WOMAN OR MEN OUT THERE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE THAT IS DEPLOYED, DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH YOU SPOUSE BEING UPSET AND UNABLE TO TELL YOU WHAT'S WRONG? HOW DOES THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?
2006-10-15 16:17:11 · 7 answers · asked by Jana M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have no idea how you feel, but I truly hate to hear what you're going through. I hope you can see your man soon. Sit down and write letters. If you don't mail them they can be read later when he returns home. And it's always good therapy to get your feelings out on paper.
2006-10-15 16:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing his MOS it would be hard to say if he does travel a lot, but if I were to take a guess at it, there are plenty of jobs in the Army that require a lot of movement (especially if he's an officer). As far as the relationship goes, its very difficult to date a service member. That being said, if you decide you love him enough, then I would say stick it out. Evaluate the relationship. If you really think it will lead somewhere substantial or in a direction you want it to go, then it will be well worth the wait. What I always say (from the opposite side, I'm the service member) is this: The time spent apart is just a chapter in a book. Its like reading one of those crappy chapters that you just want to get through to read the rest of the book. But once you pass that chapter, the rest of the book was great and worth the work. So you have to decide if you want to read the rest of the book, basically, if you want to work through the hard parts. Its not easy, really. I know how difficult it can be to be away from those you love. As far as home time, if he lives far from you, chances are he will be able to come home for 2 weeks twice a year and also four day weekends if he can work it. I really think this is something you should discuss with him, though. He'll be able to give you a better idea of what to expect in the future.
2016-05-22 05:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you.. I truly know how you feel... My husband is in Iraq right now.. And from time to time he just don't seem like his self.. But if it's one thing that we know is that there jobs are a big bowl of confusion that there trying so hard to iron out... If he don't want to share something with you.. Then that's a good things cause somethings are better left unsaid, I'm sure him being away he knows you stress enough.. Especially when you know that the love of your life is in harms way....
don't stress yourself out... The atmosphere that he's in is chaotic.. If you was there your attitude will be messed up to....Don't take it personal..
Just let him say, what he wants to say without trying to pry it out of him... If he tells you cool.. If not then that's cool to.....
Just remember that it's not toward you... When he's down try to be the brighter side to the things that seem so dark to him....
You can do it.. Being with a military man takes a women of good strength, self- motivation and a lot of endearment mentally(cause the taught will kill you) and physically( sexless for months).. But it can be done.... Just hang in there..
I wish you the best and good luck..
Pray. And everything will be OK.............
2006-10-18 16:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a military brat, both parents, and in ROTC will be an officer in about a year. From watching my family relations, sometimes it is hard to talk about what is happening, because you dont know how to deal with it yourself. Also you are his lifeline in the "real" world he may want to forget about what happened and concentrate on what you are telling him and what is normal. Be paitent, when he is ready and able he will talk, but he is male which always makes it harder for them to admit weakness, fear or depression. Be supportive and he will open up eventually. good luck, I know its hard.
2006-10-15 16:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a sexual relationship with this soldier, then get married before he gets deployed overseas. Otherwise, you risk two real problems: Becoming pregnant and loosing him to hostile fire. He would not want his baby to grow up illegitimately. Think about it. It's happening everyday to couples whose service man is deployed to Iraq.
2006-10-15 16:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure your frustrated!!
you need to talk , chat or e-mail your feelings better!!
Tell him that the communication needs to improve!!
2006-10-15 16:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there and support them nomatter what and it is stressful for them, and the only to helpful to them is be there and don't judge them about what they say
2006-10-15 16:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋