I was on the pill for about three years. I want to have a baby. I am 18 and my fience is 31. Why are we having troubles? I have been off the pill for about 5 months now. Every month i think i might be pregnant but it always ends up in heartache. We want a natural child. Why is this happening to us?
There are so many people on here that abuse being able to have a child. Like having an abortion or smoking, drinking, using drugs. We are both drug and alcohol free. We dont smoke, have a healthy diet and all.
Why do some people take having a baby for granted????
2006-10-15 19:33:30 · 10 answers · asked by jamin s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
To USC chick, I think we would be better off having a child, even though we are not married, than someone who is a drug addict that has gotten knocked up. That child wouldnt be loved, it would live a life in the streets, stealing for food, and then grow up to be a drug addict itself.
So what do you think is better?
An unmarried couple (who are engaged and will be married before the baby is even born)
Or a drug addict that would never love the baby in the first place.
I think you should think about what you write before you post it.
2006-10-15 20:16:23 · update #1
it doesn't matter what other people do. i know it sounds unfair "how could other couples smoke and do drugs and still have babies and we cant"
first though, you guys should acctually b married before you have a child. don't have an illegitimate kidlet. that is just as important as not smoking or diriking.
to me, you'd be one that is taking a baby for granted. my husband and i have been trying (not for long, i admit, but still), and here you are, couples that are tyring before they are married.
2006-10-15 19:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down....I know that 5 months of trying seems like forever, but it really is no cause for concern until you've been trying for a year or so. My husband and I tried for 7 months before we got pregnent with our son, and we are also a healthy 23 year old and 35 year old couple. You probably are not getting pregnant because you're stressing out about it, which affects your body. What worked for me is I got an ovulation test and planned a little weekend getaway at a nice hotel during my ovulation week. We just relaxed by the pool, had a few cocktails, and a few weeks later found out that we were having a baby! But, if you want my advice as a young new mom--don't rush it! I love having my son, but I didn't realize that my life as I knew it would be over. I'm lucky if I can even get a shower without having to run out with shampoo in my hair. I really wish that I would have spent more time just enjoying my husband and building a strong marraige before bringing kids into the picture. But either way, I wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-15 20:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by hellojamie2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can't stress over getting pregnant because that makes it harder for you to get pregnant.
First rule of getting pregnant is that you have to be relaxed.
Second, since you have only been off the pill for 5 months, you may need to wait a little longer since it can take up to a year for your body to get back to normal. In normal attempts, it takes people up to a year of trying.
I am older (40) and didn't have the luxury of time so I bought a fertility monitor for $200. I lucked out and got pregnant the first month when I was 38. I have since then had a second child and am now done.
The monitor showed me the exact days of when it would be best to try to conceive.
There are also cheaper ovulation predictor kits.
2006-10-15 19:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes on average for a healthy couple 1 year to conceive, you are still very young to have a doctor consider you infertile. Keep trying for a year and if nothing happens, Look at seeing a Doctor that can help
2006-10-15 20:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got been pregnant thrice by probability, maximum of those being one random time of having intercourse unprotected and VOILA! Pregnant. the different thrice, i became attempting to conceive. the 1st time took approximately 2 months of attempting, the 2d time took 3 months, and this time took 5 months. BTW, once you're a week previous due, why have not you examined yet?
2016-10-16 06:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just meant to be mums and getting angry that other people are having healthy babies isnt really doing you your fiancee or the other mothers any justice... you have no idea of their situation or anything so please relax and worry about your own pregnancy or TTC anyway, id suggest you chart your ovulation by taking your BBT in the morning everyday before you get up start taking folic acid and have yolur fiancee add a bit of zinc to his diet, give it time relax and enjoy it... you will get there have faith
2006-10-15 19:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by kylie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young for a baby! Wait till you have been married for four years.
2006-10-15 19:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by David B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting married, that usually helps.
God has a funny way doesn't he.
2006-10-15 19:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to me!!! iam free
2006-10-15 20:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah.
2006-10-15 20:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋