i've been working at my new job for a good 4 months now, and i've made friends with most of the other workers, but there's one guy who i just can't seem to find a common ground with. i don't think he's a bad guy, but we just keep misunderstanding eachother. i'll say somthing friendly to him and he takes it the wrong way and vice versa. i sense that he's getting frustrated with me and i wish i knew of a way to make our working together more pleasant. any suggestions would be awsome.
2006-10-15 18:36:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
You are paying too much attention to be right - just chill, he'll come around.
He's not your boss, is he? LOL
2006-10-15 18:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by B N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to dealing with this co-worker...do a lot of listening and very little talking.
This will give you a chance to see if his frustration with you has some merit (hey...sometimes we piss people off and we don't even know it...) or if he is being unreasonably and your personalities simply don't mesh.
Unfortunately you're the newcomer in your job place, so it is your responsibility to be a little more accepting and understanding of where he is coming from.
Now granted he should never be disrespectful to you.
There are limits and even if you are NEW at work, don't allow him to overstep the line.
If this doesn't work out than try broaching the subject with him.
Tell him...hey...I really respect you as a professional but I have a feeling you might be a bit frustrated with me and I just wanted to see if there is anything that I might do to either help you in whatever you need, or at least find a way in which we will not misunderstand each other.
We all have co-workers like that, but unfortunately most of us also have to work for a living, so its not worth to argue with co-workers and make our work places even more of a stressful and unpleasant place to be in.
I was in a similar situation last year. I was the newcomer in a small firm and I had a major personality clash with an employee that had been there for at least 6 years.
While we never became friends everytime I was around her I just made sure to listen to what she had to say and be very careful with what I said. She eventually quit early this year and while I was relieved when she left, I am glad that I did not place my job in jeopardy while she was there by trying to argue back (she was very dramatic).
Good luck....
2006-10-16 01:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find that not everybody in the world is going to like you, and it's ok. Be civil, be assertive (not aggressive or passive), and relax.
I actually get a little satisfaction on the rare occasion when someone doesn't "get" me. I think it means that I'm being genuine; and not everybody is going to be on the same wavelength with me.
We have to get over being peoplepleasers who jump through hoops to make everyone love us. We need to be true to ourselves.
2006-10-16 01:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by KIT J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By being respectful and doing your job . You don't need to "CLICK" with every one ..... Unless you seem to have something for him. And then I would say don't try so hard. If he likes what he sees in the way you carry yourself . He may come to you...
2006-10-16 02:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by marshoberg55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then keep your distance and just do your job. Keep your ears open and your mouth closed.
2006-10-16 01:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by caciansf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋