2006-10-15 22:19:00 · 15 answers · asked by redroseleigh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
All council estates have their gossips, you learn which ones to avoid and not to tell anything!
You have to work out who you want to be friends with and who you can trust. That way no one will be talking about you as they won't know anything about you will they?
I have lived on a council estate since December 1999 and the flat that I live in is my flat I bought it. But no one knows that I am not a council tennant as I have not told them! They can't talk about me as they don't know anythng about me! People come and go when it is council but like me I stay put and no one can work out how a person living on their own has a 2 bedroom council flat and I have not been moved to a 1 bedroom flat?
If you don't gossip then no one else can talk about you!
I have 3 really good friends I have made and believe it or not all 3 of those have bought their flats too, so it seems that you just get to know the right people, well I do anyway!
Only 1 other flat in my block is bought and I knew that anyway, as I was friendly with the couple before they bought a house and moved! The people in it now are really nice and I get on well with them! All the other 4 flats are council tennants and they have to abide by the council rules where as we only have lease holder rules to abide by and they do not know that!
So they will only find out what you tell them!
So just be a bit more careful who you talk to and what you tell them, that way they will not be able to gossip about you!
Good luck!
2006-10-15 22:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Aitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save up and move! I lived on a council estate when I was younger and everyone was so nosey. Its so nice living in my own place in an area where no-one knows nothing about me, privacy is so important I think. I just think council estates are like that for some reason, looking out the net curtain syndrome.
2006-10-15 22:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right not to tell anyone anything,and i would certainly ignore what they say what you are like or what you get upto.
Regardless,they will always had something to say about you,if not,someone else,as they live such a sad life,and have nothing better to do.
The only time they stop is when there is a soap on tv,then they are too busy to do anything,coz they think its so real.
It dont matter where you live either,even they snobbiest neighbours are the same,more so when they are daft enough to buy a council place and expect everyone else to be as good as them.
2006-10-15 22:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't mix with them. I have lived on an estate for over 3 years and I didn't even know my next-doors. Use the phone trick when you don't want to talk to someone... pretend your phone rings when you see a person on their way to talk to you and give them a quick but friendly hello wave while you pass them. NEVER answer or open your flat door, even for the post or gasman... they always leave little cards if they want to come back. Good luck! ( I know it is tough).
2006-10-15 22:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Grisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fist of all did you allow yourself to become too close and let too many people in. Not all people have this problem. My family have a lovely house on such an estate and we keep ourselves to ourselves but still speak to our neighbours without having to do the whole come in for a tea or i'll come into yours bit.
Once you become involved with people without knowing much about them it is hard to shake it off. Try to just focus on your family and your friends without getting too involved with the neighbourhood.
2006-10-15 22:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by daka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job ..get a mortgage..sell the council house..move to a new house..just a tip ...dont leave your house they are watching your every move.........and get real...i was bought up on a council estate in Leicester..i now have my own business ..3 houses..one in the med...and a bank full of money........people off council estate are not the great unwashed...there not being nosey just friendly....its snobs like you that are dividing the country
2006-10-15 23:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by michael b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red
just don't tell them to mind there own, and don't get involved in any of there crap. Do what i do i keep myself to myself and i live on a council estate. just don't be bothered with them
2006-10-15 22:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself to yourself and try to get off the estate if you can't cope that well.
2006-10-15 22:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep a low profile, it's the only way. Be polite, say hello and smile etc. but that's all, don't chat. Always have an excuse ready if one of them asks you in for a cup of tea etc. Just get on with your own life.
2006-10-15 22:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself to yourself. Your neighbours don't have to knwo your business. Further to that they don't pay your bills, pay your rent or put food on your table so why should they matter. If they are the one's watching and talking about you then they are the one's that need to get a life. Just don't have them in your flat and in your business.
2006-10-15 23:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋