2006-10-15 22:07:08 · 22 answers · asked by thedragon_slayer2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should utilize the time and energy you wish to spend on an affair and focus that on engaging more enjoyment and fulfillment in your marriage...that or end the marriage.
Affairs when you're married are doomed from the beginning...and if your heart gets involved - the pain isn't worth the time.
2006-10-15 22:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're bored, it's probably because you are boring! Since when is being bored justification for an affair?
Why not try to add spice to and revive the marriage you have, rather than do something foolish. If you're not too lazy to look, there are resources that will give you ideas of how to breathe new life back into a stale marriage.
If you had an affair, what makes you think you wouldn't grow bored with that person, and then the next person, and the next person....
2006-10-15 22:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you think that starting an affair will make it fun? an affair will make things worse, it will turn you into a cheater and a liar besides you will eventually get caught and your marriage wont be ever the same or it could end. think about this for a minute and be honest with yourself... turn it around so what if she did that to you? would you like that? if you found out will that hurt you? would you be willing to forgive her?
why don't you spice it up with her? try new things cause i understand that having the same dessert every single day can get boring but it you change the topping or the filling every once in a while things can get tastier like having a new pie without changing the crust. a marriage is composed by two so your not putting much from your side, its not all on her. cheating will make you nothing but miserable, and in the end it's not about if she finds out or not but its about what you know you did and if you will be able to live with it. waking up every day with a clean conscious is the best thing ever!! trust me!!
2006-10-15 22:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Peruvian Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Right! Ask 2 billion of your closest friends for permission. Most will say your crazy to do anything. But there will be those that say yeah go for it... And I bet that the ones you listen too. Because you have decided already, haven't you.
My advice....
husbands and wives get bored in marriage all the time...but most try to do things together to get rid of the boredom... so why isn't that your option instead of cheating on the man you supposedly love? Get a hobby or talk to hubby about it.
If you have decided to do it anyway.... at least ask him for a divorce first.... you can't love one person totally if you are giving your body and time to another!
Of course, you being bored, has probably got you in online chat rooms already... and now you are ready to take a cyber relationship to a real relationship.... and violate the trust...
Get a clue.... Marriage is defined as committed cohabitation.
Either leave your idea by the wayside or leave your hubby! Choice is yours... But I hope I never marry a girl like you!
2006-10-16 00:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r not the first to go through this phase, now a days many people are sailing in the same boat.
What u need is a very close friend of other sex, who can just bring back the "spark of life" whcih has dimnished due to monotonous life.Just go ahed and start from the first female that comes ur way. Just remember one thing, ur wife might also be reading my answer. What would happen if she also goes ahead with this suggestion.
The next thing is to go out for some out station trip with ur spouse and re-juvinate ur feelings, keep getting soem sweet nothing and go out for movie hold hand, talk as much, and for ur relation sake, stop watch stupid Star TV Serials they are the one taht poision ur mind.
U r grown up, try discussing, moving around, and bring back the spark!!
2006-10-15 22:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by dickwettingtown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not really fair to your spouse is it? If youre bored why dont you just tell your husband/wife (not sure if youre male or female) that you're bored. Besides affairs bring the risk of disease not only to yourself, but to your spouse, who is innocent, even with condoms. Take this into consideration. A sperm is 100x bigger than a herpes virus, and women get pregnant all the time even with condoms....so if that can get through...imagine what else can. If youre bored you either need to spice up your relationship or get a divorce. Affairs arent fair to anyone involved.
2006-10-15 22:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Dani 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married and you're bored...do you think that gives you the license to hurt your spouse so deeply? Are you insane? Is this what "for better or for worse" meant to you at the altar? Divorce your spouse if you can't be faithful because no one should be married to a cheater who can't respect them or themselves. Focus all this energy on your marriage instead, not on having an affair.
2006-10-15 22:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest in your life and relationships.
Dont go for affairs.
Dont follow the rotten path.
Extra marital affairs leave everyone heart broken.
Try to be creative and innovative with your spouse and enjoy her company. The boredom will go away soon.
2006-10-15 22:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Achilles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you worked half as hard at your marriage as you do into finding an affair maybe you wouldn't be bored
2006-10-15 22:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to start doing is finding a way to spice up your marriage. An affair is a bad choice, don't do it unless you don't really love your spouse, then just leave them don't cheat!
2006-10-15 23:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by MaMa 05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋