am i Insecure?

Question

sometime i think i'm pretty and people don't always see that because of my actions. can it be possible that if i feel ugly people start to think the same about me because of the way i act. i see people that don't look better than me get treated different because they have have confidence. can you please tell me why?

Answer 1

don't worry so much about your looks . . .

focus on your interests and focus on being authentic, honest, and caring in your relationships.

the rest will sort itself out in time.

Answer 2

Did you ever think that maybe you feel insecure because if you are pretty there are a lot of jealous people out there who want to make you feel that way! I can relate as a teenager I always was treated differently by peers..girls of course, so I started to feel as though I really was nobody special. I felt as if everyone else was better than me..I know what u mean it seems like the ones that are not so good looking tend to be the ones that seem more outgoing..I am still trying to figure that out myself and i am in my forties..lol but anyways keep your head up high and stop trusting women and start trusting men...they are the ones who will treat you for how u look and you will notice they will not treat the so unfortunate ones that aren't as nice looking the way you will be treated...it will boost your self esteem because most women are jealous i happen to be lucky and always give compliments where they are needed.

Answer 3

Pretty and ugly are irrelevant to those who see the whole person. I was moved recently by a very pretty woman I met on a trip. She was single,gorgeous, in her 30s and alone. She totally relied on her looks for companionship and neglected any other aspect of her self. All the guys on the trip found her alluring but immediately described her in two words..."high-maintenance". She was shallow, self serving, and eventually obnoxious. Sad...iif she had any kind of grace, compassion, sense of service or even elegance, she could have found happiness. The best she will will find is a relationship as a trophy wife. She seemed too stupid to succeed on her own.

Most people have choices...what will yours be?

Answer 4

So much of what we perceive is beautiful is in our own eyes. I agree that if you do something "ugly" you can appear ugly. Nobody wants to date an unreasonable woman, and that's putting it nicely. Confidence makes up for a lot of other things as well. I have a lot of trouble getting dates, but I haven't forgotten about a man I saw in a drug store hitting on one of the checkout girls. From his face it appeared that he was in a terrible fire, but he had the confidence to ask this girl out anyways.

Answer 5

i'm goin to say this its a difference to believe you are average looking when other people say you are so pretty because it shows you have confidence, not stuck on yourself, and not being insecure.

but when you are pretty and you give ppl the impression that you believe you are not pretty then that give ppl (who's appearances aren't as good looking as yours) acess to tare you down.

So its not that you are really being insecure its just bc you are giving them the okay to treat you like they are treating.

but don't start being stuck up just have a little more confidence Lady.

Answer 6

The most important thing is what you feel about you, I you like how you look. Maybe people treat you like that because of the way you act or talk, it is a problem of behavior

Answer 7

I believe that true beauty comes from the inside. No matter how good looking someone might be on the outside, if they are a mean person or uncaring, that is the quality most people will see in them.

Like one of the other folks who responded to your question said -- just be yourself and be happy doing it. :-)

Answer 8

You answered your own question..people with confidence are treated with repect, but they give respect too. look people in the eye, be polite and give a firm handshake. it a cliche, but pretty is as pretty does.

Answer 9

I've been told that it's all about the attitude. Always walk in like you own the place. Some days are harder than others, but it works.

Answer 10

You answered your question. Yes. Don't dwell only on the exterior. Do some interior work on yourself. What do admire in others? Try to create that in yourself. Good Luck.