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Please do not believe those individuals answering who are assuming way too much about you. The simple reason it is so hard for a single person to succeed on their own in the workplace is because ... surprise, it actually isn't harder.

Sometimes it's actually easier to be single and succeed in the workplace because you have more time to focus on your career. I know that for many married people and in particular married women with children, it is more difficult to succeed in the workplace because of the extreme multitasking of family and work.

However, I think sometimes for men it might be easier to succeed if they are married because they have more of a drive to provide for their family. While a single person has more time to focus on their career, the incentive to succeed may not be there.

2006-10-15 18:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Vianka 4 · 1 1

At the start of a new job you hope that your co-workers will become a second family. At the very least, you certainly expect that they will like you and not tease you. And you undoubtedly hope that they won't talk behind your back or criticize you in front of supervisors. While you may dream of a workplace utopia, a perfect working environment rarely exists.

During your career you will undoubtedly come into contact with co-workers who go for the jugular. While sometimes they will retaliate for something you inadvertently said or did, other times there will be no reason for their war against you beyond their own jealousy or ego.

So what should you do if you have an enemy in your ranks? Before you turn the other cheek or prepare to do battle, try these 10 helpful steps:

1. Rethink the situation. Did you do something to warrant their attack? If so, admit your mistake and apologize in private.

2. Laugh away a public insult with a non-defensive retort. Avoid overreacting to a public attackÑa calm response may help diffuse the situation.

3. If you are confronted during a meeting, defend yourself in a composed manner. Stand up for whatever action, idea or program is being attacked. Answer any questions and offer to explain your side of the situation further to anyone who has further questions after the meeting.

4. Kill your nemesis with kindness. Do him or her an enormous favor to upset the scales. For example, you can back up one of his or her suggestions to your department head or supervisor.

5. Get to know your adversary. Find out how he or she got their job, who their mentors are, where they worked before, and what their goals and motives are. Just showing an interest can sometimes help to mend fences. And if it doesnÕt improve the situation, knowing everything you can about your enemy can still be helpful. Knowledge is power.

6. Build up your own troops to outnumber your enemy's. Make sure that top administrators and physicians are included in your campÑnumbers count.

7. Stand up for yourself. If you tend to have a passive personality, do the unexpected and confront your opponent. Remember, if you give respect you should expect respect.

8. Continue to work hard. Even if you're having difficulties with your co-workers, it is extremely important that you maintain professionalism and continue to produce great work. DonÕt be afraid to contribute new ideas and donÕt be modest about sharing your accomplishments with supervisors.

9. Get rid of them. If you canÕt work it out with your co-worker, maybe you should start looking for a new jobÑfor them! Keeps your eyes and ears open; maybe you will hear of a perfect position for them at another facility. You can also recommend your foe for a promotion or lateral move to another department.

10. Develop your own networks and participate in professional associations. Do more than just joinÑget active and form relationships with your colleagues. If all else fails, find a new position where you are respected.

2006-10-16 01:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by JFAD 5 · 1 0

I don't think it's hard, it depends, if you work for yourself it's even harder, but as always, you make the best out of every situation and it takes a lot of discipline, organizational skills, willingness to get somewhere and a lot of self confidence, marital status has absolutely nothing to do with being successful. It's actually easier for a single person to be successful than a married one. Common sense, you don't have any other commitments, years ago when I'd go on job interviews that was one of the first things I'd point out to an employer, I have no commitments I am not married nor have children and would be very committed to my job. And they would write it down, and I was hired.

2006-10-16 01:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0 0

Single people are usually deemed as selfish, especially if you are single and childless by choice. A lot of times an employer will assume you are flighty and are not able to make a commitment if you are single. Which is usually the exact opposite. Been there done that.

2006-10-16 00:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 1 0

The picture you have displayed as yourselves talks volumes about you.I understand perfectly well how you became a single person.
Work place or else where, any human being worth his or her name,should have some self worthiness.You only live once.Why should you have to willingly allow others to sit on you and dispose their waste.If you are not taking drastic steps to take self correction measures,you really had it.Everyone,I mean every single person you meet in your journey of life will turn out to be your foes and you will always be waging battles against them and losing every single one of them.In fact,the real battle will be within you,against the real you,which can be a very kind,loving,intelligent person.But somewhere along the road you have turned out to be like this,most probably your childhood experiences have contributed.Go take professional help, it will help I assure you. And a word of advise,remain single for the time being now.You are in no mental state to lead a married life.

2006-10-16 00:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by onnoonni 2 · 2 1

commitment

2006-10-16 00:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by sitrawoodglobal 2 · 0 0

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