My boyfriend and I have dated for over a year. We are very happy and in love. Anyone who meets us or knows us thinks were the perfect couple. We plan on getting married in the near future. The problem is this past weekend we went to visit his parents out of state. Ive met them before and his mom really loved me or so I thought. Then this weekend when her and I were alone she went off on me and called me a slut. Which I am not and have never been. She also started saying I was only with his for his money. And if he marries me and we have a family which we both want- she doesnt want to have anything to do with them. Apparently my boyfriends brother whom he shares a condo with has been telling her everything about our personal relationship. His mom and brother believe that I am a poison that is ruining their family. All I do is respect and love my boyfriend with all my heart. And the two people who should be happy for him think im ruining their family. What do I do?
2006-10-15 19:47:56 · 9 answers · asked by Stephanie Ann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think u shouldn't worry about his parents or brother. As long as u and ur bf love one another like u said then it doesn't matter what others think even if it is his family. It might be hard to ignore and put aside but u should try because if his mother really cares for her son then she should start showing it and respect his decision to be with u. As for her not having any thing to do with u and ur future family then she will regret it. Gud luck.. hope his mum gets over it
2006-10-15 19:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by if_i_f4ll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation when I was younger with my ex-husbands family. Notice I said EX!! His family no matter how nice I was, whatever, it didn't matter they just had something against me. His parents were divorced and his mom seemed to like me, it was his dad and his step mother whom I think had a thing for my ex to begin with. I stuck it out with him because I loved him and I put up with his family. When I got pregnant with his child his family wanted me to have an abortion which I didn't and the baby is now 18 and I also have a 13 yr. old from him. Well my ex turned out to be a jack*** anyway. My suggestion to you is if you really love him stick with him and be glad the family live's out of state and do what you feel you should do and follow your heart. I wish you luck!! I had fun going against what my ex's family wanted. I knew they wanted me out of the picture so I tried to stay in it as long as I could just to piss them off. If I hadn't stuck to what I wanted I wouldn't have the kids that I have today and I love them so much, that was one good thing I got out of the marriage. Good luck!!
2006-10-15 20:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend about this... Get his opinion and see if you can find out why the feelings have changed, also suggest a chat with the brother. You need to be careful with this because they are the only parents he has. Good luck and do your best to keep a level head.
2006-10-15 19:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by phippsjen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You b/f needs to take this up firstly with his brother who is the main cause of this whole thing. At the end of the day, it's your b/f that has to make the stance with his family if he is to be a man of charater and strong, decisive direction in your relationship going forward to marriage. After he deals with his brother and talks to his mother, if they are not prepared to come to the table of peace, then all you can do is move on with your plans and hopw that they come to their senses down the track. I WOULD BE KICKING YOUR BROS IN LAW TO BE OUT ON HIS @RSE so that he can't see what's going on in your relationship or at the very least, you and your b/f move in together and leave mister motor mouth with his lonesome.
2006-10-15 19:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Linda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, I hope you did set his mother straight in a "Nice Nasty Way"..She has no right calling you out of your name.. If you and her son love each other then it is what it is.. Part of the problem sounds like she and her brother have nothing else to do with their lives, there is a saying that goes..."GET YOU SOME BUSINESS" !!! Y ou need to tell them that!
2006-10-15 19:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are jealous. I think you should just kill them with kindness. As long as your boyfriend loves and respects you thats all that matters. Does he know what is going on? He should step up and confront his family and let themknow how much you mean to him. I know how you feel thats how my mother in law was. I didnt let her get to me. I was in love with her son not her. Now she kisses my ***! She knows that my husband stands up for me now not her just dont let them come between your relationship.
2006-10-15 19:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by nay629 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EASY DO NOT LET HIM BITE YOU IN THE BUTT ARE YOU LOVING KIND CARING TELL THAT MAMA SHE NEED TO LOVE YOU AND RESPECT YOU NOT CALL YOU A NAME SHE SHOULD STOP MEDDLING IN HER SON AFFAIR IF YOU LOVE HIM BE GENTLE STAY HAPPY SMILE IF THIS IS LOVE IT WILL BE SO BOW WOW HAVE FUN AND OPEN UP YA HEART MIND GET IT ON GIRL LOVE IS NOT WAR MAKE PEACE!^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
2006-10-15 20:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
am sorry but
things may not work out.'cause they already ave a negative attitude towards you.
but if he really loves you he wont mind them.
a piece of advice 'love your enemys,it will drive them crazy!!!' lol
take care and be stronge!!
2006-10-15 20:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try ur best to get along with all,,, but,,,rembmber it is ur boyfriend u have tomake happy, not them.... AND, dont ever, in anyway, give them reason to doubt ur love or faithfulness... also, remember, name calling will never hurt you, IF it is not true.... it will only make it harder for them to apologize.. keep trying to get along, if ur really in love....
2006-10-15 19:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by efitz53022 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋