My husband has this ex girlfriend who keeps calling asking him if he could start over and be "friends" So i sent her an email.
This is what i sent to her........
( my husband )and I are back together. You and I have never met face to face but we have spoke on the phone. I am telling you this as one married woman to another leave my husband alone. You two are ex's and ex's are that for a reason there will be no starting over.
She is married and she is pregnant (by her husband) but she won't leave my husband alone.
She hasn't replyed back and i was wondering do you think what i said was rude?
2006-10-15 19:45:41 · 24 answers · asked by mystic_rage879 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is she still contacting your husband about anything?I feel like hubby is liking the attention.He needs to quit answering her e-mails,get off the computer,and start acting like he's happy the two of you are back together.Was this ex the reason you all broke up? And no you were not rude.You were a perfect lady.You told her what you thought and that SHOULD be the end of it.
2006-10-15 20:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by jean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its rude, I think its honest. Rude would be 'listen *****, you best leave my husband alone or i'm coming to your house with my baseball bat and ...' Of course I'd find out why shes getting in contact with him again. If its just to be friends thats one thing. But how often do we 'just want to be friends ' with our exes? Maybe shes begining to realize what she left, and if thats the case, then you ending it before anything started is probably for the best, whether she percieved it as rude or not. She probably hasnt replied yet because she's embarrassed or just doesnt know what to say. If youre feeling bad about it (which you shouldnt) just email her again and tell her that you werent trying to be rude, and while you have nothing against her as a person, it just makes you uncomfortable.
2006-10-16 02:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not rude or out of line one bit. She most likely did not respond for a number of differnt reasons- 1). She was busted and embarressed 2). She told you husband
What you don't say here is if your husband has told her "no" - his ego is probably loving it now!!! I would hope that your husband backs you all the way.
Do not ask for a reply - she is simply unworthy of all your attention. You said your peace and accomplished what you set out to do, "leave my husband alone"- AMEN!
2006-10-16 09:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you say to another married woman who is chasing after your husband is totally fine. Swear, use language, force if you have to. Don't think you are ever being 'rude' to someone who is trying to steal your husband! You have every right to tell her to leave you two alone so you can get on with the rest of your lives! I encourage you to step up and fight for him! You go girl!
Good Luck!!
2006-10-16 02:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you go girl! no you were not wrong to tell her a_ss that way. you were alot nicer than i would have been. i hope she leaves you guys alone now. i would also think about telling her husband what she is doing an tell him you want NO more problems from her in your marriage. this should work too for you. she is sure enough a sneaking lil' bi_tch! an i bet her hubby does not know she wants to still be friends with her ex. wish i could see her face when her hubby ask her about her choice in friends...good luck!
2006-10-16 06:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way you werent rude to her! I would have said some not to nice words to her if I were you. You should get in touch with her husband and let her know what she is up too, then maybe she will leave your husband alone
2006-10-16 02:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by nay629 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you can't trust your husband to stay faithful to you and to deal with this woman properly on his own, then I think you did the right thing.
If you CAN trust him to handle this correctly...well, then you are just an insecure and transparently jealous little girl.
Either way you have a problem.
2006-10-16 02:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by hoyhoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats alot nicer than I would have been. My husbands ex tried to be friends with him in the beginning of our relationship. Luckily she caught on that I didnt want it to happen and backed away.
2006-10-16 03:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You told her exactly the way it is. She is the one being rude (not to mention stupid) to keep calling your husband. If she starts again, you need to confront him directly about it and have him back you up on this (maybe both of you will have to tell her). She's out of line in this one, and should be directing her attention to her own family.....not yours.
2006-10-16 02:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by LSF 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it wasnt rude. But to tell you the truth, it should of been your husband who said this to her, not you.
All i know is that I would have said much nastier things if someone was messing with my husband.
2006-10-16 03:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by babyj248 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋