Why do people do what they do?

Question

Why do people say "I need to change my life etc.etc." but never make the change? Do they just enjoy you saying you should, you can do anything you want? You're great? They do it over and over again but yet change never happens, Do they just need a phsycological boost? What's the deal? The people who make the changes in life never say they're going to they just do it. As opposed to those who always say they need to change and never do. Why?

Answer 1

It is funny but it is true. Poor human being.

Answer 2

For some situations it may be easier to make changes than it is with other situations.

Sometimes a person just has to decide to make a change, and that's it. Sometimes a person has to decide between their own happiness and, say, the wellbeing of someone else or a relationship. In this case, the potential-life-changer has to decide which sacrifice to make, and sometimes (especially for the person who really values relationships a lot).

Sometimes money stops someone. Sometimes it is other responsibilities. It could be anything. There is no way that one person can put himself inside the head/life experiences of someone else and be able to know whether the person has a legitimate reason for not making a change or whether it is some psychological issue. It can, though, be very easy to be outside of someone else's life and have an opinion of what someone should do but only know a fraction of that person's situation.

There are many reasons why a person can't. won't or isn't able to change a situation he/she wishes he/she could change. Needing a psychological boost is only one of those reasons, and it probably comprizes only a tiny percentage of people who say they're like to change their life and don't.

Answer 3

Doing something as large as changing you life is huge. Saying "I need to change my life could serve numerous purposes. It could be a ploy for attention. It could be for advice like "do others agree i need to change my life". Also, they arent nailing down anything concrete. What actually is "changing my life"? Does that mean go back to college, go the the gym, stop going out every night. the person needs to make more concrete steps, and baby ones at that. Its very hard for anyone to get started with a project when they don't see the end in sight. That's how a lot of people get depressed. If the person does small steps and is rewarded regularly along the way, change is easier. So encourage that person (if it's someone you know). Help them think about specific changes they need to make. Ask them what they want to improve upon. Then reward them for small efforts. (Hey man, i saw that you went to the gym twice this week, looks like it may be paying off!)

Good luck. Big changes come in little steps. Remember that.

Answer 4

I think the people who don't change their lives just don't have any better options. They may know that their life isn't completely what they want it to be, but what if they don't have a better idea of what to do or lack the resources to do it? And alot of people are just scared of change. Major life changes cna be very stressful. And I think that people who want a change do often talk about it first. They just need to wait for the right time when they can, but yes, some people do make major changes completely impulsively.

Answer 5

just a proof that people who are blabbermouth risk to lose everything, and the silent ones gain the success. sometimes it's more of a do rather than a try and at times we boast of what we can do, rather than what we can't, and usually failing to succeed. that's why there's such a thing as a silent promise. this way, you're more intact than you should know. that's why there is a sacred vow and secret promise, no other one knows the extent of what you intend to do. but do remember, there is always no TRY, there is only DO...

Answer 6

Hi,

I think ppl really dont like to change at all. in some situation they already feel that's their comfort zone. I think this is why actually ppl said need to change their life, but it's kind of hard. since they already like habit that really hard to change. someone who change without information, maybe they already get hard shot that in some point they decide really have to change if not really bad happen.

So, either it's said or not... changes it's really difficult but not possible if there is a will.

Cheers!!
MS

Answer 7

i think they need to pluck up the courage and just do it! i see it every day. sumone says, 'i need to do this' then they turn around and start doin sumthin else or the exact opposite. if its my friend, i take them by the shoulders, steer them toward their destination and say, 'theres no time like the present' and push them. :D im like that tho. u shouldnt just go pushin everyone who says they need to do sumthing. i think u can get arrested, but thats not the point. the point is people just need more resolve and less procrastination. yea, i think thats my point..........i dont know. i got kinda lost there. :D

Answer 8

Just read "autobiography of a Yogi" by swami Yogananda & every thing will b cristal clear2 U.