Most people on here will not be able to give me a serious answer on this but I'll try?

Question

Why is bisexualiuty so taboo?
If a man who considers himself straight slips up just once and has sex with a guy, everyone can't wait to label him gay, but if a guy who considers himself gay and has sex with a female (and I know alot of 'gay' guys who have done this even AFTER they have come out) then he is still considered gay. Is it just me or is this a double standard? I think any guy or girl who has had sex with people of the same and opposite sex would be considered bisexual. That only seems logical. It also seems like it's so easy for society to label women as bi but not men. I think this is because men rule the media and they find women who are bisexual to be a fantasy and we all know men's fantasies are all that matters...... I also think alot of women lie about being bisexual just to get more attention from men. Sad, isn't it?

Also I've hear a lot of gay guys (and a few lesbians) say that bisexuals don't exist. I think that is very critical of them considering that they do not like it when people tell them that there is not such thing as homosexuality.

Answer 1

I think you're right, there is a lot of condemnation of bisexuals from both straight and gay people. As far as I know, a true bi-sexual has no sexual preference between men and women and usually sleeps with a fairly equal amount of both. Someone who usually sleeps with people of one sex and then sleeps with the other doesn't count as being bi, just like doing it once doesn't make you gay, this is more like experimentation. I guess part of the problem is that so few true bi-sexuals actually exist. Most people I know lean more to one side or the other.

Answer 2

I agree that is a double standard to society in labeling sexuality. I do think that Bisexuality has a certain "taboo" because in a way they can be "accepted" by both straight and gay communities. I agree a woman who is "bi" is more accepting in a straight man's world, VS a bi man , --even though both are having sex with the "same sex". I think with all the media, TV shows, movies, --all with more gay material, I think we are starting to chip away at these stereotypes and hopefully one day we can looks past the sexuality, and into our personalities, Cause it DOSN'T"T matter WHO, you go home to at night, it about how you treat people.

Answer 3

I am heterosexual, but I have noticed to that being gay is considered acceptable. But being Bi-sexual is not. This makes no sense to me. And I agree with you. Most people are very closed minded when it comes to a bi-sexual male. It does seem like he either has to be straight or gay. But women who are bi-sexual are considered sexy. I have heard men say they would love to be with a bi female because it is their fantasy. And yes I believe some women do say they are bi for the attention. And sadly they get it. When I was in collage I used to go clubbing with a girl who said she was bi to get more attention from men. But then got upset when she actually did get hit up on by a women. I think that people need to be true to them selves and just be who they are. And I also believe there is to much judgment going on in the world. I have a wonderful husband and don't feel the need to be with any one else. But I think what a person prefers should be up to them, and not society.

Answer 4

A lot of people when they are young wonder how sex with someone of the same gender would be like. Some try it, a few like it. Those few who only try it once, is it fair to label them as homosexual or bisexual? If they brag about it, they might be trying to get help solving their identity crisis. They should not brag because there are strong religious taboos in Christian society as regards homosexuality. The Old Testament says that homosexuality is an abomination in the eyes of God.

Answer 5

To be honest, I can't really give you an answer because to me it sounds like you're making more of a point than you are asking a question.

I think you bring up some really good points though. To be honest, it kind of reminds me of the Madonna-Whore complex. If a girl hasn't had sex yet, she's a prude. If she has sex once (and God forbid if she has it with more than one person,) then she's labelled a whore -- Even though guys can have multiple sex partners and it's considered normal, and NEVER taboo. And to be honest, if a woman is labelled 'bi' she's either considered kind of dirty or weird. I don't think that's right, but I felt it worth mentioning.

And one last thing... There are some girls that are honestly bi-sexual, and that's fine. You are who you are, and there's no shame in that. But I can recall a lot of girls in high school who at one point considered themselves bi-sexual and were interested in their other female friends, but as soon as they found a guy who was interested in them they suddenly weren't bi anymore. It's just something else to consider, to broaden one's thought process.

Answer 6

We confuse people and it threatens them. For gay men and women, it appears to be fence sitting. And in all fairness a great many "bi" people do just that. They keep the security and acceptance of the heterosexual lifestyle in their back pocket and when they are done satisfying their sexual needs they whip it out and declare that they were wrong, they really ARE heterosexual. What they are is simple, liars and cheats.

However, there are many like my partner and myself. I've had long term relationships with both men and women since puberty. I was married to a man for a long time and had children with him. I don't apologize to anyone for falling in love with people not genatalia. However, at a late point in my life, I found my life partner, a woman.

We often talk about we wish we had met each other when we were 20, our lives would have been very different. But better late than never, and she will be my last relationship.

Bi women are very popular right now cause its sexy and it sells things. Its also a very popular fantasy with heterosexual men, most of whom, no bisexual woman would have a thing to do with. Advertizing is not known for being anything other than fantasy, who's mom really looked like the one's in the appliance ad's from the 50's and 60's? How many woman actually look like the women in fashion ads?

The best way to be accepted in any culture is to have high standards for yourself and hold to them. Good character makes the person, and you should never be afraid of having to prove yourself. Blow off the idiots who breed hate, and pay attention to those who are like yourself, common decent people.

Answer 7

Well I can't speak for others but as a gay man who is also a father, I can tell you bisexuality does exist. My son is bi, married to a beautiful woman and also has his boyfriend living with him and his wife. To be sure, not your average grouping, but after 3 kids and 13 years of marriage, all three of them are still together. I don't know what to make of it, but they are all one very big, happy and healthy family. Also, you are correct, there does seem to be a double standard out there.

Answer 8

I think there are a lot of misconceptions about what is meant by bisexual,maybe this may help.

Top Myths About Bisexual Men

Homosexuals and heterosexuals alike often misunderstand the nature of bisexuality. The thought of a person that is attracted to both men and women can be confusing and frequently leads to misconceptions and stereotypes. Below are the top 5 myths about bi men.

* Bisexuality Is Only a Phase

For years the gay community has challenged heterosexuals who publicly state that homosexuality is only a phase. Bisexuals face the same generalization from both the gay and straight community. Many bisexuals are completely in touch with their emotions and desires for members of both sexes and often feel limited by the thought of attraction to only a man or woman. Emotional connections often take precedence when bisexuals pursue a potential partner. Bisexuality is just as much of a natural preference as homosexuality and heterosexuality.

* Bi Men Have to Choose To Be Either Gay or Straight

Bisexuals are attracted to both men and women on both an emotional and physical level.Some "lean straight" (meaning they prefer a member of the opposite sex, but same sex partners are always an option) and others "lean gay" (which means they prefer members of the same sex, but would consider a relationship with a member of the opposite sex). Nonetheless, they are not simply gay or straight and definitely do not have to choose.

* Bisexual Men are Sexually Confused

A common misconception in both the gay and heterosexual communities is that bisexuals are sexually confused and cannot make up their minds which sex they like. However, that's the whole point- bisexuals are attracted to both sexes and are in many cases more clear about their sexuality than most others.

* Bisexual Men Will Never Marry

Alongside the thought that bisexual men and women are sexually confused is the myth that they will never be able to settle on a partner of any sex. In many cases bisexuals put a lot of emphasis on emotional connections with either sex. This in mind, the opportunity for them to find a life partner is just as viable as it is for a heterosexual or homosexual. However, since same-sex marriage isn't legal in most places of the world, only a heterosexual marriage in most places will be recognized by law.

* Bi Men are Sexually Promiscuous

Bisexuals are no more promiscuous than any others. Promiscuity (or frequent sex with multiple partners) depends on the individual irrespective of their sexual preference. However, liking both sexes increases a bisexual's chances of a sexual encounter or potential relationship (by shear numbers alone).

hugs!

Answer 9

the american society is still at the point where ANYTHING to do with homosexuality is taboo including being bisexual. so in the hetero community it's all taboo because of the religous reich.
as far as it being taboo in the homosexual community, it's more of a person to person thing (it is in the hetero community too - i have no problem what so ever with homosexuals). i don't know any gay people who have a problem with bi's - and having a brother & a cousin who are gay and a lesbian friend who i call my lesbian girlfriend i think you can see i'm not short of homosexual friends.
my brother initially came out as bi - i think to soften the blow to his father, but he says now having sex with a woman was like having sex with a german shepard - no feeling to it. odd analagy in my mind but it works for him.
the only thing taboo in my mind is people who have sex without feelings for the other person - other than that, i don't give a rat's donkey!

Answer 10

most people don't want to deal with bi- people simply because you can't compete. if a guy wants a woman there's nothing you can do to combat that. and a lot of the bi-sexual people i've known are players big time, approaching sex addict status ( i know not all, just my experience) i think a one time hookup with the same sex can just be a curiosity thing, but if you continually have relations with both sexes you can be considered bi-sexual............but honestly why do we need to box people, we're all just homosapiens after all!