you feel bad or make you feel like you did something wrong. I'd say it's time to find you somebody who can treat you with respect. This guy is just going to keep doing this to you as long as you will let it happen. So it's time to stop it.
2006-10-15 23:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Esther V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered you own question. "i have tried a million different way to calm him down and be nice n stuff" If you have given him ampel opportunity to change and he is unwilling, take the hint. You say you love him, how much can he really love you if he is un willing to change.
2006-10-15 23:13:20 · answer #9 · answered by jw_developer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is plainly cruel... i doonoo if this is a just a hicup only... if you are in love with such a man to death i dono who can actually help you.. this is your and your partners life ..if you both love each other enough i guess you both should try to improve it and save it from going downhill..
try talking to him how you feel and how his this namecalling is effecting you.. if he cares for you enuff m sure he will respond...
take care.
2006-10-15 23:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by hi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no getting past this hiccup unless you want to be called horrible names. You need to lose this looser! NOW! Have some pride in yourself and take control of your life.
2006-10-15 23:12:17 · answer #11 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋