Have I became a lesbian?

Question

I'm going crazy!!!! I have been a straight person my entire life. Never even thought of being with another woman but have recently met someone that I am crazy about. I was attracted to her the very first time I saw her. We enjoy each other's company and I am so happy/giddy when I'm with her. We have "made out" a few times and it just seems so natural but in the back of my mind I feel like it should not feel this "right". I'm sooooo confused. I'm not a little girl and I don't think this is " a phase" but I also would not consider myself a lesbian. I'm not attracted to other women. Could it be true that you really fall in love with a "person" , not a sexual preference? Please some advice and words of encouragement!

BTW Tennis Star, I am NOT a teenager! 38 and counting!!!!!

Answer 1

then your bi-curious.
get over it okay.
smile,
=D

Answer 2

You simply can't choose the people you fall for. It just so happens that that person right now is a female. This strongly suggests that you're a lesbian, or a bi, at the very least. Your strong feelings and convictions that you're not a lesbian are common feelings of denial. This is simply because you're not used to this feeling. Cheer up! I could be wrong, you know. You could be just on the lookout for something new. But I wouldn't rule out the giddy feelings you have for this woman. I've never felt that way for a man, no matter how many boyfriends I've had before accepting the fact that I'm a lesbian. And, in between those "straight" relationships, I've had liaisons with girls. All of which had me feeling giddy. Best of luck!

Answer 3

If sex is great and born of very deep desire, then you probably found out that you are bisexual. Only time and honest self reflection will tell if you've always been gay. How you identify is just a label, and yes it is possible to romantically love a person regardless of gender - for straight ppl that person is always of the opposite sex, for lesbians it's always another woman, for bisexual ppl it really just depends on the person. Personally, I believe that most ppl are some shade of bi. I can love some men and not be repulsed by sex, but ha, that's not the same as desiring them physically. It's an emotional attachment called friendship. I didn't realize as much until I fell for a women and let myself just be who I am. Enjoy your happiness. It really doesn't matter what your orientation is.

Answer 4

This is the same situation I found myself in a few years ago. I have been married twice, I was married to my second husband 13 years. I fell in love with a woman, and we have been together, happily ever since. I am 37 years old.

At first, I didn't call myself a lesbian either, but once you are more comfortable with what's going on, you will accept it and say it proudly.

Looking back, I can see I had signs in my lifetime that I was gay, I chose to ignore them. I though everyone had the same thoughts as me.

I "switched teams" and I have never been so happy, it has changed everything. I could never go back to dating men. I know this is right, and how I am meant to be.

Enjoy your new relationship, if it feels right - it is. Congratulations!

Answer 5

Every time the issue of sexual orientation is studied scientifically, they come to the same conclusion. Almost no-one is exclusively straight or exclusively gay. The overwhelming majority lie in the gray area between, mostly prefering one gender, but occasionally attracted to the other.

My point is, you are not alone. An incredible number of people have had these exact same feelings. All you need to consider is how you, personally, feel. If it feels right, then it is. Don't let the hang-ups of others cheat you of a good thing.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I've been falling in love with people and not their genitalia since puberty. I do not consider myself a Lesbian, I am bisexual. However I am female identified and in a long term committed same gender relationship, which will be the last one in my life. I am done with men.

Its possible you will never find another woman who does it for you like this one. This relationship could end and you might not ever be attracted to another woman again. I'd cross that bridge when you come to it and continue to grow this relationship and see what happens.

Good luck to both of you.

Answer 7

This is what happened to myself. I had an inkling of liking girls but never knew it until i met my girlfriend. I was/am crazy about her and I love her for the person she is not the looks she has. I used to joke around and say that if I had found a version of her in a guy then I 'd still be straight hehe.

I think the fact that you say that it feels so natural is an indication that she could be the one for you. I had boyfriends and it never felt natural to me. My head kept telling me it wasn't natural to be with a girl but in all honesty, you have to follow your heart and feelings in this instance, not your head.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

I always look at the person and not the parts. You may have just found "the right woman." Sexuality isn't always so clear-cut for most people anymore. If you and her both enjoy the relationship and there isn't anything negative going on, like domestic violence, just enjoy what you have and don't worry about trying to label yourself.

Answer 9

Love has no limits. I don't believe in love labels, like "lesbian" "gay" or straight. it can find anyone. i like the opposite sex right now, but its possible that i could like a woman and no others. just the way it works, sorta like life, because you never know when it starts, how it starts when it ends, how it ends, if it ever will end, or if its more than an illusion. try not to think about what others think, try not to think of labels and so much logic. just go with flow.

Answer 10

It is possible to just fall in love with someone for their personality and not care about gender. I myself grew up being straight, and until about two years ago, had never really heard anything about lesbians/bisexuals. Then I met my current girlfriend, and I fell madly in love with her. I also found myself having little crushes on a couple of my closest friends, who happened to be girls. So it's perfectly natural to like someone. I think you should listen to your heart, not your head.

Best of luck to you!!!

Answer 11

Heck, I have wondered the same thing about myself, and I am certainly no spring chicken. Is homosexuality all about sex? I don't think so. You love who you love and anyway who says love is about sex? I have female friends who are easy to fall in love with,but sex never entered my mind. Isn't is nice just to love someone just for loves sake without sex entering into it?
I know this is no answer, but hope it helps. If it turns out you are a lesbian and you are happy and aren't hurting anyone...go for it