i know im still in love with the person but i also know that deep down inside me, im hurting. i've never been so insecure until i met her.. she made me feel stupid, brainless and most of all worthless. she's given me lotsa material things, love is not all about material stuff.. i wanna let go but everytime she says sorry i feel like im lost again
2006-10-15 17:47:51 · 9 answers · asked by anie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should get out before it gets harder...you know the answer to this...you just have to do it...
2006-10-15 17:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by hello hello! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could have wrote this myself....many years ago...today....that same person wouldn't let me go for nothing in the world. It took time. I learned that people are different. And the way they treat people sometimes is the way they treat people. I know I wanted to die in a deep whole. At times I felt so nothing...i couldn't reconise myself in the mirror. I felt so ugly,worthless,used,a waste andnot to mention the door mat. But yeah...after a few times of getting myself together and making choices for myself....on the way to independence, that person found out, that they could treat someone else that way. Yes it hurts and you still love them. But some people needs to be told in a different way, other than words. You need to leave,,,,tell her...you can't do this any more...you are a man...and men don't let them selves get walked on...and as a women ...she shouldn't either. With her treating you this way...you feel thi sis right. There are two things that will happen
1. She and you could be done. and you could move on with your life.
2. you could stay together, but as long as she stays the same...you could be dead from depression before you know it.
2006-10-16 00:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her. Anyone who makes you feel stupid, brainless and worthless does not love you. She has insecurities and so she is trying to make you lower than she is so she'll feel smart and superior. That's no life for you. Dump her and find someone who loves you and makes you feel good about yourself.
2006-10-16 00:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello can i just say that you are your own best friend and you need to trust your feelings i think that our life on earth is short and we only get one chance at it.
if the one you love makes you feel so bad about yourself you know in your heart that this person is wrong for you, yes the hardest part is leaving and being strong enough to break free of the * i am sorry* they say we reap what we ask for so if she knows you will acept her behavior and not leave why would she change.
i am sure she loves you but you need to love yourself more to leave and get on with a happy life, there are plenty of women out there waiting to meet a loving guy
best of luck and be strong you deserve happiness:0)
2006-10-16 00:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by mum of 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW BOUT DONT BE A NEGATIVE THINKER? LOVE NEVER EXIST WITH INSECURITY. IF YOU FEEL THAT WAY THEN THATS PROLLY NOT INTIMATE LOVE DONT YAH THINK?...? TALK TO HER. TELL HER HOW SHE MAKES U FEEL. MAYBE ONE OF HER WAY OF LOVING YOU IS THROUGH MATERIAL STAFF BUT THAT DOEST MEAN SHE'S TRYING TO MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE CRAP. ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS EXPRESS HOW U FEEL. THAT A RELATIONSHIP ALL ABOUT, CONVERSATE, SHARING ITS OTHERS THOUGHT AND FEELING.
2006-10-16 01:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Melchar F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love @ first sight often culminates in disenchantment @ the second sight.
2006-10-16 00:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone that makes you feel that crappy is not right for you.
my close guy friend was in a relationship like that. but he broke up with her, and theyre still friends.
2006-10-16 00:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you tell her that you dont want meterial things? Why dont you cut yourself off from her as far as meterial things go...and tell her straight up..."We need to build our relationship better and i have an idea...." good luck!!!
2006-10-16 00:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple,leave and move on with your life.And give her back all the stuff or donate it.
2006-10-16 00:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋