I'm a gay guy who has not had a relationship and now I'm looking for a partner. However, I realize that most people in chatrooms are only interested in sex and I'm afraid that I'd be taken advantage of. Instead of finding a one-night partner, I'm more into long-term. How do I find someone who thinks like me? Any advice from experience?
2006-10-15 22:19:49 · 12 answers · asked by ted 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Olga: I've tried that and it doesn't work.
2006-10-15 22:23:25 · update #1
Well, for a start, if they begin talking about sex right off, cut them off. Clearly thats the only thing on their mind and if you give in the chances that you'll hear from them again are slim..unless they want to use you again. try finding someone who is interested in a normal conversation...and don't rush into meeting them. Feel them out online first. Also I wouldn't let on that youre looking for a relationship..because they might lie and tell you what they think you want to hear. Just start off as friends so you can find out thier true personality, morals, likes/dislikes, etc, and see what it leads into. If nothing romantic comes from it then atleast you made a good friend right? Also be careful and trust your instinct. Remember that people can be whoever they want to be online. Make sure you really know who youre talking to before you decide to meet them in person.
2006-10-15 22:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dani 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The internet is a place that you cannot trust 100%. I will refer you to a free site www.guys4men.com. There you can do many different searches, and for most of the part it seems reliable, but remember it is still the internet. The site will guide you through the registration, and will explain how to setup a search that will apply to your specific requirements. I had trusted this site until a friend (who I refered) was lied to. So i suggest that you becareful in any responses your profile receives.
The initial setup will allow you to give your requirements in many fields (including hobbies, interests, personality, sexuality, lifestyle, etc.)
I hope this site will help you, but I will still mention, and please listen, the interenet is not a trustworthy place.
PS I am not taking advantage of the question. How do I prove that? I do have any site points, and I can get free site points if i refer someone. I am referring you out of love and compassion, not for points, or credits.
I just want you to be happy.
2006-10-16 06:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While the majority of people who go to chat rooms are just looking for sex, are bored or whatever, not everybody that goes to chatrooms fit in that category. I met my girlfriend in a chatroom. I lived in Texas, she lived in Maryland. We spoke online and on the phone a great deal, then we met. I moved to Maryland to be with her about 9 months later. That was 3 years ago and I will spend the rest of my life with her. Had it not been for a chatroom I never would have met this wonderful woman.
Danielle, you nailed it!!!! Thats exactly what I did.
2006-10-16 05:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by tmills883 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, besides kicking Olga in the crotch as hard as you possibly can, I'd suggest you go somewhere serious if you're looking for a long-term relationship.
Maybe a LGBT political group or an activity group that you know might have some gays there - like a Young Republican meeting or something.
:P
2006-10-16 05:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Good Times, Happy Times... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, don't look for partners in chat rooms. Get off your computer find a group or club that centers around your interests. After a while, ask someone are interested in out for coffee. You will have something to talk about that interests both of you. Go from there.
You have to have something to bring to the table in any relationship.
2006-10-16 08:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, that's a good one. My best friend is the King of "hit it and quit it". For most guys like him, if they don't get it within the first few days, they run. SO basically all you have to do is wait it out. See if they are still interested after a couple weeks or so... if you can wait that long, lol. No drunken nights... Good luck!
2006-10-16 05:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid people who show you there nude bodies or want to see yours through the net because all they would want from you is sex. Even if you think the person is cute, turn them down because they aren't looking for a relationship. Develop a friendship first getting to know the person.
2006-10-16 08:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chat rooms will not work. You'll find people who lie and try to deceive you. You need to go to a club, or some get together and meet people in person. Try having some of your friends introduce you to people
2006-10-16 10:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try other sources than the Internet and be clear to your dates that you want a relationship - then take time to get to know that person you are dating.
2006-10-16 09:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are dating sites just for gay men... just do a search, i know pof is free--- but 90% of the guys are losers.......
if you are in the los angeles area, i have the perfect guy for you......
i reported you, OLGA-- you ignorant biatch!.
try meetup.com-- do some volunteer work and stuff for gay/lesbian rights--- perfect way to find a great guy
2006-10-16 05:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋