I met him Mr.T (50 year old man) 3 years ago.We became good friends. Was separated at that time but was planning to move back to hubby & try to work things out. Moved back to hubby and went thru hell. Eventually I fell in luv with Mr.T who I think fell for me too but never admitted it. He called & texted me 10 times a day. Always wanted to meet me.Idid some part time sales for him, he paid me $. But he has a horrid temper, Yelled and cursed me like crazy. Yet he took me out for movies & dinner. Clean friendship, no Sex. He never wants a commitment. He wants to remain a bachelor.Things were pretty bad with my hubby, I found out he was having an affair. I moved out.When I moved out, hoping to be with Mr.T, luv him, he says" someday you will meet a nice man and get married, I am not in love with you."! My heart sank. I cried so much my eyes stung.I moved back to my hubby who is having an affair. Could not handle my bills and my son kept crying for his Dad.Is MrT in luv with me?
2006-10-15 21:48:53 · 16 answers · asked by Justme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he told you straight out that he didnt.....whats there to question.....however you shouldnt stay in your abusive marriage just to help pay the bills......get out and make a fresh start on your own....like mr t said you will find someone else to be with.....spend your life happy not wondering what if.....good luck
2006-10-15 21:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heartbreaking story but I'm sorry to say neither are in love with you. What you need right now is a job and total independence. I suggest you be on your own and give yourself time time to grieve over your marriage that's, unfortunately, ended. You are very vulnerable now so any man will seem ok as long as they provide a temporary escape from your marriage. You deserve someone who will love you totally and you alone, someone that won't wait to commit to you - but don't rush it. take your time but your marriage is over and don't settle for anything less than the best. Don't feel guilty about seperating your child and the dad - he will understand one day why mommy had to do it. Right now do what's best for him - he is the most important person right now. You don't want to raise your child in an environment like that.
I trully hope you will find a solution in the form of 1) a strong support base in the form of family and friends coz you really need them now. 2) a job that pays you enough to live independently 3) enough pride and confidence in yourself coz dirvoces happen and don't own the problem - its not your fault. You are not the one who left for another.
IBe strong and have faith
2006-10-16 05:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bootilicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look there is a difference between friendship and love. He simply love you as his friend and that's all. I think he did cared about you and loved you but as his friend. When he told you that he didn't love you it's because it's the truth. I don't think a man will lie to you in that way. Don't be stubborn, and now that you have a family keep on going with life. Don't let anyone or anything to ruin you and your family. You'll find a better man.
Good luck! =)
2006-10-19 18:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he sounds gay but wants everyone to think different, why not just get on with your life make the best of it and hopefully in the future you might meet someone else
you know we all have this hidden strenght inside us just craving to come out some day
2006-10-16 05:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by twodabs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! NO!
Mr T wants you around to be his trophy. He stated that he "wants to remain a bachelor", "and I'm not i love with you." HOW MANY MORE CLUES DO YOU NEED!!!
The problem is with YOU. Because of your failed marriage, you are desperate to prove that you are not the cause of the failure, by engaging in another relationship far too quickly.
Better that you look internally and determine why your marriage failed. Were you a 'good wife' as described by Dr. Laura?
Let me repeat: Mr T doesn't love you. You are the problem.
2006-10-16 05:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rob D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think so...i think he isnt...
i mean come on...no sexual encounter,no intimate moves and even he is saying that "I am not in love with you"...He does really like you and tr yo help you whenever you are in trouble.But love is a totally different thing. I would suggest not to ruin your relation with him by making such a big issue of it...So what if he isnt in love with you...u got a good friend..a true friend...Thats all everyone.
You can find 10 lovers in whole life time...but its impossible to find one good FRIEND...and those who finds them,man they are lucky.
2006-10-16 04:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by junooni81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MrT does not love you. At all. So leave him and leave your loser husband too. They're both sick and they will make you sick...do you want your son growing up in a bad environment such as this? Its better that he misses his dad rather than see Dad be abusive to his mom or bring some bimbo home. Leave 'em both.
2006-10-16 04:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have very difficult life. Get some lover to keep balance with your husband and enjoy the life. That's the best advice from me.
2006-10-16 04:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But Mr T does show some capability of being violent.
2006-10-16 04:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by Rollercoaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me like Mr. T. loves you. He says he does not and I would take him at his word. You have complicated your life. Don't worry about who loves you or who doesn't love you. Start loving yourself.
I think you need to free yourself from both men. Show your child that his mom can take care of herself- and of him. When you have a child you have to be careful who you allow into your life because you are letting them into your kids life too and they are more vulnerable than you.
2006-10-16 05:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋