My ex and I recently broke up back in July and for very good reasoning he's an alcoholic and it was very hard for me to trust him. (not because of women) He was malicious during the whole break up...to me and my family. For the past few months I have been dating other people and well I ended up sleeping with a few for reasons I cannot explain as to why I did. During this I was still living with my ex...(trying to find a place to live) for about a month. Sleeping in the same bed and well yes having sex occasionally. So at this time we are no longer bf/gf. So when he found out I was sleeping with other men he said that I was cheating on him. Does this consitute cheating?? Or do men view it differently then women do??
2006-10-15 21:00:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Confusion. You thought you guys were just friends with benefits. He thought having sex meant you guys were back together as a couple. You guys should have cleared the air before sleeping with each other again.
So you weren't cheating in your eyes. And you are cheating in his eyes. And in my eyes you were wrong to have sex with him because you were cheating yourself. You already know he's a drinker with a mean streak why continue to sleep with him? You were not required to in order to stay with him until you find a new place.
As for all the other guys? It was fair game because you and all of them knew it would be just 1-2 nightstands and nothing serious.
2006-10-15 21:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are people so concerned with labels, who's right, who's wrong, is it cheating, technically it isn't coz we r not bf/gf.. I think you & him have bigger concerns that deciding who is technically right about cheating. You obviously have dramas being together & can't seem to stay away from each other. (the finding somewhere to live bit isn't an excuse for sleeping with him). Why are you together at all and if you are no longer bf/gf then why are the two of you not sleeping in seperate beds?
If it's actually cheating or not, you have problems and arguing or coming to a conclusion on wheather it is literally cheating isn't going to make any difference in making your situation better.
2006-10-15 21:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just my opinion. But if you are still married and living with your husband, and even having sex with him. Yes it is cheating if you go off and sleep with other men. You should wait until you do find your own place and are at least not living and sleeping with him. Even if he is an alcoholic and malicious, he is still your husband. And while you are legally married you are cheating. How would you feel if he did it to you? And what about STD's?
I know you are in a difficult position. But when you are still married, living with your husband and having sexual relations with him. It is Cheating.
2006-10-15 21:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just a bad situation to be in first off, because the two of you were still living under the same roof. In my opinion you weren't cheating, although, if you were serious about it being over then you should have made that clear (maybe he thought since there was still sex it wasn't over)
2006-10-15 21:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Addiktive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I would say no, it really isnt cheating, BUT how would you have felt if the situation was reversed. I am sure you were going thru a hard time and needed comfort. It is natural, not always the best thing to do though. But does it really matter what he thinks now because he is gone outta your life right?
2006-10-15 21:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mystie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, men dont think about it differntly than women, that is an individual themself that has to answer that question (you) if you like to f*ck, then do it. but be sure he knows about you sucking off other guys before he kisses you again, thats just fair. If he still decides to sleep with you, then thats his decesion, and it cant be cheating because he knows about it. but ask yourself that question....If he was ****** your girlfriends and coming home and sleeping with you too, although techniclly you arnt together, would you be ok with it and let him stick a possibly infected c*ck in you??
2006-10-15 21:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats a hard one. I can't speak from expereince, but I would say its not cheating, as long as both of you knew the relationship was over and it was just "causal sex"
2006-10-15 21:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by pink_squeaky_doom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you found out he was having sex with other women? I think you would be very mad, and maybe hurt. That kind of justifies why he's being like this don't you think?
2006-10-15 21:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Michael B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were sleeping with him having sex with him. YES you have been cheating!
2006-10-15 21:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are having sex with him you are cheating. If you were seperated in different places then not checting
2006-10-15 21:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋