each time he become angry,he break something and yesterday he broke my guitar so i hit him for the first time.hes 12 years old and im 21..now im so regret.but i think it is not a good way to go and say sorry to a 12 years old kid.what should i do?(i apologyse bc of my bad english bc im from sweden and my english s not very good)
2006-10-15 20:45:16 · 27 answers · asked by last spiritual man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is nothing wrong with saying sorry if you mean it, I would begin by saying I am sorry I hit you, I am not happy that I did and I know its not the right way to handle things, can you tell me why you broke my guitar? Ask why he is angry and what you can do to make him feel less angry and more happier. Let him know how hurt you are about his behavior and ask him what he can do to help you feel batter about what he's done.... try to remember that for him he is so much younger than you and it may simply be a case of jealousy because of what he perceives are freedoms you have that he doesnt, remind him that you are an adult and that he will also enjoy the same lifestyle as you....this is just a thought his anger may be a result of something else; either way you need to bring it into the open so that his behaviour , which is unacceptable, can be addressed.
2006-10-15 20:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably have turned into a black eye overnight if you were going to get one. Keep holding a cold pack on it though as much as you can. By the way, if it hurts when you bend over, or hurts when you chew, you could have a fractured "orbit", which is the cheekbone/eyesocket. In the dental office we have had a couple of people come in thinking they had a sore upper tooth and it turned out they'd been in a fight and they had a fractured orbit. (As far as I know there's nothing you can do about a fractured orbit except let it heal). I'm sorry to hear you have stuff like this going on in your life. I hope it doesn't happen again :).
2016-05-22 05:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should apologise to him by saying sorry. Why do you think it's bad to say sorry to your brother? Because you're 21 and he's 12 so it's not right for you to say sorry? Nonsense. You should say sorry. That's the best way. Or you can bring him out, treat him to a meal or buy him something which will make him "forget" about you hitting him. 12 year olds are forgiving. Heed my advice. Say sorry to him. It'll make you look like a role model to him. God bless. (:
2006-10-15 20:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and explain very clearly that he needs to stop breaking things and needs to control his anger. He is very likely to hurt himself by having a violent anger. At the end of the talk apologize for hitting him but tell him why you did. You must be firm on telling him this and how you are trying to help him.
2006-10-15 20:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Greg M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize
2006-10-15 20:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok tell him you are sorry / then let him hit you in the arm a few times laughing with him /then just hang out with him a lot / show him some thing on the guitar
hey you know your mistake and now you may have found your best freind
i can understand your and his pain i think so stay close / keep a eye on him dont let him go astray yo
2006-10-15 20:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing. If he's 12 he should know better by now. Sounds to me like a spoiled brat. So don't feel hard on yourself. We all need a good a** whipping every now and then.
2006-10-15 20:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by ctwrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you hurt somebody, apologize regardless of age. Since you are older, say sorry and explain to your brother the reason why you hit him. You may not know that without an apology from you, he might hate you for the rest of his life,
2006-10-15 20:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are sorry then sit down with him and ask him why he broke it and the other things he may be having a problem and this is his way of trying to seek help buy getting you to notice that he is angry,hurt and or scared about something.
2006-10-15 20:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by shelly f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 12 year old will understand more than u think he will just apologize to him like u would anyone else...tell him why u hit him as well...and ask him not to break ur stuff
2006-10-15 20:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by afi_havok_girl_13 . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋