we use to have a RADDD!! sex life...... it died down a little after we had 2 boys in a row, but still good. Last year I had 2 surgeries, including a hysterectomy, and now, nothing. He's 33 and I'm 39, but we've been married for 9 years...does that make a difference? Now I want it and he doesn't, go figure. Any advice?
2006-10-15 18:17:26 · 22 answers · asked by tbtt&b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Guys are very visual. Loose weight and get in fighting shape. Long hair also helps.
It is just the way life works.
2006-10-15 18:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by An Unhappy Yahoo User 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, I've been married for almost 19 years, and I can tell you if you want to completely destroy your marriage, do what some of these morons are telling you to do and have an affair. Over our marriage, our sex life has had its ups and downs (no pun intended) like the rest of our life together. We definitely had more sex when we were younger (I'm 40, he's 45). I think I've probably wanted more sex in the past few years than he has at times, and I think the fact that women do hit their sexual peak around 40 has something to do with it. I'd try setting the mood a few nights, or maybe some morning! I don't know about you and your hubby, but we are usually both so wiped out by the end of the day, that the thought of doing anything is just too much to think about...LOL BUT...first thing in the morning is a completely different story!!! ;-) Try to jump start things on your own, or try to schedule a weekend getaway just with the 2 of you (there's nothing like a hotel room to get it going too!) I'd talk to him, but only after trying a few things on my own first. Guys tend to be REAL sensitive about sex, but you want to make sure there's nothing physically wrong as well. Best of luck to you!!!
2006-10-15 18:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. 1 thing - ask him. You can't assume you know what he's feeling. Perhaps he has a problem, or he might think you not in a position to "do it".
Perhaps you could visit your doctor together and talk to the professional regarding your problems.
Don't just do nothing and hope for the best.
Unfortunately you will also have to investigate and this is not a nice alternative, is he getting it else where? Sorry! This could be the reason he doesn't want it at home any more!
2006-10-15 18:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by shimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men Peak at about 19. Woman Peak at about 40. This is a pretty natural cycle. Usually 1~4 times a month is standard. If this is not occurnig, talk to your husband. 1/6 men develop some sort of E.D. before they are 40. He may not want to tell you that his plumbing just doesn't want to turn on.
2006-10-15 18:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviesaly Do Something Sexuall Like Lock The Doors And Set The Mood..........
And Get Naked..........
Or See A Therpist
2006-10-15 18:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 09:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by pfeifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your doctor together to rule out any physical problem. If there's none, then you should contact a marriage counselor. I am sure you the stress of the surgeries and you two little boys has something to do with it.
2006-10-15 18:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by ginger13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have a medical problem > Talk to him, but do not accuse, just let him know you miss having sex with him . Your being married for nine years should not have any bearing on his not wanting to have sex. Is he on high blood pressure medicine or is he a diabetic , having prostate problem, depressed ?
2006-10-15 18:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by RY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to find out where the spark went if it's not there anymore change it.spice it up a little bit not to much at first but you know if he likes lingerie try that first stocking,heels,thong,whip just kidding you know what im saying but if thatsnot you.you have to figure.try starting it out of the blue when your just watching tv or what ever get him in the mood & the rest will fall into place good luck
2006-10-15 18:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by VECTOR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some whip cream to bed with you tomorrow night and turn up the T.V.in your room.
2006-10-15 18:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋