2006-10-15 18:25:11 · 14 answers · asked by maverick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you will be happy for your child. it is not your life and if he accepts that child then it is his chose not yours
2006-10-15 18:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are a parent, you should know your son. If you know what kind of man your son is and know that he is a responsible man who isn't just deeply in love with this woman, but that he has also thought out the consequences, then you should trust him. But, knowing that you are a very caring parent, you should ask him to bring this woman home. See who she is in person, and don't scare her off because you won't learn anything. And if she has a child, was she married before? Or did she just make an immature mistake when she was immature and had sex before marriage. Really, it's about knowing someone. You don't want your son to get hurt, but then who wants to get hurt right? Talk with your son one on one and very gently as well. Don't try to make it seem like you don't trust him. Welcome this girl warmly, it gives the girl more room to open up and show her true colors. She may not be so bad after all :)
2006-10-16 01:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So they must of been together for a while now. Why not be happy for the both of them.
I have 4 children myself (still way to young to date) my oldest child has a different dad, and the last 3 I have with my husband now. We've been together for almost 7 years now, and because my oldest father never comes around, my husband is now the dad of my oldest and because he is the one that helped me raise my oldest before he was a year old. I know that he'll ask questions about his real dad, and when that time comes I'll tell him the truth.
It a new era and you should be happy that your son wants to be a dad to another women's child. Take the child in as your grand child. My oldest grandmother doesn't even look at his younger sibs because they aren't from the same dad and that just pissed me off. To this day I still don't talk to them.
We have since moved and my husband's foster mother has taken my oldest in as one of the family also she considers me to be part of the family, and it's great. when it comes time for my children to get married and he/she has a partner who already has a child I will be happy for them.
So what if your son wasn't the sperm donor, there are lots of men out there who run away from the child and the mother. Your son isn't one of them. Can't you see he wants to be a father,!
2006-10-16 01:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If am the parent of the man who is about to marry a girl who already have a child??????????? Honestly, i will tell my son....Why not find somebody without a child? There are so many ladies around. BUT.....on the other hand, it does not matter as long as the woman is a caring person and have good manners.
2006-10-16 01:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by rosamia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think how blessed you are about to become! Not only will you have a daughter (in-law) but a grandchild as well. Use that position of power wisely. How you accept them and treat them will influence the people they become in life (especially the child!) This child has already suffered loss in life to not be with his/her father. Show them what it means to be a family. Love them unconditionally and God will bless you for it!
2006-10-16 01:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not much, because he is already a man and adult children make up their mind on their own when they want to do something. Try to make the best of it and think of the young child's welfare. He or she is going to need lots of love.
2006-10-16 01:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she a good person? Is your only problem with her that she has a child? Unless you have a major issue with her (besides the fact that she already has a kid), then wish him luck and happiness.
2006-10-16 01:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by remmymarie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How bout " I'm going to have a daughter and a grandchild all in the same day".Just be supportive and happy for them.
2006-10-16 01:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think and say nothing, he's the one marrying her not you. Sounds like ignorance to me.
2006-10-16 01:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by JEJEMMY♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You say congratulations son. I love you.
What is your problem?
2006-10-16 01:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by robtiger2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋