I am married but not in love with my wife. But I cannot fake it. But she says she is in love with me. I am confused!!
2006-10-15 19:59:38 · 33 answers · asked by maker c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-19 16:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds like you are doing a pretty good job of faking it to me.. How on earth does your wife not know you are not in love with her? Why did you marry her if you didn't love her?There is no reason for you to be confused you do need to to stop the problem before it's blown out of proportion and you have a Glenn Close type Fatal Attraction situation on hand!!!
2006-10-15 20:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say women can fake an orgasm but men can fake whole relationships. You can't fake the emotion of love, but you can fake everything in a relationship so it's close enough. Try reading The Naked Husband by Mark D'Arbanville. It will give you some insight and might help with your confusion.
2006-10-15 20:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by mmasseychase 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can fake love for the meantime....but in the long run, truth prevails, action speaks louder than words...You don't love her but your got married, you said you married her but you don't love her ( there must be a good reason),and the worse thing is "she loves you"..does your wife knows that you don't love her? What a silly question isn't it.Well it's better to her the truth, in the first place it is unfair to both of you, you're living a life of hell.Be true to yourself, he honest with one another, tell her the truth that you don't love her, yes it is painful in her part, it really takes time to heal all wounds,but sooner it will be over. You should face reality, acceptance place a part...Who wants to live in a home of "lies" anyway!?
2006-10-15 20:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry the poor girl in the first place?Anyone can fake love but there is no point to it ask yourself why you married her what attracted you to her maybe this will help to love her really again .If not be honest tell divorce and move on .Divorce really hurts so think hard before making that decision.
2006-10-15 20:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time,when u r in a marriage,u will find ur love faint away slowly as time goes n left behind is responsiblity,not to you only,alot of others too
when u ask most couples married for a long long time,most of them will tell u,they dun know if they r used to the companionship or they still in love with the partner
u might not feel the love with ur wife already but there is an invisible responsiblity u have to have on her
all the best to you
2006-10-15 20:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Western 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didnt love her why did you marry her in the first place. Was it an arraanged marriage or were you forced into it. You havent mentioned how long you have been married, if the marriage is a few months old, give it a try you might start falling in love with your wife.
2006-10-15 22:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone love you and nobody can make you happy. Whew, is that ever hard to buy. I can already hear the screams of protest: "What do you mean you can't get anyone to love you? What a depressing thought! You mean there's nothing I can do to get my wife to love me? What are you saying? There's no love in a marriage? If so, why get involved with someone if they can't make you happy! Why are you telling us this depressing garbage?"
Well, the truth of the matter is, it's not depressing; it's liberating! Here's how:
First of all, we've all been hypnotized into believing that our true love will heal all hurts. All we need to do is find our handsome and brave Prince Charming or our beautiful and compassionate Snow White and magically all pain will disappear. Our perfect love will know how to give to us unconditionally; will be devoted to making us happy and will anticipate and meet every one of our needs and wants. Our perfect love will heal all our hurts and will be infinitely patient with every one of our shortcomings. This compassionate and giving spirit will have one goal in life: To give endlessly to make us gloriously happy.
2006-10-19 01:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very normal and common feeling. You only need to do something new with your wife. May be outing, travelling or just something in s*x which you did not do before, take her out for lavish dinner or bring her some bunch of roses.
2006-10-15 22:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by akela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with someone for about 2 years and I was not in love with him. Although I was very good to him he knew I was not in love with him. I thought I was doing a very good job of going through the motions until one day he asked...I know you love me, but are you in love with me? That is when I knew that he was aware of my true feelings for him. So I have to say no, although some people believe what they want to believe.
2006-10-15 20:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by bluebird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you confused? Were you in love when you got married and now you are not?
Whats the deal?
2006-10-15 20:01:50 · answer #11 · answered by triniqueen40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋