I told my husband that it's better to be his mom than his wife. he denied but we are not talking at the momen

Answer 1

.....so what is the question???

Maybe he needs to grow up and maybe you push being like a mother to him. You do things so he doesn't HAVE to grow up.

Sounds like it is time for counseling

Answer 2

I understand like when you are picking up after him or something you probably feel more like his mother than his wife,but as his wife that is what wives are,picker ups,cleaning,cooking giving advice,taking care of things in general,etc....There is a saying that i was taught and that a man will marry someone with some character of his mother and that a woman will find someone with some qualities of her father in her mate as well.I don't know exactly what the issue is between you and your husband,but you are his wife,not his mother,even though you feel that way at times,but no matter what,don't let it be so severe that it causes you and your husband to not talk,to where you both can't get past this issue.I just wouldn't place myself in the shoes you are saying you are in,and no man wants to hear that his wife is comparing herself to his mother,because he could take it the wrong way like you are putting his mother down,or that you just don't have any thought for her.I mean what if he said he should be your father instead of your husband,you might take that wrong yourself.So patch this up and let this go and try to watch the words that come out from both of you,cause words do hurt.I hope you both work threw your situation and Best wishes and Good Luck to you both!Life is so short,take advantage of today,tomorrow might not come!

Answer 3

This is probably not the best way to talk out issues and hope for resolutions.

What exactly do you mean? I am a man, and would probably feel hurt and offended by your remark, even though I wouldnt necessarily understand what you were talking about. Now, maybe your husband does understand, and maybe he doesnt.


Men and women often dont speak the same language.

Even when trying to correct unacceptable behavior in animals, there are ways that work and ways that dont. I feel you have chosen the latter.

Maybe you can find a better way to communicate your wants and needs.

Answer 4

My mentor says that when two people quarrel, usually it is just their values that are quarrelling.

Your values are your priorities in life and the things that are most important to you.

If you quarrel often, you are likely to have very different values and beliefs in life.

There are a few things you can do:
- sort it out through marriage counselling, try to understand the other person's point of view and work it out with effort

- ignore and wait for it to lead you to divorce..

You can go for marriage counselling with churches or you can search online for some courses to go to. i think there are many in SG.

For a start, you might also want to read some books by John Gray under the Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus series.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Never take the lord's name in vain, but JHCrist! (the H is for Herbert). Your job is to be a wife, which is actually WAY more important for a man than being his Mother..You have insulted him and he probably can't handle it. I can only suggest that you work together as friends, leave his mom out of it, and do the tricks that wives are supposed to do: you know, the relationship stuff .He'll settle down.

Something low-cut would be advised. It always works for me. And she always wins....



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Answer 6

Sounds like some issues are on the rise. He has a mom, so if he not taking care of you like wife should be taking care of. See ya!

Answer 7

so you think he treats his mom better? you need to x plain more what is your question? men will always choose thier moms fact of life check around his belly button 2 c if he has the umbilical cord still attached then tell him either he cuts it or youll find a newbie

Answer 8

What made you feel that it is better to be your husband mum than his wife? We need more info to help you

Answer 9

Why do you think it's better to be his 'mom' than his wife? You two need to work on your intimate relationship or you'll grow farther and farther apart.

Answer 10

Well, Duh, you just cut his balls off. Why do women do this? It is because they are jealous of the mom, are not getting enough attention or sex from the husband, want to get even, etc. Any time you tell your husband that you might as well be his "MOTHER", then you are saying that you feel that way and that you are hurting his masculinity, and say you feel like his mother and he is your little boy. DUH, shut up.