i need ways to get my 14 year old daugther to delete her name off of myspace?

Question

she lives with her dad so i can't do anything involving her password, but i'm concerned for her safety. she has her first and last name on there so that people can look her up. i asked her to delete it but she said she wouldnt because she wants her friends to be able to find her and add her. i told her that stalkers could find her on there too, but she doesn't care, and i've talked to her dad about this but he wont to anything about it. i am to the point where im almost about to make a fake myspace as a "stalker" to get her to delete her first and last name from there. i'm very concerned for her safety. do you think that making a fake "stalker" myspace would actually work? i have no other ideas to make her take her name off. =(
please help

to search for a name, you click search at the top where it says Home | Browse | Search | Invite | Film | Mail | Blog | Favorites | Forum | Groups | Events | Videos | Music | Comedy | Classifieds

then you type in their first and last name.

Answer 1

Have her father make her do it. Period.

This is what was once known as discipline, and somewhere along the way, some bleeding heart with a big wet one decided that CHILDREN should not be disciplined.

Well, they should.

Youre the parent. Take control of the situation.

Answer 2

Well first I would say, she's 14.....make her log in and delete it in front of you. However, I am assuming that it hasn't worked exactly like that for you.

Have you ever thought of creating your own myspace account and making her add you as a friend. That way you could at least see who she is "saying" she saves as friends, comments, bulletins, etc. Not to mention, while it isn't fool proof...you can tell her to set her profile to private so only people on her friends page can see her info.

Not saying you should appease her, but I am thinking she might just go right behind and you create another one. Get involved with her online experiences and talk to her about the dangers out there. Just talk to her about it.....heck talk to her on MySpace.

Beyond that, contact MySpace and see if you can have her removed. Either way, I wish you the best of luck with it.

Answer 3

Create an honest account and ask her to add you as a friend. This way, you'll have easier access to her other myspace friends and her blog. This will make you seem like you're joining her, but, it gives you a better way of keeping an eye on her. Other than that, you have to let her explore and since you don't have custody you can't threaten myspace or anything. Her father is the one who is legally responsible for her safety so his decision is the only one that will matter in court.

Answer 4

They have filters on myspace.com. Ask your daughter to add this filter so that no one (except her friends) can view her profile.
Ask her to edit her profile and delete all personal info. like the town she lives in.
If she doesn't comply, talk to her dad again and tell him the dangers of myspace. If he doesn't care then I would find a lawyer b/c he is not fit as a father.
One of you should have her password as well and check up on her every now and then. If she won't give it to you then I would have the site blocked. B/c she may be hiding something.
As for the fake stalker... it's not a bad idea to see her reaction to a stranger wanting to be her friend. If you do this, just make sure she can't trace it back to you. When you set up an account they ask for your name and if she is "finding a friend" and types in your name... You're caught. My suggestion is have a friend of yours do it.
My personal opinion on myspace.com is that it is and should be used by adults only b/c of the risks. I am 26 and love to catch up w/ old friends from high school that I would have never talked to again if it wasn't for myspace. Why do kids need this freedom to talk to total strangers? That what a telephone is for! Kids don't need to meet people that they don't go to school with. They have plenty of time for that later in life!

Answer 5

asking her to delete it and making a big deal out of it will just give her cause to lie to you and tell you she did it when she has not. Tell her that you don't mind her on myspace but you want her to take her name off of it for her own safty. Also, change the settings so only her friends can see her profile. If you tell her to take it off she will just become oppositional. If you come to her angry or upset she will just be oppositional. Act interested what myspace is about and ask her to give you a tour of the site. Then ask her if you can see her page and see pictures of her friends. Then calmly explain to her that it is dangerous for anyone of any age to put their name on the internet or anywhere else and that there are problems w/identity theft and a persons safety (say it in that order). Just remember, don't get made b/c as soon as your tone of voice changes she will tune you out!

Answer 6

all very good suggestions on here. I put thumbs up on them.

Here is what myspace says: (links disabled here, but go to the source)

Where do I report underage users?

Users must be at least 14 to join. According to the TOS, if a user is under 18 and misrepresenting their age, the account may be deleted. If you have sighted a user under 14 years of age on MySpace.com, please contact us with the URL or friend ID number and we will remove it.
If you are trying to remove your own child's account, please work with your child to remove the account. Once you are logged into MySpace.com, click on 'Account Settings' and then click on 'Cancel Account'. An email will be sent to the email address (the same one used as the login name) to verify Account Deletion.

If you do not receive the confirmation email, please remove all content from your child's profile, and enter in the text 'Remove Profile' in the 'About Me'. This lets us know that you have taken control of your child's account. Please alert us with the URL to the profile in question, and we can remove the profile for you.

my additional notes:
I love the add to friends Idea.
Also, if you have the name then they know her, but on the space itself it does not have her first and last name posted for all the world to see unless it's in a blog or on the main page. If you see it listed on the site, I believe that is an automatic violation of the terms of service and you can have it removed.

doing all this though will not prevent her from creating a new email address to start a new myspace site.

Do the parent control settings so they have to know their email address or last name before they can be added to someones friends, and no one can view the site unless they are a friend.

PS spell checking isn't working right now. sorry if there are errors.

Answer 7

The parents can go to jail. with their son for actively participating in the rape of the child. No one can consent to being the victim of a crime, the contract is invalid by it's nature. A 14 year old is not able to give consent, in most states. It doesn 't matter what paper is signed. In fact, a minor isn't legally capable of signing such a document in any case regardless of the sexual age of consent. So all three can go to jail. Report it all to the police. It's disgusting. And bring a copy of the document with you as proof of the conspiracy to commit rape. Gazza, what on earth makes you think that it's okay to rape a child if they are visiting from another country? What kind of logic is that? It's crime. It doesn't matter where the victim is from.

Answer 8

You should try the "fake stalker" idea that way it might scare her to the point where she might do what you want her to do. From what you are saying it looks like the only way that might work is for her to get scared. You can also try to talk to Tom the creater of myspace and maybe he can do something to help you. If you can get her e-mail or password then you can do that yourself and I don't think that she will know that you did that. Good luck.

Answer 9

Both my boys have a My Space account. I let them have their privacy but I check it all the time. I have their password. Its a requirement for me. If they don't want to give me their password I'll cancel their account.All ya gotta do is contact My Space. They will walk you thru how to delete her account. Why don't you just monitor her My Space account? You can. Just get your own My Space account and have her make you a buddy on her list. That way you can see who it is exactly she is talking to and who is trying to contact her. She is the one who decides who her friends(buddies) are. If you don't care for this person or that one have her delete them from her buddy list. If you have your own account its a great way to keep updated on her likes and dislikes.

I tried to make it hard on my kids but when I finally got on My Space and figured it out... I like the insight it gives me about my kids. You might be pleasantly surprised. If you don't know how to start a My Space account just go to the web site and it'll walk you Thur it.
I don't suggest being a fake stalker. Try talking to her and do familiarize yourself with My Space. Good luck.

Answer 10

i don't want to discourage you, but more than likely she is going to do what she wants. i say this, because you have already told her to stop, but she still disobeys you. the fake stalker idea might work. try it and see. why don't you ask her to search for her friends instead of having them search for her? also, she can make her profile private, so that might eliminate any (if any at all) sickos. but there is not much you can do unless you have her password. otherwise, it's a lost battle. good luck:)