My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We plan to get married soon but there is one problem that hasn't been resolved. His last name is Skelton and for some reason I think it sounds terrible. I could keep my last name but then it makes a whole issue with our children. Also I want my family to to united with one last name. I really do not like his last name at all, but I wonder if I am being too superficial. Then I think about combining our last names but isn't that just a hassle through the courts. Please give me any suggestions or let me know if I should just give it up and become a Skelton.
2006-10-15 16:32:03 · 14 answers · asked by JessyH 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My last name is Hammond. One reason I am concerned is I am going to school to become a teacher, so the idea of being called Mrs. Skelton kinda bothers me.
2006-10-15 16:47:40 · update #1
Don't take his name if you don't like it, it's just not that big of a deal anymore. No one will ask you questions. You'll have to decide what to do about kids, but that is really another issue. I personally wouldn't have taken my husband's name if I didn't like it. As it happened I liked his last name better than my maiden name so I was relieved to change it. But one of his sisters got married and changed from a perfectly nice last name to "Swogger", which I personally think is a really ugly name and would have never changed my name to if I was in her situation.
2006-10-15 18:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by blueseptembers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds superficial to me. Traditionally yes you would take his last name. But now a days especially in celebraties women are getting married and keeping their last names. Usually for profesional reasons. Some men are not against taking the wifes last name instead. I have 2 brothers so if i don't keep my last name it's not like the name will die out. Whats your last name? Have you considered hyphenating the 2 names?
2006-10-15 16:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by webwriter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely take his name. Think about how many times you would have to explain why your last name was different from his. The issue would never go away, not to mention how hurt his whole family would be if they found out how you feel about "their" name. It's not worth the suffering.
2006-10-15 16:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Michael D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 11:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Names sometimes suck, but for the sake of saving your kids stress, just take his name, I feel that if you are gonna marry him, its part of the territory. As far as hiphenating, unless you are famous and have made millions off of you name, don't do it! You don't have to like the name, but over time, you will get used to it, especcially when you have a family together! You don't want people wondering whats up wiht little johnny's parents, are they divorced, are they just living together, blah blah blah, long story short, people will wonder, just take his name!
2006-10-15 16:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell, I think that is damn kool last name, and also for a first name. I wish I had a last name like that one. I want to marry him just for his last name.
2006-10-15 16:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to take his last name then don't. There is no law in the U.S. that says a wife has to take her husbands last name. If you want to retain your last name you are free to do so.
2006-10-15 17:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T take the name if you don't like it!!!
I kept my maiden name for 12 years because I hated his name but then we had our daughter and I had a temporary moment of insanity and legally changed my name to his and my daughter's and I HAVE REGRETTED IT EVER SINCE!! I still go by my name and I cringe when I get mail with his last name. (Henry) GAG!
2006-10-15 17:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My maiden name was "Andrews" so when I met my husband I was iffy abouth is last name too. But I took his last name because a last name is just a name- doesn't define me or anything. My last name is now "Jungers". Good luck!
2006-10-15 16:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems to me that you have already made your decision because of the kids, it's not weird these days to have different last names but i think that if you love him enough to marry him then that love should be enough for you to want to have his last name with pride....good luck
2006-10-15 16:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋