I just broke up with my long-distance lover because he has a serious jealous streak (false accusations of me cheating on him). This is the second time he's done this, so this time I decided to end it. Even though we've split, I'm hurting as he was my first love. But the way I look at it, I can't be with a man if he doesn't trust me to be faithful to him. But it still hurts. How can a woman dealing with the loss of her first love cope? Any suggestions?
2006-10-15 20:01:45 · 13 answers · asked by cherrycharmca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take very good care of yourslef. Do something nice, like treat yourself to a spa visit. Take care of YOU. It is you who should be important to you. Dear, I know it hurts, especially the long distance one, because you were always thinking about him and now every thought of him runs into a brick wall.
If you decided to end it it means you are a very strong person. You will find a better life for yourself. Just take it one day at a time. At first, there will be good days and bad days, but eventually your days will be mostly good days, and bad days will eventually disappear.
2006-10-15 20:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 07:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go away and hide in my room and I cry. I feel the pain and I cry. Then I go get my nails done and I get my hair done and I get new clothes and I go out with my girlfriends. I also would NEVER talk to either one of them again. Not even look at them if I know they are in the same place as I. I wouldn't give them the opportunity to make me feel bad again. Ever. I'm sorry, but I would carry a huge grudge and make sure I did better next time.
2016-05-22 05:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance love is always going to be difficult. but get out there and start living meet up with friends and go out keep away from the computer and dont wait for him to call or email you. you sound very young do not rush into a new relationship have fun
2006-10-15 20:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sam's 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear... i would like to share one thing with u... love those who love u and respect u..... so if u like to respect urself u'd be happy that u left that jerk.... i must tell u these possessive and jealous lovers are not really in love with u they are in love with themselves... it is the best step u have taken for urself.... so be proud ..... n i tell u.... rthis notion of first love is really one sick notion of ppl with mentality of sick possessive ness so cool man try to engage urself in some activity that u like the most ... im sure intelligent being like u who left a guy for ur dignity will have some fantastic interests so try find out those first set ur priorities..... aur bhi gam hain zmane mein mohobat e sive... so chill lady..... i hope u don't mind the language..... so be cool love life just snap out of it.... anyone can do that....
2006-10-15 20:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Preet_Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know, but for me either its first love or not, breaking up is always hard. hard because especially us women, we give it our all even if we know that we shouldnt. yes you are right, if he cant learn to trust you now, how can he learn it later when too much emotional investment is involved and even financial?. well dear, keep in mind why you have to break it up with him, this will make things easier to bear. cry. you have to go thru this process and learn to let go then go out with your friends and enjoy, but the fastest way i guess is to have a sense of purpose in living and try reaching that purpose or goal, later you'll discover that you have completely moved on with your life. see you have to make yourself busy with something important for you, a direction for youe own self to make things easy. good luck!
2006-10-15 20:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r seriously hurted and this was ur first love u sould try to compromize in some way.........because life is jus ither name of compromise nothing else
2006-10-15 20:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by shailesh g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-06 18:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Trina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its true that time will heal wound but right now i think you should go out with friends..do what you like...if you like clubbing then go clubbing but dont drink until you drunk..that hurt feeling still there but if you keep on thinking about it, you only feel worse..when i broke up with my 1st bf, i go to the gym and exercise like mad...tone my body and tell myself its his loss for losing me and have fun with my friends...it help,try it..
2006-10-15 20:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by fallforniky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-15 20:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋