my husband and i have seperated and recently started trying to work things out. my son is taking it really hard and wants to stay with his dad but i have changed him to three different schools in just the few monthes that school has started and i'm afraid all the moving around is'nt healthy for him.
2006-10-15 16:39:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to your husband and both of you put your feelings aside. Then discuss what is in the best interest of your son and show your son that even though mom and dad have some issues right now, he is the one that you both want to focus on helping through the situation. Structure, Love,and Attention are the things that he needs the most right now.Good Luck.
2006-10-15 19:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by nutyfrog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A stable situation is always better on the child of course. If youre trying very hard to make a stable home for you and your son...your intentions are admirable and I hope you do that soon. However, if you dont foresee such a thing happening after an appropriate amount of time...you may want him with his father. Just remember if you do this that you have something very clear in your legal documents about retaining or regaining custody after a certain amount of time. It's very foggy on the part of the courts that once a woman does this that she'll get a bad 'stigma' attached to her and you may have difficulties getting him back.
Just think of whats best for your child, dear and realize that you may have little visitation the rest of his childhood. It's just a fact.
2006-10-15 16:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
changing schools is the least of his problem. I had 3 kids and they all wanted to go and live with their dad. They thought it would be better. After they got there they relized the good old dad ruteen stopped and there were ground rules at dads now. They all came back about 1-2 years. I think just about every kid at some time wants to go live with the other parent. Just let him know he has to stay for at least a year, no going back and forth. They try that too. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-15 16:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by azgrmadonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are pretty resilient and if he's okay to change schools than you should be okay with it. It will make him strong in the future to accept change easily. It's a good trait, less stressful. As for him living with dad, I know the thought of it is hard to imagine because as mom's we have a strong bond with our children, but it would show your great character to him that you are not selfish and you listen to what he needs. He needs to have a good relationship with both parents. If his dad is trustworthy and loves his son it will be good for him. Think carefully because if you say no because it's not what you want, he might be angry at you later for it. Think of what's best for your son and if you do that, you'll never make the wrong decision. Good luck.
2006-10-15 16:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Phoebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not truly believe the position children are in touch, there might want to EVER be ANY element alongside with a "lengthy distance" marriage. you're both mutually faster or later in time or you're literally not. once a month/vacation trips/particular activities hardly constitutes a wedding ceremony of well worth at the same time as it includes parenting (yet on my own? between a guy and a woman "in love"). heavily, what replaced into the point of having children once you're going to stay this way? particularly selfish i imagine. A 4 year old in my opinion is a concepts too youthful to be shuffled off to Dad to stay...do not you already comprehend how a lot nurturing they prefer and interest? heavily? Is your husband in a position to attempt this operating fulltime? Few adult males are... I somewhat have a particular idea: Why do not both of you concentration in the subsequent year on transforming into ONE AS IN a authentic MARRIAGE...the position you somewhat stay mutually as guy and spouse, moms and dads. it is the position your concentration might want to be right this moment - era. the variety of relationship you've right this moment, if it doesn't wither and die in the subsequent decade or a lot less, i might want to be amazing shocked. i comprehend one element is definite: this is awful on your children - era. Grace
2016-12-04 21:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are tough decisions, but if your son is going to be happy with his dad that might have a domino effect with school. The alternative is that he stays with you and the same school and not be happy at either place.
Just my thoughts.
2006-10-15 16:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is old enough he can choose whichever parent he wants to live with. However that could mean that YOU would have to pay child support. Are you financially prepared for that?
2006-10-15 17:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say let him live with his dad. If you keep changing schools he is going to get mad( i speak of personaly expierence) if you don't let him live with his dad, and keep changing schools, its going to affect his grades. im not saying let him live with his dad ALWAYS. but let him change houses somtimes
2006-10-15 16:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋