It's like that, I have a girlfrien and I love her so much, but one of my ex-girlfriends sent me a message, like six months ago, I respond her telling her to not bother me (because it was going to ruin my relationship). But now I don't want any secrets between us. And I'm sure if I tell her that I've been hiding this for so long, we will certainly break up, because I feel it's too late to tell her... And I don't want this to happen... But the fact that I'm hiding something it's bothering me, when I stop to think about things, all I can think about it's that I'm not being honest with her, and this kills me...
I'm so divided...
What should I do?
2006-10-15 17:45:35 · 16 answers · asked by Frank F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I see no reason to tell her just to assuage your feelings of guilt. All you will do is perk up her ears and make her wonder about things she doesn't need to worry about. If you informed your ex you don't want anything to do with her and everything has been fine since then, and you don't intend to do anything, why bother your girlfriend with it? You don't have anything to feel guilty about.
Keep your lip zipped and enjoy the fine relationship.
2006-10-15 17:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a break, & get over it. After 6 month's if all you are guilty of is hiding the fact that you told your ex GF to take a hike because you have moved on, then you are guilty of NOTHING.
Tomorrow is a new day, & you will have newer oppourtunities to stay honest with your true love, so put the past in the past. Sure you could have handled that one thing better at the time, but you can't keep tracing back over old territory trying to correct every little mistake so that you can satisfy yourself that you have a perfect record.
So forget about it, & try to relax a little, you seem awfully tense.
2006-10-15 17:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a no brainer, you have not done anything wrong!! You told your ex that you were in a relationship and not to bother you!! so whats the problem. You can tell your girlfriend exactly what you stated here on yahoo.. Or you can tell her nothing.. You have done nothing!!! either way it doesnt matter.. If it really bothers you just tell her your ex called a few months ago and you told her to leave you alone, The reason you didnt tell her right away was because you didnt think it was a big deal.. So dont make it a big deal... good luck...
2006-10-15 17:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since you told your EX not to bother you anymore, shows how devoted you are to the relationship. You should definitely tell your girlfriend what happened. Honesty and trust is the best thing to have in your relationship. Tell her the truth, because your girlfriend will appreciate you a lot more.
2006-10-15 18:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh come on YOU are making a big deal over something in the past. I don't see WHY your current gf needst to know this.
You can't begin to tell her everything in your life. The X gf is your past and all you did was tell her to leave you alone. WHY should that be a big deal NOW?
Just let it go. totally let it go. If she does find out about it, WHY would she be mad????????
You don't have any control over the X gf, but you did tell her to leave you alone. WHATS the big deal . GEESH....if you get upset over this how will you be when something REALLY truely big happens in the future???
Time to chill and put things in perspective. Let it go. You told the X gf to leave you alone. No need to of shared that.
2006-10-15 17:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her. Let her know that there is a situaion that has you bugged. Explain that while nothing came of the brief contact you had with this other gal, you are bugged by not having told her sooner. Let her know that you do care about her, listen to her opinions on the issue and assure her that there is nothing to worry about in the future with this other gal. Honesty, even slightly delayed, is always best.
2006-10-15 17:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by L C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's really no big deal; you did the right thing when she sent you the message, so it's not really necessary to tell her. She must know there are women in your past, and you have no control over what they do. Take it easy and don't worry about it.
2006-10-15 17:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by ฿└ΛÇκ ĦΘŁỀ ŞЏП 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever lied for the sake of not hurting someone's feelings? Like telling your mom her hair looks nice when it doesn't. This is no different and don't ruin your relationship over something this silly. That's like shooting yourself in the foot.
2006-10-15 17:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, say nothing. It was 6 months ago, it's not like you cheated on her, you just where contacted, it is not even a thing. Just let it go and be honest from now on.
2006-10-15 17:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by ShockWave 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't tell her anything, "what you don't know can't hurt you", it was just a text message nothing more, forget about it...
2006-10-15 17:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋