My wife and I recently split, and I swear she makes me so mad sometimes, aahhhhhrrrrgggg. She will stay out all night, lie to me and cheat. Yet even today I would do anything for her. Am I just a sap. She has a drug problem, and I am a recovering alocoholic, that's why I left. She seems to like my grief. even texting me in the middle of the night to say some one is eating her *******. It makes me crazy, but I still love her and want to be with her. What can I do to get over this pain. please not smart *** answers ok this time I serious. thanks.
2006-10-15 19:02:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oops that shoud say I am serious. thanks
2006-10-15 19:03:38 · update #1
between love and hate very thin line,when people on drugs or alcohol,they really not in the right mind.so don't take this personally,leave her alone,tell her that you will be there for her when she is ready to go to rehab,otherwise you won't no part of her,maybe she will realize that you serious what you saying she will come around,be strong,don't let her to manipulate you.
2006-10-15 19:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a valid reason to be pissed off. I feel bad for you man, but you gotta cut this one loose. Two major things have been destroyed. First one being communication, which basically isn't there due to the fact she's lying to you. Number 2 she is a serious repeat offender on the cheater board. Without trust there's only lust. But the clincher is that she's so low she'd text you about such horse**** is so unscrupulous. Look at it this way you're a recovering alcoholic, so you've made the decision to end the cycle of damage to yourself. This alone is an incredible feat & I respect you for that. But it sounds like she still has drug problems. And being exposed to that & all the mental frustration she's putting you through, it could cause you to relapse. There is no person in the world who is worthy of your love that would treat you that badly. What I've advised you of is going to be far easier said than done. But you're already kicking the crap outta alcoholism, so I'm guessing you have yourself one hell of a steel will. Just keep your eyes open & lead with your heart. I'm damn sure you're going to find the right woman for you. Whatever you do don't take the blame on this one. Just because you had part in it, that doesn't mean that it's all on you. Keep your head up & take care.
2006-10-16 02:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by ccl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has issues, but she must care for you in her fashion. If she were doing the things she said she was, she would not take the time out to text you. With her drug problem, things do not look good for the two of you, unless you both are willing to get counseling, and she is willing to get help to stop doing drugs. It will be a difficult path for you two to make it, but not an impossible one.Good luck to both of you.
2006-10-16 02:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proud that you left her for one. She is so disrespecting you, because she texts you in the middle of the night, and says that, thats so wrong. you dont deserve that. You dont deserve that she cheats, lies and such on. It takes time to get over someone, but eventually you will move on, and find someone else. Congrats on the recovering. Thats a smart choice.
2006-10-16 02:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You love her, but you hate her behavior. You love her but have you forgiven her? Are you against therapy or support groups? What is even worse than being addicted to substances is being addicted to drama. Let go of the drama. There is someone out there who wants to love you softly and gently. Is that what you really want?
2006-10-16 02:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Onjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off Rob, you shouldn't go on line full of self pity and lie to the public. Are you willing to tell the truth about what you have done to your wife? Lets see, you used her for money until it was gone and then left her while she was at work one day. You cheated on her two times for sure, one of them you even proposed to, with the same ring you proposed to her with. The other one she walked in on the two of you naked! plus several other affairs with women you worked with. you also stole money from her checking account and payed your ex her child support. The list goes on and on. she found pictures of you in her panties and bra on line, with a dildo up your butt! now lets see here Rob, do you really think you deserve sympathy from the public? I think not! might I add to the list, has been communicating and hitting on my best friend (ex) secretly for the past few weeks, or atleast thats what i know of, and the two of them were suppose to love and care about her! what a total loser dude!
2006-10-16 14:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
its not easy to let some one go when u still love her. but she does not love u i know its hard to do but u must let her go and find u an nice lady they r out there good luck and may god be with u
2006-10-16 02:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by wowmecute2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is in a similar situation but not the same and I don't have drug problem....
why don't you try to not show your sadness to her? if you don't worry about the things that she does, probably she'll change her way of living whit you
2006-10-16 02:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by laura v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that exactly what my question is. i love his guy (he isnt a husband). he makes me sick all the time. i hated him so much. yet i wanted him like hell.
2006-10-16 02:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by The Lioness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋