My wife cheated on me?

Question

i have been with her 6 years now and have a son. last year the neighbors wife came to my home to talk with me she told me the my wife was cheating on me with her husband which they were going thru a divorce i told my wife and she told me that it was not true. so i stayed with her then another time the lady comes and shows me her husbands phone bill and a picture of my wife and also a ring that she had pawned and he took it out again she told me it was not true and she made it up. so i believe my wife after a couple of months i put a recorder to my wife and i hear her talking to him and telling him that she loves and how good the sex they had that day and to give her some time to be with him. when i made her hear the tape she cried and made love to me and told me that it was my fault that i did not take care of her and i could not give her money and treated her bad which is a little truth to that but i never cheated. i left the house for 1 week and all she did was call me.dont know why.

Answer 1

pal i know that feeling belive me i was being done like that back in.2001. didnt find out till .2003. once they start to do that i would not trust one who did that i divorced her that same year it puts a lot of stress on you to think that the woman you trusted as loved could sttp that low. as far as money is what excuse was that she degraded your trust .wedding vows. and most of all love. this will happen again my.ex. tried to tell me it was an axident. what a damm joke . so i am not you but every time you start to rest in time you think as what she did and start to wonder . in your best interst i would tell you to rid that tramp and do like me find a woman who has morals she like my. ex sure as hell dont. my opion? good luck ?

Answer 2

Listen, this is a difficult situation people usually cheat when they feel that there partner is not showing them affection or something is lost. Now she made the mistake by thinking she could have both worlds you taking care of her and the attention of another man. We as humans love attention from other people, no matter how long we are with someone and how much we love someone, it's nice to know other people find you attractive but to take it this far then obviously there is a problem. Now you mention that you treat her bad well how do you mean, you have to ask yourself what kind of relationship do you have? I have been with my fiance for 13 years and we have both cheated not because we didn't love each other but for stupid reasons. We have somehow managed to forgive each other and move on but you have to decide if it's worth it. I would suggest seeing a marriage counsler and figuring out where you relationship stands. If she really loves this other man then she needs to decide what she wants with her life you can not have both. Also remember you have a little boy that is affected by this do what is best for him and that may not also be staying together. I wish you the best of luck it is never easy when someone you love hurts you and even if you do forgive that pain never really goes away. However trust me one day you will wake up and it won't be the first thing you think of. Wishing you the best!

Answer 3

so what exactly are you asking man? Do you love her? Love is forgiving. Yes, your pissed now...my parents had the same problem...they worked things out, and are doing alot better. I don't want to get to personal or anything like that, but you are on here sharing personal stuff, so saying that, I'm curious if your sex life is just not working. Cause she must feel insecure with you, and was afraid, and didn't want to be afraid. You need to let her know who's the man of the house. Show her that you can take care of her like you have in the past. I'm sure your a great guy, maybe get back into the romance stages with her again. You need to refresh things. Like you probably know, women like change, they don't like ordinary. That's why women are usually into more of the latest fashion, all those damn shoes, and have to go shopping all the time. You need to make things exciting again. She came back to you because of the guilt and made love with you because that's what she thought would be the quickest and easiest way to win your heart back. Make her work for it. If she loves you, she will, just do one thing, not for you, not for your wife, but for your kid. Just try and keep it between you guys, don't get the kid involved, cause if things work out good, then it would be as nothing happened and no respect would be lost from your child. I'm not sure if what I have said will help, but if there is one thing in life that I have learned, it is that when bad things happen, always look for the good, cause there usually is. Like this, your marriage is shaken, now that you know, you can repair it, and make it stronger than before. Good luck, be strong, and always watch what you say, and how you say it. From here on, everything you say matters most.

Answer 4

What an opportunity you have to show that you truly love your wife. Take her back into your arms, win her heart back to yourself, and make her forget about any other man. I know you're hurt, and that she was very wrong. But if you take her regardless of that you will have a woman that will cherish you for every minute of every day that she has with you from now on. Go back home with some flowers, tell her that if she will cut off all ties with any other man you will stay with her. Then make love to your wife, and continue to win her for the rest of your life. Forgive her and love her, like you promised that you would "until death do you part."

All that she wants and needs is your love. Women aren't like men when it comes to sex. The fact that she made love with you proves that she still loves you, and just wants to be treasured like she feels that she is by the other guy. Just love her!! Don't listen to the other saps here who have no clue what love looks like, who tell you to take off. Most of them have probably either never been married, or were divorced and are bitter about it. Take the high road on this one. You won't regret it.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Ask you self what went wrong with this marriage. many married women look for better sex with other men. if you say that you have treated her badly this could be the cause of her seeking for a other. If a men is good to his wife in every way then she has no reason to look elewhere. You may not have cheated on her bec i think she has given you the best of her.Talk to her again and see what she wants from u and work the problem from there. I hope it work for you.

Answer 6

The other guy was likely bigger, better and longer lasting than you but you are a good meal ticket. So she wants both, her sap hubby and a real man. Do you think you can help her with that? Since being a man is too hard for you I think you should consider this approach. Perhaps her lover can give you some pointers on things your wife enjoys.

Answer 7

First thing that is clear here is that she has cheated on you whatever the reasons may be. If you still have feelings for her and you think she loves you too, then may be you can give your marriage a second chance, if you are ready to forguve her and you trying to cope with her needs too. but if you are not feeling it right to forgive and forget that she has broken your trust then never force yourself into a such a relationship.

Answer 8

She keeps calling because she's afraid she'll be out on her *a* *s* *s* once you grow a spine and get rid of her.

She is totally using you. She may love you, but she can't keep her privates away from other men so that makes her a bad wife.

Don't call her back. Just divorce her, move on, find a decent woman instead of the user who thinks she is so smart to hook you like a big, dumb money tree.

You are better than that. Please don't stay with trash.

Answer 9

Your wife broke up your neighbors marriage.
That was not an oops. That over a year of playing you for the fool. You pay she plays.
I bet she doesn't have a job.
How do you know that your son is yours?

You need to run from that woman. You could never trust her again.
Then you can get for free from her what every one else has been getting.

Answer 10

i think that there is several things you need to take into consideration first; do you still love her? can u trust her again? can you forgive her? if the answer to my three question is yes then i think she deserves a second chance. if not for her then for your son. think of what your son would go through and what you would miss out on. i say give her one more chance. you will see that trust with her again is something she is going to have to earn with you now. but i think you should make her sweat it out before you give things another go. remmber you and her are linked for life cause you share a son together. just follow your heart. best of luck.