due to his fantasy he want to see me in someone's arms making love and all but i love him and i dont want to do it. so he stays angry with me, i dont know wat to do? :-(
2006-10-15 20:22:51 · 17 answers · asked by irish women 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-10-15 20:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ilya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psychologically speaking, this out of this world fantasies are common to men. This phenomena however, only occurs after 2-3 years of marriage. Although it might not be an accurate indication that your husband doesn't love you anymore, it can be a sign of a relationship turning sour.
There is no better way to resolve this other than to talk to your husband. You have to be open to him, tell him what you really feel about his fantasy... just express yourself. Your husband will give you reason, and will even justify. If your husband, insists on his fantasy despite you telling him that you feel bad about it, then its about time to take the second step. consult the help of a psychologist. As for my advise to you, you share your problem to your friends, preferably female friends who are also married. Through this activity, you'll be able to gain more information about this matter. Don't be ashame to solicit their advice. Surely, you'll hear the same advice I've just said from your close and true friends.
I am not saying that you should file for a divorce or something. I'm not saying that your husband is bad. You have to understand that your husband might be having a psychological disorder, and this is the best time that you show him how you love him and that you're going to face the problem together. Do not condemn your husband, neither should you give in to his request. Rather, understand him and together, you find a solution to this problem.
cheers.
2006-10-16 03:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lars Ulrich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him is this really a fantasy of his, or is he hiding some guilt towards the fact that he has slept with someone else? There are just somethings that don't add up, and this should deffinitley be one of those red flags that tell you danger!!! I bet he is hiding something, and until he knows you have been with someone else he will not feel better. What a chump!!! Typical straight male reaction to any problem. However, he isn't going to let you cheat on him behind his back because it has to be by his terms. What a Jerk!!! Tell your husband you want a divorce, and that your sueing for alomony if you find out this is the case. Manipulators **** me off!!!
2006-10-16 03:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. He, your husband, wants you, his wife, to have a sexual encounter with someone else? What part of the whole marriage ceremony did he sleep through? Sounds to me that he has some issues he needs to deal with. I can understand that you care for this man, but everyone is going to tell you the same thing, leave him. And remember this, if everyone tells you that you need help, get it! If everyone tells you to leave before you get hurt, leave! in most consensus, people will give you good advice. If you have kids please get them out of a situation where it might be harmful to them. Some peoples sexual desires no matter how personal they are can affect the ones they care about the most. What if the kids see mommy with a new man or daddy with a new woman? Get help or get out!
2006-10-16 03:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by RIDLEY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is not the only one with fantasies like that. If you're not comfortable doing it then don't. Otherwise you may regret it later.However , if you wanna give in to your husband's wish, isuggest you tell him that you be the one to choose whom you wanna sleep with. Choose someone you do not know , and someone you are also physically attracted to, this might help you enjoy more.
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2006-10-16 03:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Boboy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's HIS fantasy. Remind him of that.
HIS FANTASY IS NOT YOURS. DON'T DO IT.
It's not wrong for him to want to see that but it is wrong to try to force it on you.
My old boyfriend wanted that too....we did it. I left him for the new guy and we are married now. Would I ever do it again? NO way. I love my husband too much.
2006-10-16 03:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do have a strange man. i am almost that way but not quite as bad don't get angry like that . i noticed you don't have email listed i wanted to chat more with you how about you email me at miked452001@yahoo.com
2006-10-16 04:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what sort of husband will do that kind of thing?! i felt sorry for you that you still love him for that. if i'm in you position i would have kick him out from my life entirely.
2006-10-16 03:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husbund really loved you he wouldn't want to see you with another man.
2006-10-16 03:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek marriage counseling. He's got problems and good for you not folding under pressure!
2006-10-16 03:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋