I am a mother of five. I i had my children very young. My first child when I was 15, my 3rd by 19, and my last two by 24.... It wans't easy.. My oldest is now about to turn 18 this year and my anxiety attacks are starting to get unbearable, this all started about a month afer his 17th birthday... Is this normal? What do I do or expect next?
2006-10-15 19:36:48 · 10 answers · asked by wherenai 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, you are normal. You are having anxiety attacks because deep down you feel as though he may go down the same road you did. You just don't want him to make a "mistake," like have kids early, be a bum, etc. You also have insecurities about watching your child grow up because you as a mother feel very attached to him and now he's about to be a man.
If you go to therapy you will be taught how to cope with your anxiety.
However that is not what you need. You need to know that you have taught him well enough that as a man, he can stand and make his own decisions. You also need to know that he can still count on you as Mom whether he's 18 or 80. And that depends on whether be trusts you and how well built your bond was with him.
If you taught him well and you trust each other then you have nothing to worry about.
If you haven't then I recommend you have a honest heart-2-heart talk with him explaining how you feel.
You anxiety will go away the moment you are comfortable about this whole thing.
If you are still worry, then I recommend a mental excerise. This is the excerise: You imagine all of your worries about him come out of your chest (where you feel anxiety) and let it grow into a balloon. Now imagine ALL the worry as the balloon with a string. You are holding onto the string. Just look at the balloon and take note of it. Is it heavy? Light? What color is it? Don't judge it. When you are comfortable, just let go of the string. And watch the balloon of worry float away.
Then from then on always imagine that everything will be okay with your son. That no matter what he does, he can't make a bad decision. And as for you, just imagine being happy, accepting, peaceful, and healthy and you will be.
2006-10-15 20:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a doctor but it sounds like you ahve PTSD and never really dealt with it. Sleeping pills are nice for gteting you to sleep but they don't cure the anxiety and fear you feel at your husband's occupation. I am married to a police officer and I suffer from post partum mood and anxiety disorder and it was exacerabted over the last year because he was on night shift, so I know what you're talking about. I am on an anti anxiety medication that is nonhabit forming and I am in counseling to help me deal with the anxiety. I suggest you seek counseling first and if a prescription medication is needed to treat the anxiety than by all means take advantage of the resources available to you. You don't want to put the burden of healing you on your children because they will grow up paranoid, nuerotic messes. BTW you are ARE NOT A BAD MOM!! Trying to keep a family together when you've lost a spouse is an immeasurably difficult task!
2016-03-28 11:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suffered with the attacks for nine years. I hate to tell you this but they don't just disappear overnight. Medication does seem to hlep curbing them so see your doctor.
The panic disorder seems to hit those that have a fairly low self esteem or an usual stress load. I fell into both categories.
Coffee is a huge inducer of an attack and should be avoidied. If I even drink a quarter of a regular coffee, I get very light headed and dizzy immediately. As a result, I drink decaf only. Here is the strange part: I drink lots of Coke and the caffeine doesn't seem to bother me!
Good luck and do get help before you get full blown panic attacks.
2006-10-15 19:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by billydee49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so happy, it was only a 35 minute drive ( 70 minutes total) but absolutely no sign of anxiety or panic i shopped till I dropped - brilliant! I will now go for the next stage DUAL CARRIAGE way, probably at the weekend, with my husband accompanying me first then the solo drive, if successful the final stage of driving on motorway
Beat Anxiety And Panic Attacks Naturally?
2016-05-17 07:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find out what causes your anxiety attacks...is it because you care to much, worry to much for the boy? Or is it something else?
Only by knowing the cause would you be able to resolve the problem..seek professional help from doc if needed, don't drag it too long in case the problem turn bigger than you can handle, take care!
2006-10-15 19:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest, if you're not already going this route, getting him into a therapist. I don't just mean a psychiatrist for medication but someone to help him sort out what is causing the anxiety. You could contact your local hospitals for information on low cost to no cost counselors in your area.
You may also find some helpful information on this site:
http://www.anxietypanic.com/
Good luck
2006-10-15 19:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by ~moon~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U worried about ur son, the fact that he isn't a child anymore and that he has to make a future for himself. U need to let him go. i think its the hardest for a mother to do so for their son. if their is some underlining problem, see help, or speak to a close friend.
2006-10-15 19:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to learn to let go and trust. you are holding on him to tight and worrying too much..pray is the best thing. pray for calm spirit on your side and instead of worrying as God to guide your son. Trust God on this..
2006-10-15 19:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by d2k_betsy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seek professional help
2006-10-15 22:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
SEE A PSYCHIATRIST
2006-10-15 19:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋