I am 26( Look 18 ) and I have an 8 yr. old son. I find it very difficult to meet other moms b/c of my age.
We have recently moved and I feel it is impossible to get my son a play date b/c the other moms are atleast 10 yrs. older than me and look down on me. I am sure that some of my problem is insecurity, but I don't have anything in common with them and they exclude me at birthday parties and school functions. I just want to fit in so that my sons' friends at school can come over and play. And I can have a friend as well.
2006-10-15 17:35:41 · 7 answers · asked by Ron's wife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it will probably sound really silly, but did you think about what your son would like to do? getting your son more involved in sports and other activities that the school provides, such as little league, often have the parents of all the kids working on fundraisers, practice game pick up/drop off, etc. Another option might be to look into boy scouts that are in the area as they have a large amount of time where the parents and the kids all work together. My best friend is a single mom of 2 small girls and see how hard of a time she has, her oldest is 3, little one is 1, and she's only 23, so just remember you are not alone out there. Good luck, and hope that this helps you, and possibly any other single moms who read this.
2006-10-15 21:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. Are you a single mom? I am 26 and I have a 7 year old and a 5 year old and I am a single mom. I feel so out of place at school functions and class parties. I also feel excluded and yes I did recently move to where I live now too. I am living in a town of about 20,000 people and most of the people I deal with at my son's school have older children who went to school together too, some of the adults even went to school together and have been friends their entire lives. It is so hard to meet people here. I may not have a solution to your problem but I will definitely tell you that you are not alone!
2006-10-16 00:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Nicole,
I think that you have managed to answer your own question here - when you write that you look like you are 18 and these other mothers on an average are about 36 years PLUS. Don't you see, most of them probably feel that they are past their prime and stuck in the quagmire of boring housework and looking after their kids. And here enters this very young mother who could be a high school sophomore, looking so youthful and full of zest and energy ( probably very attractive too, whereas these others must be looking like old bags ).
Words like 'envy', 'resentment' and a longing for their own youth come to mind. They all probably begrudge you your youthful looks and appearance – hence, being women ( SORRY – because you are one too, I know ) resent this about you and therfore shun your company.
SO THERE IS NO REASON IN THE WORLD FOR YOU TO FEEL INSECURE ! --- GOT THAT ?!?!
As for the business of integrating into this coven of old hags, I am afraid that I am unable to come up with a viable solution. I could suggest that you start to dress dowdily like them ( as I am sure that they all do, because they couldn’t be bothered to look smart – given their present situation – whereas, you are probably a chick dresser ) and if you are lucky enough find one that looks close to your mother’s age and then try and get through to her maternal instincts, so she takes you under her wings and you can thereby find an inroad to the rest of them !
JUST A THOUGHT ! But I honestly feel very bad about all this and can ONLY WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK – with them.
2006-10-16 01:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by fun2Bwith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm 24 and have a four year old. I'm a single mom and trying to meet other moms is really tough. Most women my age that have children (that I know, at least) want to still party and be a kid, while I'm at home taking care of my daughter. I'm over that stuff, have been for many years, but for some reason it seems I'm the only one. Older women who have children seem to think I'm far too young, and it's true that we don't have many things in common, but its still hard. I don't have any advice for you, I'm sorry, but know that you're not alone.
2006-10-16 00:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-16 00:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably a combination of your inseurities and your age.
Can you try to dress a bit more mature when you are around these women. Also pay attention to what they talk about so you can eventually be part of the conversation.
Your youth and looks might be intimidating to them.
The best way to make a friend is to ask them questions about themself or child. ....
2006-10-16 00:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you and Shauna can become friends!!
2006-10-16 00:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by hello hello! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋