I was abused horribly as a kid. I asked my friend how that experience could possibly have benefitted me and he said that when I get mad it takes me a while to lash out. For example, lets say someone hits me or talks sh!t to me. I wont immediately hit back or I might not hit back at all. Its like I have no desire to retaliate with words or fists. Whats so good about having that kind of self-control and how did 6 yrs of abuse give me that? Wouldnt a person who went through that be a person ready to attack anyone who talked sh!t to them or hit them?
2006-10-15 17:45:42 · 5 answers · asked by strengthfornow 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sometimes that moment of self control, even though you might really want to beat the crap out of somebody is good, because you can think of other ways to deal with the situation.
it seems you have learned the consiquences of anger and thats a very good thing. it means you have compassion, and the ability to look at the whole of a situation.
I wouldn't go so far as to say it benefitted you though. No one going through abuse 'benefits"from it. It seems like you might have alot of issues to work out.
good job for taking a step and coming here to talk it out. you might consider talking about it further with a professional..
much peace and happiness to you. stay strong hmm?
2006-10-15 17:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by ladyjeansntee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the nature you were born with. it is the real you. There are many people in this world who were abused as children and they all have different personalities. I know it is hard but try to put the past behind you . it would seem that you have turned out ok as a person , so just go with it and be nice. I hope you have a good life
oh by the way dont talk to people who **** you off find someone else to talk to, and why would anyone hit you??????? or am I missing something here??
2006-10-16 00:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by virginia o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably looking at it, as a good thing if he knows about your abuse, because you don't want to be like your abuser.
Noone deserves the abuse. Rememeber that. 6 years of abuse necessaryly isn't the reason you have that self control.
If you haven't sought help, or still have trouble with the thoughts about what happened when you were abused, you should seek medical help. This type of things is something a counselor could help you figure out.... for yourself.
2006-10-16 01:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by joulesofaffection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Severe abuse can easily cause PTSD. Read up on it. The reactions to PTSD can be flight or fight. You know in your heart that violence never solves anything. BTDT
It is a good thing to turn the opther cheek and avoid confrontations and violence. WWJD?
2006-10-16 00:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by purple.puppies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are using tolerance in the wrong sense, but in any case I imagine you don't feel the need to fight back maybe because in your subconscious you don't want to react in the same way that you were brought up.
2006-10-16 00:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by mojo2093@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋