my sister-inlaw got herself pregnant to my brother inlaw after knowin him 3months to be excepted into the family. i had been trying for about a year & ended getting pregnant 8mths into her pregnancy. we both have boys. ive been in the family for nearly 12yrs now and she has only for 2yrs 9mths. she always would ring me up and come around bitching to me about the inlaws. she wouldn't let her son go to their house or them see him until my son was born and started going there. the minute i had an arguement with my inlaws she thought it was a good opportunity to get in & push me out. she doesnt call me or come around and tries to make me feel uncomfortable around the hole family. she says nasty comments towards my son and backstabs me to my husband cousin who i was close to She makes everything a competition and tries to better us i feel sorry that the 2 cousins hardly see eachother. what is her problem and how can i make others see the real her.because she the ***** & everyone likes her
2006-10-15 22:03:41 · 4 answers · asked by majjenta010 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just get over it! Trust me. Be yourself and you will see that your in-laws see that you're real. Her bitchiness will show through. It usually does because these types of people can't hide forever.
2006-10-15 22:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone see her any differently. No matter what you say or do, people will always see what they want to see. Only time can open their eyes to how terrible her behavior is.
Try to avoid her as much as possible to save every one the hurt and insults that she dishes out towards you, your husband, and your son. When it's unaviodable that you have to be at the same place as her, just let whatever she has to say go in one ear and out the other.
If she calls you, get off the phone as quick as possible. Give her some excuse as to why you have to go (real or not.) If she won't let you go, calmly let her know that you have other things to do, and this is a bad time to talk.
When a disagreement comes up at the in-laws, keep your temper and don't allow her or anyone else to put you in the role of the bad guy. If she or someone else tries to pick a fight, don't rise to the bait. Just smile and turn away.
When she tries to compete with you, just drop the subject and let her "win." If she is bragging about what her son did, let her have the moment in the spotlight. It's what she wants, and responding to her only adds to it.
The more chances you give her to insult you or your son, the more attention she is getting, and the worse you look for getting into a heated debate with her. The negative opinions won't get heaped on her where they belong, but on you for responding to her.
It's up to you to be the better person here. If you can do that, eventually the rest of the family will see what horrible treatment she is capable of dishing out all in the name of being the center of attention. Once her favorite target is gone, i.e. your family, she will turn on others. They will get sick of the insults and backstabbing. Wait it out, and they will come around to your way of thinking.
2006-10-16 05:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dint let her get to you like that that is why she is doing it. Just because she can power triper ya know what i mean she will get tired of fighting with her self soon
2006-10-16 05:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Dana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop fighting with your sister
2006-10-16 05:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋